Next Year, I will be 18 years old, and my mom still treats me like i'm 10. I've been driving over a year, and I make good grades in school and plan on going to college.
But when it comes to simple things, my mom wont let me go through with it. For example, yesterday I wanted to go to a haunted house with about 8-10 of my friends. We are all the same age, and 4 of us were going to drive so the cars wouldnt be jam packed. The haunted house is about 25 minutes away from where we live, and theres no way we could get lost because I have a GPS. After I got all my information, I called her to tell her whats up, and I couldnt even start because she said no. She said I'm not about to drive way out there (which is bull becuase I used to work at an amusement park half an hour away from home) and she said thats the end of it. Everyone else could go, except me, and I'm OLDER than everyone.
I just want to know how I can talk to her about putting down boundaries and she'll actually LISTEN to me
2007-10-14 08:39:34 · 5 answers · asked by Déjà Vu 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Also, she wont teach me how to do anything. She tries to avoid it, and when I go behind her back and do it anyway, she'll get angry but be happy that i Finally learned how to do it...
2007-10-14 08:42:24 · update #1
hmmm, i sort of had that problem. i think i noticed it when i was like...16. i wanted to do things, but they(fam) wouldn't let me. So, i started to slowly do things with the knowing it,....nuthing crazy though. And like u said, when u know sumthing or how to do somthing, they are happy.
i didn't talk to her about it, i just went and did it. i figured i'm not gonna learn anything by sitting around, so i'd go out, and be with my friends. i wasn't donig anything bad, i got good grades, i was graduating h.s., i was going to college, there was no reason why i shouldn't be able to go out with my friends. she's not going to listen, honestly. mind didn't. thats why i did my own thing.....but i did it slowly, and when i turned 18, i continued to do things slowly, then i guess u can say, i took off. i'm an adult, so i don't need permission to do things, so i started to act and behave like an adult. she just has to accept it.
2007-10-14 08:56:31 · answer #1 · answered by cherryblossoms 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have got an older female family member or pal who probably competent to aid you with this? Maybe your aunt? Grandma? A pal's Mom? You want a few aid with this, and the sort of women probably competent to aid you. It seems like Mom just isn't competent to help you develop up but, however the factor is, you're developing up, and also you do have to be competent to do those matters for your self. If you do not consider that you'll be able to speak to her approximately this and make her comprehend, ask anybody to step in and feature a talk with Mom. You must be competent to wash your self and handle every other private care in your possess through now. It's so difficult to look your youngsters develop up and difference. They are tiny and helpless for one of these little while, after which immediately they're going for walks and speaking and rancid to university with their peers, after which all of a sudden they're teenagers and getting competent to begin their possess households.... It turns out like many years to you, however to Mom, it is similar to a couple of mins, and she or he needs to maintain you as her "child" so long as she will. The hindrance is, you don't seem to be a child to any extent further, and also you have to be competent to be unbiased and make your possess offerings. Maybe your Aunt who is getting married can aid you choose out a get dressed for her marriage ceremony for you to each are compatible you correctly and appear like some thing a tender woman your age could put on. Or do you feel certainly one of your peers' Moms might aid you with this? Can you get a keep of a few magazines that experience snap shots of present models that you just might exhibit Mom in order that she will see what you're watching for? Good good fortune!
2016-09-05 08:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you and your mom need to have a serious talk. You seem like an independent person that when you want something done, you go do it. And if it comes down to your mom not teaching you how to do things, then just let her know that at some point you're gonna learn how to fend for yourself and live on your own when you're mom's not always gonna be there. The important thing for your mom to know is how you feel and what you both can do to have comprise when it comes to you doing certiain things or going places with your friends. Let her know that you want to be able to come and talk to her for certain things and if you guys can't see eye to eye then you're gonna have to agree to disagree.
Her little girl is growing up and she's gonna have to accept that
JMHO
good luck!
2007-10-14 08:58:52 · answer #3 · answered by Gemini 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She isn't keeping you from growing up, she is trying to protect you from some of the hazards of life, which a parent is suppose to do. If you want to learn something, go learn it. No one can stop you but you. Ask for direction to learn some things that you will need when going to college, and explain that you have to learn this in order to survive the everyday events that go on.
2007-10-14 09:15:35 · answer #4 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
. Boys at your age have this problem more often than girls.Somehow it seems that all mothers resent their sons maturity and do everything they can to keep them 'babies' even though they vehemently deny it. However at about the same age mothers start thinking about suitable sons in laws to marry their daughters and again they deny it to the bitter end.I'm sorry to say but there is no simple concrete answer to your question.
2007-10-14 09:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋