When you were a kid, did you ever want to be a house wife?

Question

I did when I was little, my mom said she caught me stuffing pillows in my shirt to look pregnant when I was 3. I get a lot of back talk from people who are working moms, they made me feel lazy or like I was doing a disservice to the community and after a while I believed them.

I went to work and by the time the paycheck came and after paying the babysitter I only had like $20 left and my house was filthy….babysitter’s won’t clean your house.

I’m a housewife, a domestic engineer who cooks, cleans, takes care of my kids and all the pets. I work my butt off everyday of the week, I’m a mom, I’m a maid (they do some stuff too) I’m a chef and I’m always there when my family rolls in the doors.

How can being a house wife possibly be a failure when your working and love what your doing? Why should I have to pay a babysitter who won’t clean or have strangers raise my kids? I am a house wife and I am proud of it, I have always wanted to do this and I do it to the very best of my abilities. Am I failing my community? Or have I reached my goal?

Answer 1

God bless you. OK let's say you didn't live the life as a house wife. Let's say you had a career and worked 40-50 hours a week. If you had small Children you would need day care or a baby setter. That could be $100 a week (at the cheap places). If you did not cook meals 2-3 times a day then you would have to provide fast food or resturants and that could be $50 dollars or more a day. The house cleaning you do each week would easily be over $150 if you paid someone to do it. I am sure I am missing other valuable things you do such as shop for groceries, manage the bills and budget, help the kids with school work, teach them right from wrong, and most important the love you show as a mother/house wife ibut adding the few things I listed plus the things we can not put a price tag on you would be worth over $100,000 a year if you were paid a salary. LOL....don't tell your husband this. What you do is very honorable.

Answer 2

If your financially stable, there is nothing wrong with being a housewife. I dont even like that term really. If you have young children, especially, you might not be able to tell right away, but there is so many positive effects on your relationship with your kids, to be able to stay home with them instead of sending them to a babysitter, and having time to watch them grow and be there along the way. Actually, today my mom told me she wishes she couldve taken a leave from work instead of sending my brother to a babysitter. She even sent me to live with my relatives in another country up until I started school. That was a sacrifice she had to make so I could get the full attention I needed when I was a baby. Yeah, so long story short :) ...I think being a stay at home mom/wife is pretty admirable. Its a much harder job than people think it is.

Answer 3

Being a mom IS a really hard job. It's stressful and challenging, you can't leave at the end of the day and you don't get paid!
I was in the same situation - if I went back to work full time i would barely be making anything after paying for childcare, which is extremely expensive in our area.
I think lots of little girls pretend to be pregnant, and emulate their mothers. It may be part of our social conditioning. I did the same thing, too, but that doesn't mean it was my only goal in life to be a housewife. But more power to you, it is often a thankless job!

Answer 4

I think that if you are happy with your decision, then you are doing the right thing.

I honestly believe that this is just one of those things that is a personal choice and that there is no right or wrong answer. I personally want to be a working mother, but I think that it is wrong to judge others that don't. Don't let those other women get you down, if you know that your life will be more fulfilled at home, then stay there.

Just remember not to judge others who make a different decision. :)

Answer 5

Hey i think what you do is an extremely important job..the most important job a woman could ever have..however i am a working woman and i say your job is very honorable and also do not forget that you are also a teacher..children's first teacher is always their mother..Keep up the good work and never let anyone make you feel bad for the job you do..

Answer 6

I'm never ever going to be a housewife.

I believe women are smarter than men, and therefore we should be the working ones.

I don't want to have children, but I do want to get married to a man who will take MY last name and do the house work, such as cooking and cleaning. I'm way too smart to waste my life like that.

Answer 7

Nope -- never wanted to be a housewife. I knew from a very early age that I never wanted to be married and/or have kids. Everybody kept telling me "you'll change your mind when you grow up."

Well -- I've been grown up for a long time now and I still don't want either of those things.

Answer 8

I never wanted to be a housewife. But there is great honor in being a mother, wife, teacher, and friend.

Answer 9

first, good for you. that our society places monetary value on everything, or rates everything based on dollar-value, is lamentable.

at least you got the choice. in today's world, many families do not have the luxury of allowing one parent to dedicate their time to the house, unfortunately. also, as much negative perception as you may have experienced, it would be even harder for a man to choose that career path.

Answer 10

I was a stay-at-home mom and when I was little I couldn't wait to be a mom. I think you were wonderful to do what you did. Moms don't get enough credit.

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