My bf of about 6 months and I broke up last January. In the past few months we've reconnected on a casual basis - going on dates, kissing, etc. We haven't talked about where we stand, but we're definitely not "boyfriend/girlfriend." I missed him and was overjoyed when he wanted to start dating again. I'm okay with the casualness but worried that he's just going to end things like before when we get in a rut.
Last night, I ran into a guy who used to live in my apartment building. We only had a few conversations, but I always thought he was very friendly (and really good looking). When we bumped into each other, he asked for my number and said he was so disappointed he didn't get it before I moved - he thought he'd lost his chance.
I have a feeling the second guy is going to ask me out, and I feel really torn. Do I stay with someone that I love but that might never become truly serious, or take a chance on someone I barely know? If I take the chance, how do I tell the first guy?
2007-10-14 06:25:28 · 4 answers · asked by truefirstedition 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you feel that # 1 is only after a casual relationship for right now, then make it casual and date other people. Life is to short to wait for other people to make up their minds. You might find out #2 is the best guy walking and be the right one. Just hold off on sex, that way if it doesn't work out, you can say you where just dating, nothing serious.
2007-10-14 06:37:22 · answer #1 · answered by LIPPIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with a piece of paper. Draw a line down the center. On each side at the top put one guy's name. Down the side list --by a point system--how each man will affect your life Mentally, Spiritually, Sexually, Financially, Emotionally, Physically (not sex, but like where you live, if he might be violent, etc.) and any other part of life that touches you. Rate them and pick the one that is the best for you.
Cold? No. Logical. Life isn't just all about 'feelings.'
2007-10-14 06:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by Einsteinetta 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a ring on your finger? Are you and the first guy committed right now? No! So, take a chance on the new guy,there is reason why you and the first guy broke up in the first place. More than likely that reason will resurface if you stay with him.
2007-10-14 06:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the first guy you are not into him anymore, that's why you broke up, you were stupid to hold on to the casualness, let's be friends without benefits...
go for the chance. take it, don't hesitate.
2007-10-14 06:30:19 · answer #4 · answered by pwrgrlmanda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋