so heres the deal im 16....and a lot calmer now since it has been 3 days something happened between me and my boyfriend of about 5 years that shud not have happened im leaving him either way but i just cant believe i trusted him to this extent....what bugs me right now is im very lost we were "trying" to have sex since we are both virgins and he put his penis in me and exclaimed that i t was too hard and he could not go all the way in so only about half of his penis was in me and was "trying to penetrate" and before we knew it he ejaculated and when he took his penis out the condom was off then i found it just inside of me and i took it out and i was wet but im not sure if it was him or me? i took 4 bc pills however im not on birth control we are bohth very scared and i cant handle this right now i will never ever let anything get the best of me again but i cannot tell my parents or friends either because im from a very respescted family and have values please help me?
2007-10-14 07:59:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Even well-respected families confront human dilemmas everyday; I know this because I, too am from a well-respected family...I've been a teenager, and now I am a father. And if you had talked to your parents they might've spared you a lot of the angst you're going through now as well as the potentially harmful tactic of consuming a megadose of hormones trying to avert a possible pregnancy. The fear and panic you're experiencing are normal, but I promise you this is not the "mistake of your life"...the challenges get bigger and the stakes greater as you age, but this was significant because you now know what can happen if you're not extremely careful (YOU get to decide what being careful means). The thing is, I'm not sure you've actually processed the biggest lesson available to you through this event. That lesson is, when things happen to you don't try to solve them alone or in silence. Your parents represent a combined experience base at your disposal, and they would like nothing more than to help you through these types of things so that your future remains bright and on track and so you can stay healthy. That's what parents do. And, they love you, so trust the love and give them a chance. There are still some medical things that need to be addressed to ensure that you are in good health, and your parents will know most (if not all) of them, or they'll know where to go to get the right answers. (But don't ever double up on birth control pills again...you can't be sure of their reactivity with your system, and these weren't prescribed to you, anyway.) They may cause you to spot or miss periods which will make you think you're pregnant....making a bad situation that much worse. There is also competent professional assistance available to you through your health department, and they are duty-bound to respect your privacy, but I still recommend consulting your parents with this. You may be amazed at how well they'll respond. We were all kids once, and not so long ago. Last thing: your boyfriend isn't a villain in this equation, either. He's just like you, a scared kid. Keep that in mind. Good luck to you.
2007-10-14 08:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to get too panicked. The birth control pills will probably stop anything from happening, but you should get a pregnancy test to make sure that you are not pregnant.
2007-10-14 08:05:12 · answer #2 · answered by R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to planned parenthood and get some answers. they can give you a pregnancy test and abortion if need be but they can also help you through it . they wont tell your family. but you should go see someone because it sounds like your not ready to be in a sexual relationship.
2007-10-14 08:07:15 · answer #3 · answered by lady_ebs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow
Get a home preganacy test from the pharmacy
if they ask u who it is 4, say ur mother
if not they have free clinics you could go to to get tested
2007-10-14 08:04:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey wt u need is help rite now.. birth control won last u for long!! ..the best thing to do rite now is make sum xcuses n see your family doctor.. tell him/her wt happ'd//.. n tell him to keep it a secret.. doc's usually r trusty abt these kinda stuff n they will help u out ... jus trust me!
2007-10-14 08:07:22 · answer #5 · answered by prabhat v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋