I have known this certain guy for about six months now but we have only been dfating for a week now my frinds say that i should have already had sex with him. I don't want him to think im a s***and I don't want to have sex until the moment is right but my friends say the moment is now. What do i do?
2007-10-14 06:17:33 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let your friends have sex with him if they think it's any of their business.
You never "have" to have sex.
2007-10-14 06:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Don't let your friends dictate to you what's right. Peer pressure is bullsh8t ! They are telling you to compromise your morals. That's not being a friend, trying to get someone down and out. Because when your too loose, those same girls are going to call you a hoe. Look at them are they stable, doesn't sound like it. Are they fake bad girls, who get played on all the time. Talking smack about how they run their relationship. But, they always chasing down or crying over their man. Don't be silly get to know what this man's intentions are. Knowing him for six months and dating him for a week. Are two separate things, you don't start seeing a person until you start dating them. Then there's a grace period until you see their bad side. It could take a couple of months. That's your decision not your friend. If you make a mistake with this guy. Let it be all on you. Not your friends. Your the one who has to live with the consequences.
2007-10-14 06:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by Tarrimarie B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As Rhett Butler would say, "Frankly, my dear, it's none of your friends damn business."
What goes on in the bedroom should stay in the bedroom. The problem is many sort of, kind of, or really make more out of it than what actually happened. So, just holding hands could end up as swinging from the chandelier.
If your friends press you for what's going on in this relationship, I would get back in their face and ask why do they want to know. Also, think back about how much your friends have shared with you about their sexual adventures. It's always fun to hear juicy tidbits, but when the tables are turned, likely, they'll close the curtains.
Do what you feel is best and remember, you don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Also, there isn't a guide book out there or chart that expounds at what day or moment you're supposed to do what.
If your friends insist on knowing all the juicy details, first I would ask, why do you want to know. Then, ask about their sexual habits. Chances are they won't be as willing to disclose their dirty laundry as they are at wanting to see yours.
Let this relationship take its own course. If you have pushy friends, they really aren't friends and tell them to push off.
2007-10-14 06:26:44 · answer #3 · answered by rann_georgia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DON'T DO IT!!! thats what a bad guy would want, so if hes bad, then he'll leave, biut if he is a good guy. and somone who is right for you, then he'll understand and you'll connect more and more before that right moment. I've been with my girlfirned for 3 years(which is pretty freakin long for a highschool student) and we waited 5 months, until we felt that "RIGHT MOMENT" wait, and enjoy the time between, because the longer you wait, the better it will be! trust me, i wish we had waited longer, but i don't regret it in anyway, and i had no doubts going into it ^_^
p.s.- neither did she by the way lol
2007-10-14 06:22:44 · answer #4 · answered by Jake M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to your friends, they aren't in this relationship. You need to discuss having sex with your man. He may have certain thoughts about it but just hasn't been sure how to talk to you about it yet. Waiting until the moment is right is the right thing to do.
2007-10-14 06:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex if you're not emotionally ready for it. Sex really changes a relationship. Like for instance, he might feel you belong to him now and get jealous when a boy is so much as looking at you. Things might also get akward between you guys if the sex was a mistake.
2007-10-14 06:22:12 · answer #6 · answered by Laura J 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your friends told you to jump off a cliff would you do it? The answer is hopefully no. Listen to your heart. I myself think it would be a little slutty if you guys were only dating a week. Just trust that the right moment will come, you don't want to regret your decision later!
2007-10-14 06:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No don't do what everyone else does. i will wait a little bit longer to see if he is serious about you. the key word is dating. if you talked about being boyfriend and girlfriend that's a bit more serious.
if you are down for sex without commitment that's your choice. don't listen to your friends. they admire your strength and they want you to be like them.
Waiting a month or more is good but it depends on the couple and if you think he's worth it. you don't want him to diss you girl after you have sex with him.
2007-10-14 06:43:57 · answer #8 · answered by ace7star 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex. Its your decision, not your friends. If your boyfriend isn't pressuring you, don't even address it as an issue (your friends are the people with the issue). If your boyfriend is pressuring you, discuss it with him, telling him that you don't want to have sex yet. If he is ok with this, you have a good guy. If he is not ok with this, cut him loose because you deserve better than that. TAKE CARE OF YOU.
2007-10-14 06:23:37 · answer #9 · answered by larrydepaoli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get better friends. You need to follow own feelings. Make sure the guy knows that you like him, but that you aren't ready yet. If your friends think you would lose him if you don't have sex with him NOW, then don't worry, he is worth losing.
2007-10-14 06:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by SHSHSH 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it is YOUR body!! & your friends have NO say so what so ever in your sex life. You wait until YOU Think it is time to go futher in your relationship, and tell your friends they should have more respect for themselves than having sex with someone they hardly know!!!
2007-10-18 05:46:55 · answer #11 · answered by [Allie & Jude] 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋