I told by parents and Bf that I am pregnant, now what do I do?

Question

I am of course pregnant as you all now know. I just recently told my Bf and he is very supportive. I told my dad, my mom and her husband (my mom and dad are divorced) last night and this is how it went. He eating pizza and drinking colawith one of his best buds. I didn't want to tell but I just had too. So I cut off the t.v and I just simply said "I am pregnant". My dad just looked at me and started you yell! He asked me "It was that Collin guy wasn't it?" Then cauos went loose. My moms husband said that he will wait for her in the car. Then my mom and dad began fighting over me, sex, Collin, pregnancy and so on. "My mom said, what have you been doing just letting her go off and having sex and getting pregnant?!" My dad was so mad. He said "Bussiness trips" It was a hughe fight lots of very bad words. Anyway my mom left and my dad just came over to me and looked at me. He was so mad he said he doesn't even want to talk to me. He even said I can't see Collin! How can I get my dad back?

Should I keep my baby or not? I just want my dad to talk to me. I realy want to see Collin again too. I mean after all he is the father of this baby rather my dad likes it or not. By the way I am 21 so is Collin and we both go to the same colleage.

Answer 1

This baby is a gift. there are many choices to make and only you have to make the choice. I would point out that you are 21 and of legal age so your parent's cannot make a choice for you.

As far as your parent's are concerned they are mad now but time heals all wounds! Once they get over feeling like you betrayed them and have time to think and feeling like you did not show them that you can be responsible for you actions (Like protection) they will get over it.

A parent does not stop loving a child just because they make a mistake. If they did there would be a lot more orphans in this world. Now the question's
1 Do you have insurance? Does your bf?
2 Are you healthy?
3 Are you sure you can have other children if you give this one up?
4 Do you work? Does your bf?
5 What happens if you have the baby and your bf leaves can you support yourself and the baby?
6 Do you have a place to live?
7 Are you up to raising a child?
8 Are you ready to be a role model to your child?
9 Are you ready for the emotional rollercoaster That comes with Raising a child ?
10 Do you have compassion and believe in God?

I hope all will go well with you just give everyone time to think including yourself!

Answer 2

You didn't indicate how old you are but it sounds like you are still in school. While your parents appear angry right now, you should understand that its likely more out of concern for you and the difficulties they know are ahead for you -- Raising a child is difficult at ANY age. Let things cool down for now. Remember that you can't take words back. When the time is right, in a day or so, approach your Dad (and Mom) and tell him that you would like to talk with him about the situation and that you need his love and support to get thru this. Listen to what he has to say and be understanding, hopefully he will do the same. Then you can discuss what comes next. Childhood is now officially over, my dear, welcome to the adult world. If that fails, I would get in touch with a Teen Center near you that can help you work thru this. For now, the onus is on you to take these next steps. Collin comes later after you've mended fences and know what you want for the future.

Answer 3

How old are ....you dont say unless I've missed it. If you are over 18 no one can do anything about it.....its your choice.... they will all have an opinion about things, which is everyones right. If you are younger & hopefully over 16 then they do have a right to intervene more strongly. But any way, you've made your bed so now you've got to lie in it ( maybe thats what caused this in the first place !! .... only joking.... Good luck for the future of all 3 of you.........dont try to get back at your Dad he's surprised, upset, dissapointed.... loads of emotions all kicking off together... work with each other, talk ....you'll be glad of his support sooner rather than later

Answer 4

The two most important people should be you and your unborn child. You need to see a doctor about what needs you need to meet in order for you to have a healthy child. Do you have a job or place to stay throughout your pregnancy? Can you afford this alone, or will you need help from your Bf and family? What about your education? Talk to your family members and loved ones about the coming events involved with pregnancy. Will your parents be apart of your child's life? If you want your dad back I suggest getting theses other things done first and letting him cool off. Then tell him he has to accept this or he will not be apart of you and your child's lives. I am afraid I don't have enough details to tell you what's best. As I said before the most important thing is you and your unborn child's health.

Answer 5

I went throght that with my mom when I was 19. It was a sunday afternoon and I had known I was pregnant for a couple of days. I had already told my BF at the time and he was so excited. I told my mom and she wasnt so happy. She yelled and hollard for a little while until he calmed down. She told me that I had to get an abortion. I am now 23 and i regret having my abortion cuz My baby boy would be 4 as of Oct 4th. I went to the doctor and found out that I have a diease which causes me to have scaring from my abortion. Now i cant even have children. But to answer your question, He is your dad and he will come around. He cant be mad at you for ever. I know my mom is mad at the fact that she forced me to get my abortion cuz she would have a Grand son right now. But be cool and every thing would be ok. If you need any one to talk to IM me on Yahoo....niais23

Answer 6

They are all very disappointed & angry to say the least. Once it all begins to sink in, your dad will come around in time but don't push it. The adults are playing the "blame game." Let things calm down a bit & hopefully, in time, things will get better. I would have waited & told your dad when it was just him, your boyfriend, & you present & no one else, but that's me. You need the love & support of your boyfriend so do what you can to stay with him. The news crushed your dad because dads want what's best for their "little girls" & he wanted you to finish college, & have a great future. You can't blame him for wanting that. Your mom was out of line blaming your dad, so shame on her. Keep your head up & it'll all work out. I am not into abortions & that shouldn't be an option for you, just to win your dad back.

Answer 7

It sounds like you are a teen living with your dad. Did I understand correctly? Your Mom, her husband, your dad and a friend of his were all there and you told them. No one was supportive to you. Your parents fought with each other. You are banned from seeing the father of the baby.
Go to a school counselor and ask the counselor to see you and your dad if he will come. You need help as a family unit to decide how to handle this pregnancy. You need the support of at least one parent. Also, the young man's parents should be told. Leave this up to the counselor.

I did not see the additional details. You are adult. You and Colin decide together about your baby.

Answer 8

Having a child while in school is not easy but can be done. Don't base your decision on how your parents are feeling about the pregnancy right now but on if you want to keep the child. It is about you and your boyfriend, not your parents. Parents always come around, at the very latest when the little one is born and they see themselves as proud grandparents.
It was really wrong of your mom and dad to put blame on the other. But understand, right now they are shocked. They will come around soon enough.

All the best to you, whatever you decide.

Answer 9

First you should probably reconsider going on with college...you can't even spell college.

If you are okay with abortion, then talk to Collin about it and maybe do that...though you probably should have thought about that before you told your parents...

There is always adoption...if you don't believe in abortion.

Tell your dad that you really needs his help right now, but give it a few days. It is all just shock that your mom and dad are going thru.

I don't know why your parents are so upset, you are an adult, you can make your own choices.

Answer 10

Well you certainly chose your moment! You sprung this on them with no buildup, in the middle of their meal--and you're surprised? I think you need to give them some time...and that's more than 24 hrs, chuck. You threw a grenade into their lives. You don't say how old you are but by the way you made the announcement I'd say you're either very young or very immature.

Let your dad cool off. He'll have 9 mos to get used to the idea. Give him some time.