do you think what i did was wrong?

Question

last night i went out with my friend to a dance club, and told my mum i was going for a sleepover at my friends. im safe and stuff so do you think i did something wrong. i feel kinda guilty now and scared she might find out.. if you were a parent would you be mad??

Answer 1

yes you lied to your parents and broke there rules thats why you feel guilty about it. But every kid does that so its not to big of a deal. If you feel bad be honest and tell her the truth about what you did she may ground you or yell at you but sh will be tinking how mature and adult like it is of yotu to tel her on your own instead of waiting to get caught. And night clubs are never a safe place for someone your age to be all kinds of things can happen thats why your suppose to be a certian age to even get into one.

Answer 2

If I were your mother, I would be disappointed in you and worried for your safety.
I think that all teenagers want a good relationship with their parents. Believe me, Parents want the same thing. I know when I was a teenager I wanted to be able to do a lot of things that my parents wouldn't let me. This lead to me sneaking out or doing the same thing that you did, saying I was in one place while going somewhere else. Looking back, even though I got away with it, and you may too, I do not think it is right. If I were you, I would give your mom a reason to trust you. I would go to her and ask her to talk, sit down and first tell her that you want to apologize for something you did that she doesn't know about. Say something like: "Mom, I did something the other day that I feel really badly about. I want to confess to you that I lied to you and deceived you about where I was when I was with my friend. The reason why I am telling you this is because I know I did something wrong and even though you may have never found out, I want for you to be able to trust me. I know a lot of kids deceive their parents, but I do not want to be one of them. I love you and respect you and I want the same from you. The other day when I told you that I was going to be at a sleepover, we actually went to a dance club instead. And although nothing bad happened, I would like for you to know where I am when I go out so you can know that I am safe." Then maybe you and her can approach the idea of you having more privledges. If one of my boys came to me and had this discussion with me, I would think a lot higher of them and would allow them more privledges. I don't know how your mom would react, but anyways, it will clear your guilty conscience.

Answer 3

You all ready know the answer to this question. You feel guilty because you know it was wrong. Yes you are safe, now. However as parents, we think of the worse case scenario, not because we are negative, but because we love you so much we worry about what might happen. And trust me you put yourself in danger weather you want to believe it or not. What if you met a "nice guy" the was very attractive and you went off to just talk to him, but he slipped something into your drink and helped you to his car where you are now raped and possibly dead. It happens every day to nice girls every where. Yes it is an extreme but as a parent you are too precious to take the chances. And your parents not knowing where you really were would keep anyone looking for you for precious hours. This is why we tell our children why we want to know where you go and what you do, and why we say no to things that are fun. Try to understand why and try to do as thy ask, you will be on your own before you know it. It seams like forever now, but you will be looking back with your daughter doing this kind of stuff to you, thinking of what may happen to her in a very few years. I promise.

Answer 4

I know it's hard to understand when you're a teenager, but your parents have rules for a reason. Those rules are in place to keep you safe. Your parents love you and don't want anything bad to happen to you. Just because you're safe this time doesn't mean that nothing could have happened to you, or that next time you pull something like that it won't.
If I was your mom I would be angry, but I would be less mad if you came to me & told me the truth, than if I fould out another way.

Answer 5

I would be very upset! What do you think she will do if she finds out on her own? What will she do if you confess it to her before she finds out on her own! Moms do have ways of finding out these things you know. You didn't say how old you are so that may make a difference in her response. Not to lecture but going out to a dance club could have been very dangerous depending on the setting but another is the lie you told. Let me ask you this, What do you think she SHOULD DO when she finds out! Guilt is good, at least you KNOW you did wrong, the only way to get rid of it will be to confess it and face the consequences whatever they may be. I would probably be less upset if my daughter told me than if I found out on my own! Let us know what you decide and what happens. Good Luck

Answer 6

Wow. Bold move. I am not a parent but I know she would probably be very mad! But that doesn't mean it's right not to tell her. Maybe you were safe this time but what about next time? I think you should tell her and say (like a mature person) "I went out last night when I told you I was at ______'s house. I'm very sorry and ready to accept any punishment you plan to give me." Tell me if it works!

Answer 7

Kids will be kids and we've all made bad choices growing up. As a parent I would be angry that you lied and put yourself in a position that could be dangerous. As kids you don't think about the dangers that could happen and the risks involved. Your focused on having fun. Parents set limits and rules because we do think about these things. We see reports on the t.v. all the time about children being abducted, young girls being raped, etc. Even kids who are normally very thoughtful, level headed and normally make good choices are at risk for these kinds of tragedies. We as parents don't want these things to happen to our children. You don't want to have to face a life time of trying to cope with being raped or worse not coping because your dead. We, parents, want you to have fun but we also want you to use good judgments about where you go, what you do and who your exposed to.

When you lie you destroy trust which can be hard to earn back. This is where your fear of being caught comes from. Once you break that trust and are found out you can be sure that consequences will be far worse than if you tell the truth even if it is after the fact. You feel guilty because you know what you did was wrong.

Now you may get lucky and get away with this but are you willing to walk around with all that guilt knowing that you broke your parents trust. If you go to them and tell them you made a mistake you can probably bet there will be consequences but telling the truth counts a lot. As a parent I would be very proud that my child came to me and told me of the mistakes she made. Yes I would still be mad but I would be more likely to trust her again in the future if I felt she understood what she did was wrong verses getting caught. If I busted her you can bet my ability to trust her with anything would be affected. I probably won't let her go anywhere unless I had adult confirmation of supervision for any additional outings she wanted to go on. This is what can happen when a parent losses trust in their child. Now would you rather suffer the consequences and have your parents trust your future decisions or risk getting caught and not have them trust your future decisions. The choice is yours. I hope you choose wisely.

Answer 8

As a parent I would be pretty pissed off because you lied! It's now a trust issue. They will have a hard time believing any thing you say for a while. If you had asked to go , the worst they would have said was "no". Maybe you should confess before they find out. They may not be so hard on you.

Answer 9

Yes, I would be mad. I'm not a parent I'm only 16 but if my kid lied to me like that I'd be mad. I don't know why you'd have to lie about that though I'd let my daughter go to a dance club.

Answer 10

Everyone lies to their parents about something. I know that I did. I say as long as you are fine and nothing bad happened that what your mom don't know won't hurt her, but only this time. There shouldn't be a next time as you do feel guilty about it now. Be honest with your mom about where you want to go and what you are going to do. Something seriously bad could happen to you if you don't and then you'll have lost your trust with your mom.