what do you think about this. boys under the age of 18 should not be held responsible for childsupport if they

Question

cleary state they do not want the child,give it up or get an abortion. make a law stating that a teenage girl who gets pregnant cannot apply for welfare cash only medical and food stamps. make sure our daughters are educated and offered birth control. i think this law would cut down on teen pregnancy and avoid entrapment of young men. im a female with a daughter. but i see a lot of girls thinking they can trap a guy into getting married or staying with them by getting pregnant. what do you all think?

Answer 1

99.9 percent of the time, I never want the government involved in such personal affairs as this one, however you do make a good point. I do think that a lot of young girls think that having a child will solve their "problems" and they can settle down into a fairytale life, education is the only way that kids will learn that it's not quite what they had in mind. I don't agree however with the boys and the child support, it's fine if hey don't want the child, but it's a little too late once the child is here, and if it's not adopted then the child is also his responsibility. Even if he is not going to be around to support it, the least he can do is provide money to help the child have a decent upbringing. Money however, is not going to replace a father, and single moms are a huge problem in this country, not the women themselves, but the fact that millions of children are growing up with deadbeat fathers.

Answer 2

Who, in this grand scheme of yours, is going to be responsible for these children? The mother lacks the education and skills to go out and get a good job, the father providing a PITTANCE, because that is what it is, in child support simply HELPS keep that child out of poverty, starvation, and neglect.

And, even if the young man must pay child support, it STILL does not prevent HIM from going on with his life. He can still go to college, join the armed services, get a job, live on his own independently, etc. For the young girl, having a child that she cannot support is tantamount to pushing her into poverty for the rest of her life which also has very negative effects on her child.

How is she supposed to survive and raise a child if you cut out one of the only programs that allows her to do so? Where is she going to live, on the street? Do you want to see your daughter living on the street because people like you think young Women should be punished for getting pregnant? That's what it sounds like, measures like these are for the benefit of NO ONE, they are punitive and disgusting.

And, despite your opinion, there are NOT "a lot" of girls trying to trap young men by a pregnancy because MOST young Women understand that it would end EVERYTHING, not just the relationship but also their education goals, career goals, and their time having fun as a teenager. Teenage girls are not stupid, they know full well what will happen to them if they become pregnant. MOST teens use protection to prevent pregnancy. The few who do not need better access to birth control or sex education.

This law would do nothing to the teen pregnancy rates. It would increase childhood poverty rates and thus, would eventually increase all those things related to poverty: crime, illiteracy, mortality, illness, etc.

Peace,
Jenn

Answer 3

Teenage pregnancy is most often a lack of education. Parents refuse to believe kids are having sex and refuse to talk to them about it. THey are getting tons of misinfo from their friends who dont know any better. So when the guy says I dont want a condom you wont get preg if youre on top, the girl believes and what do ya knw, girl gets preg.

Guys should most certainly be held responsible even if they are underage. They had sex to, not just the girl.

As far as the welfare thing, I dont think anyone should be completly banned but instead caps and length of time should be made less.

Girls believe they can trap guys bc they are taught if they are preg they have to get married. I would guess that you know of atleast someone who was forced to get married after becomming preg. These shot gun weddings that whould never take place have a lot to do with this.

Answer 4

I worked in a health clinic for 13 years. Birth control is free or very affordable in the State of Missouri for girls without their parents permission. They have to have ob exams and are monitored, but you cannot literally make them take the pills. The shots are also very effective, but again getting them to take them is the problem. It is a sorry fact or statistic, but true nonethless, that a lot of young girls today lack the confidence of their mothers. The majority of them have no self esteem and fall into the trap of getting pregnant, not working, becoming independent, all with the visions of orange blossoms and marriage in their heads. The girls are not the only ones to suffer. The children and boys/men suffer, too. In my day and age, we did not have shelters, and you were taught it was a disgrace to get on food stamps or welfare. Not so in todays society. I do not know all the answers, but the current system is obviously not working.

Answer 5

Oh please, I was a teen mother back in the late 70s and I didn't have a baby to entrap anyone, and I am sure that the "today" girls with everything they have to think about aren't thinking about entrapment (other than celebrity wives). Lets try social services (welfare), lets try a means for subsidized housing (section 8), lets think about a means to get nutritious foods for the family (W.I.C.), lets not think about the Mother and Infant health programs (M.I.C.), lets think about the eduction which is afforded single mothers (forget the name of that social service), lets think about the child care services available (they weren't that apparent in the late 70s early 80s), lets not think that most of the young men who are fathers now do have jobs and it is up to the authorities to go after them for the child support due. Wow, entrapment, it does seem a lot more feasible now then it was back then. Married, why do we need marriage, the divorce courts are clogged with celebrities, the common folk, don't have a chance. You go girls. Oh and if you donated to the equation in that moment of bliss, yes, you do pay, whether 15 to 19 and 20 and above, you pay. God Bless.

Answer 6

Whoa!

Pregnancy happens sometimes whether we want it to or not and whether or not we use birth control -- its just one of those things.

I also know of some girls that use pregnancy to trap a man and it is unfortunate. In that case, then the man needs to make sure he is wearing a condom and not just relying on the woman to use birth control. Although pregnancy can still occur if a condom is used, that is a risk that both are taking.

If a sexual encounter results in pregnancy, then it is the responsibility of both partners to take care of that child, even if the father wants the mother to have an abortion and she decides not to.

Children should not pay the penalty of not having medical care and the basic needs like food and shelter, just because they are the result of an accidental pregnancy.

Answer 7

This is entrapment of the girl. Quite often as i have experienced it is the guy who pushes for sex and often sex without a condom on becuase its not comfortable. So the plan in that law is to have the guy force the girl to get an abortion or put the child up for adoption which is mentally and emotionally the hardest thing for the woman to do so he doesnt have to deal with the financial aspects of raising a child. He helped to create the child and its her body it is affecting so just becuase he has some say in what goes on with the baby she has the ultimate say on what goes on with her body. It wouldnt cut down on teen pregnancies, quite possibly it would add to the teen suicide rate so that way the girls will know that they wont be bound to being poor and dumb and having to take care of a child without any state aid or aid from the baby's father who is responsible for one half of the baby.

Answer 8

For me, the moral issue isn't about punishing young women who may accidentally or unwisely become pregnant.

It's about ensuring the best interests of that small child. I don't think any law in the land can - or should - compel a mother to give up her child unless she is proven unfit. And so to put her in a position where the father can turn his back and she has no means to support herself and her child?

The mother might have regrets, but that child's lot in life just got far, far worse.

I can't support that.

I also worry that such a policy gives young men a free pass to be irresponsible.

Answer 9

No - too bad. You make the baby - you help support it, whether you want it or not. You'd have every irresponsible idiot out there using that excuse if you put that on the books.

You can't trap anyone into being a Daddy. Sex, even protected sex, can lead to pregnancy. We'd be better off if people knew and respected that upon entering into a sexual relationship.

I find the whole 'she trapped me!' thing a big cop out...if you were willing to have sex, you have to understand what the consequences can be. Too bad. Cry me a river.

Answer 10

That is absurd. Even birth control is not 100%. How about if the boy doesn't want the responsibility of raising a child- he masturbates instead?