My fiances 11 yr. old son stole several of my 16 yr old daughters underwear and bras and had them hidden in an attic crawl space. I am very disturbed by this behavior. What do you all think?
2007-10-14 08:10:55 · 12 answers · asked by 1spencersgirl 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
His father did talk to him about him not taking her stuff. He said he did it because he likes her and thinks she is cute.(which in my mind makes it more of a sexual thing than a humor/anger thing) I am very angry that he did nothing else. He talked to him about one minute and that was that, no talking with my daughter about how she felt no apology nothing!! I understand that he is going to go through stages of curiosity. This is not the first time he has been "talked" to for going into my girls bedrooms. I don't know, my kids respect each others stuff and this is just new to me I guess. Plus it being her under clothes just makes me a little weirded out.Maybe I am just over reacting because it is not my child.The night before this happened his father found that he had been trying to check out porn on the computer! I have two boys (14 & 18)also and they did their curiosity stuff but not stealing underwear! Or even stealing
2007-10-15 01:50:46 · update #1
He is going through puberty and is confused. He isn't a perv, just a young boy who needs some open communication with his father. and needs his father to be a good role model with high morals
2007-10-14 08:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Emily 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Girl, this is a delicate issue. His father needs to talk to him "man to man" and let him know that this behavior is NOT ok, and that his soon-to-be sister's undergarments (and all of her things) are off limits to him. Is it possible he's getting back at her for something she did or said to him? He needs to understand that his behavior is inappropriate, and the biggest question of all needs to be asked: Why?
If there is some tension between them they both need understand the best resolution to their issues is to bring them to the attention of you parents instead of taking it out on each other.
2007-10-14 08:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by qi_luv 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it relatively is thrilling. Do you generally use NO! with your daughter? in case you do the will arises to end doing that because it must be appearing as a favorable reenforcement mechanism for the habit. in case you do no longer what you may could desire to do is to enforce behavioral training. (to place it in scientific techniques) while she makes a request and then is going returned on it, think of of a few common punishment to end the habit. i might propose no longer allowing her to do some thing for 30 minutes, whether she wasn't doing it. working example. say no television for 30 minutes. A 4 365 days previous needs what they are in a position to't have, so once you are attempting this it is going to ultimately get to them that that's unacceptable habit, and could end. you will possibly be imaginitive yet think of of a few sort of punishment for while she does the habit. you may additionally circulate any different way and reward her while she makes a request and surely is going by way of with this, yet she could capture on and commence making requests in common terms for the advantages. in case you attempt this out and it works be at liberty to e mail me, i might like to appreciate if it works out for you. good success!
2016-10-06 22:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by keva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is curious and needs "the talk" to help him know limits and responsiblity with the curiosity...Your daughter needs and deserves privacy. Your son needs guidance and a very careful and non-shaming chat. Good luck with this
2007-10-14 08:56:23 · answer #4 · answered by just duky 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's going through puberty, it's normal
He does need to have some open communication with figures such as a father though
Normal to have the urges, but to actually do it is something else.
2007-10-14 08:20:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think this boy needs help! This is just the beginning of worse things to come if something isn't done about it now. This is not normal behaviour. Have you spoken to your fiance about this?
2007-10-14 09:04:00 · answer #6 · answered by themakeupdivas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's 11... He probably thought he was being funny.
2007-10-14 08:14:55 · answer #7 · answered by Crypt 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You need to tell him that it is not funny and not appropriate.
2007-10-14 08:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by xchasingsummerx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he might have a fetish. He should see a child psychologist.
2007-10-14 08:14:38 · answer #9 · answered by peaches6 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He sooo needs help.
2007-10-14 08:27:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋