Right me and my bvf was together today and it was down a park and he turn round and goes to me is that bull **** u got on as perfume or something and i could of felt like crying bcause it wasnt and i had deoderant and a really nice perfume on and it cant of been me it must of been the dogs around us like but what would you say back if that was your bf who said that to you cause i just said nothing as i felt so upset by it and uncomftable when he said that cause it made me feel like i smell so i sprayed perfume when he wasnt looking but i could of cried can anyone help?? :(
2007-10-14 06:27:12 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he did hug me after, but when he said it he was like *sniff sniff sniff* then said is that bullshit your wearing for perfume he said it like twice but he brought me a perfume before for my birthday but i also took that as a way that he thinks i smell but i dont cause lots of my friends said i love your perfume and that but now im so concious hes made me feel really scared that i smell bad now =[
2007-10-14 07:10:50 · update #1
I would have said to him, "You know it's really funny but I have the same problem with you; I never mentioned it because i don't want to hurt your feelings." Let's see what he says.
2007-10-14 06:32:48 · answer #1 · answered by Brie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
But isn't the perfume you sprayed, the one that you had on? Guys say things like that all the time. If i was you, i wouldn't take it seriously. I'm sure he hugged you soon after. There is no denying that we as men do love women that smell great. If you are not sure how the perfume actually smell, why don't you ask a friend(preferably a guy) to tell you what he thinks of the perfume. Most likely, since you were in the park, he probably smelled something else, and was joking with you. But like i said, just ask a friend.
2007-10-14 06:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by NBL 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he didn't like the perfume you were wearing, he could have told you in a nicer way! But, what's done is done. I can understand how you felt but try to look at it another way. Your perfume may have been flowery and he might prefer something with more of a spicy aroma.
So, you just don't wear it around him anymore. No biggie!
Try not to let it eat away at you because it's really not worth it. He just blurted out what he was thinking at the time. I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt your feelings.
2007-10-14 06:35:14 · answer #3 · answered by WilmaF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant decide whether he is really insensitive or if your over sensitive.
It will all be obvious in the way he said it. Could you add on to your question the manner in which he said it and also what he is like on a day to day basis as a boyfriend?? it will just give us all a better idea of the bigger picture.
If he new what he said had upset you, and he has regular digs at you then clearly you must leave him and be with someone who would not degarde you and upset you, but if he said it in a jokey way, he could just be a little on the immature side and did not realise just how much it would upset you.
Laura - Thanks for additional information. I think that you need to tell your boyfriend in no uncertain terms that you find his behaviour offensive and unexceptable. Tell him one more strike and he is gone. You sound like a lovely girl and you dont need to put up with that sort of behaviour from someone who is supposed to love and care for you. Hopefully that will show him the error of his ways!!
2007-10-14 06:34:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow. I would have been pissed, seriously. Like I'm sure he NEVER smelt especially ripe after PE or something (not saying that you smelled at all!)...
Obviously, the moment has passed for you to retort back, but does he treat you like dirt all the time? You deserve to have a guy that treats you like a princess, not like... I don't even know what that would be like, I wouldn't say something that rude to anyway, not my friend, family or even a stranger!
2007-10-14 06:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by Cydney - 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh my....you should have said..>"and that is bull**** you've got for a face!" and walked off.
It sounds like he was just being nasty for the sake of it...soimething young men do for some reason....NEVER feel like you have to take crap off a man because he's your Boyfriend and he might leave you or something...stand up for yourself! I guarantee they always stay with girls who stand up for themselves....not ones who they think they can be mean to and get away with it.
2007-10-14 06:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Daisyhill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds very immature and insensitive.
There are so many great, considerate guys who don't act like that!
He should have apologized by now if it were just a freak incident of immaturity.
Get a nice guy.
2007-10-14 06:32:50 · answer #7 · answered by Eye4Beauty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like he doesnt care about ur feelings and just wants to put u down. find someone that wont do things like that to you
2007-10-14 10:34:35 · answer #8 · answered by sissy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you boyfriend must have been trying to joke around.. but ei, whatever! he doesn't have to do it at your expense, girl!! if it made u feel uncmfortable, then you have the right to tell him how he made u feel.
2007-10-14 06:35:21 · answer #9 · answered by j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you taken it to seriously. you should tell him how it made you feel. my boyfriend play like that all the time stuff like "was that your breath" and then i would just say no that was your stankin ***.
2007-10-14 06:35:11 · answer #10 · answered by anamara_88 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋