i got her a $250 heart necklace for our 1 year, after a rocky summer, to show her that i love her alot and a symbol of how much she makes me happy....and she broke up with me like a week later, and we havent been friends for about 3 months now cuz its been hard on me....and i really want it back now cuz i am really mad at her...but i dont want to be like an indian giver....i wouldnt give it to another girl either....guh idk what to do...she rarely wears it now, and i dont appreciate that at all and is the main reason i want it back
2007-10-14 07:06:50 · 53 answers · asked by bluepengreen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well.. in all honesty.. what purpose would you have with it? think of it this way.. everytime she looks at it.. you're going to pop up in her head.. just let her keep it.
2007-10-14 07:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by Julie ♥ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its very unfortunate that you gave her the necklace right before you broke up. Because it puts a little extra 'sting' in it. However, think of it this way, would you still want it back if you had given it to her earlier? and she had worn it for a while? You probably wouldn't. The break up is making you angry and that's why you want it back.
I would just let it go. It was a lot of money, but it was also a gift. And even though it ended badly, you gave her the gift on good terms, and that is how it should be remembered. Don't use it as a way to 'get back at her'. As time goes by, it will seem less and less important to you, and one day you will forget about it completely. Hang in there.
2007-10-14 07:14:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No way man. I'm a guy, but you gave her the necklace as a gift it belongs to her. The symbology may mean nothing now, and sorry your hurting but the necklace is hers. Now if she offered to give it back to you that would be a different story all together. Seeing how much time has past since the split I don't see that happening though.
2007-10-14 07:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by aswkingfish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say no. It would be a little tacky to ask for a gift back at this point. That is, unless you are a 15-year-old who had to pay for it with money from your paper route. Then, I think it would be okay. Otherwise, suck it up. By the way, I don't think she should have kept the necklace, being that she broke up with you almost immediately afterwards- but- it's her right since it was a gift and not a token of your engagement.
2007-10-14 07:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She broke up with you a week after you gave her the necklace? I would be pissed off and say yes, she needs to give it back. But, if you gave it to her for your 1st year anniversary and then later on in the summer other things happened then no let it go.
2007-10-14 07:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fugghettabouttit, man...you don't need that chick, or the necklace - you can't take jewelry back except if it was an engagement ring and she broke it off (the wedding I mean, not the ring)
Move on and move up!
2007-10-14 07:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by Perky_gurl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't dare do it! it will be so ungentleman of you if you will.
Even if you end up painfully, you cannot remove the fact that you've given it to her because you love her and you have had once a happy life together, once upon a time. Just wait for her to voluntarily return it to you, but don't really expect. Maybe she's not yet wearing it because she's not yet over you and that it still aches her to be reminded of you. Who knows, you might be reunited!
2007-10-14 07:22:34 · answer #7 · answered by itsme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It would be painful for you, also, to have it around the house. Just see it as something she can keep to remind her of your relationship. It would be immature also and you would never move past the grieving point for your relationshipl.
If, for example, she gives it to one of her friends, ask for it back immediately. But I don't think you should ask for it back. Maybe you could ask some of her friends about the necklace, her thoughts on the breakup, etc, to try and gauge the situation?
I'm sorry about your break up.
2007-10-14 07:10:57 · answer #8 · answered by Rihannafan99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ditch it man. Take the loss.
All your going to do by trying to take it back is cause more problems for you and her. Especially if your trying to forget her and its been hard on you. Cut all ties you can and try to put it in the past. Its not worth having it back. And when you get it back it will be a constant reminder of a painful time.
Let it go.
Good Luck
2007-10-14 07:12:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the question is why do you want it back? you wouldn't expect her to wear it after breaking up with you really so why so bothered,did she give you gifts that you gave back? this is a tough one,I say forget about it,I know it's alot of money but asking for it back would cause more hastle,it isn't worth it,move on.
2007-10-14 07:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by mejejam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No way man, you can't ask for it back. When you gave it to her, you wanted her to have it for whatever reasons. Just because you aren't together or you're mad at her DOES NOT take back how you felt when you gave it to her. Look at it this way, you did it because you wanted to at that time, don't disrespect yourself or your intentions by doubting how you felt at that time VS. this time. Take it as a learning experence and gain more self respect all at the same time.
Don't be spiteful, you'll only hurt yourself.
2007-10-14 07:15:13 · answer #11 · answered by Khelie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋