My boyfriend doesnt wear a condom, he "pulls out" and i'm not on birth control. We've been having sex for the last 11 months, [not all the time obviously] and I've never gotten pregnant. [No, I'm not trying to get pregnant.] Should we continue this method or should I insist we do use something? Or does that mean maybe one of us can't make children or something since it hasn't happened? Don't tell me things about diseases, i know about that stuff and it's not a problem with us.
2007-10-14 05:50:21 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Just to give you an idea... it took 2 years for me to get pregnant, without pulling out and nothing was wrong with me. The pull-out method does NOT work and you will eventually wind up pregnant. At the very least, buy a spermicide for added protection.
2007-10-14 06:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by Holy Macaroni! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pulling out is not a reliable method of birth control. If you are not going to use an IUD, pills or some other method, then he needs to use a condom. While abstinence is the only 100% sure way of not getting pregnant, regular and proper use of a condom is an effective way of reducing unwanted pregnancies. Pulling out is not reliable and you have been extremely lucky so far.
2007-10-14 06:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by Dan H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is possible that you have just been lucky. Really, though, it is only a matter of time before you get pregnant. There is actually only a few days per month that you are capable of getting pregnant and if up til now you have accidentally avoided those days, you have just been extremely lucky. It only will only take one time of him pulling out late and you could be very pregnant.
And you really can't just discount the diseases. I'm sure he loves you and would never think of cheating, but you sound young and it happens sometimes. If it did, he probably wouldn't even mean to... You need to think about yourself and don't be stupid.
2007-10-14 06:47:19 · answer #3 · answered by malmal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get tested and see if you're even fertile. And if you both are fertile then maybe it just turns out that you were having sex on days of your cycle that won't make you pregnant. Also I read on the info packet of a pack of condoms that pull out prevents a certain number of pregnancies. So pull out CAN work but just isn't as reliable as other forms or birth control.
2007-10-14 06:09:27 · answer #4 · answered by jose migel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want a child, I would recommend getting on the pill or something. While the pull out method may have worked for you for a while, it's not fool proof by any means. If you're worried about infertility, you guys should see a doctor. I'm not sure if either of you are infertile, but you've been lucky thus far with the pull out method. Good luck!
2007-10-14 05:55:43 · answer #5 · answered by Vbonics 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Obviously that's not a problem because if you were going to pass STDs, you'd have done it by now.
The pull out method is going to get you pregnant sooner or later. You've been lucky. At least add the pill, or a spermicidal jelly or foam. They're easy, fast, and no bouncing babies until you're ready for them.
TX Mom
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2007-10-14 06:42:22 · answer #6 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you say its not a problem now, but if you break up & you have got something nasty like the big A, will it be ok then? will you have that "it will be alright" attitude with every boyfriend you will have. No guarantee you 2 will be together forever. You are playing russian roulette with the pulling out method. You are at risk. Totally.
2007-10-14 05:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by sarahmac 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Protective sex is always better than unprotective sex when you are not married to your sexual partner. Since you never know when you gonna get pregnant i recommend choosing birth control pills and condoms. don't take risk, because you don't want to have a child when you're not ready to become parents.
2007-10-14 05:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Can you take care for a child? If not, I strongly suggest you use proper forms of birth control. You are obviously not mature enough to have sex yet if you even have to ask.
2007-10-14 05:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by Llani 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
just because it has worked up untill now doesnt mean it always will i would go get on something else if you dont want to chace getting pregnant
2007-10-14 06:28:35 · answer #10 · answered by heart_scar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋