i know he loves me and that he is exsited because he ehlps me pick out stuff and look at stuff some times, but some times he seems scared to take about getting married, i asked him yesterday if he was scared and he didnt say anything, is this normal or is there something wrong, we have like a year and half till we getting married so why is he scared? because hes starting to scare me.
2007-10-14 05:29:21 · 11 answers · asked by Mrs T. 2009 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
one this yesterday night several hours after i asked him if he was scared, we where at wall mart we walked by the fake flowers and we stopped i picked some up and said "i love this color it the color i showed you when we where looking at cakes at the fair" so he took them out of my hand looked at the price and started walking with them i was like what are you doing??? he said im buying then for you. so if hes doing sweet stuff like that does that me he is just kinda nervous maybe?
2007-10-14 05:53:43 · update #1
yeah honey, thats all it is, he is too nervous & excited about it.. men take marriages a little different than we women do..lol..but its true...the more u talk about the wedding, the more nervous & speechless the man gets, and thats a fact, so sweetie, u dont have anything to worry about, and just go with the flow okay...good luck & congrats on getting married..
2007-10-14 06:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of guys are nervous about getting married. But in this case I think it's partly the time. You are not getting married for over a year. How often do you talk about it? Maybe he's just feeling a bit pressured, or is worried that all you're going to do for the next year and a half is plan the wedding.
My advice is to not go overboard. He's helping pick stuff out and is being supportive, so don't make something so far down the road your only focus. Still go out and do the things you used to, have fun and enjoy each other's company. As you get closer to the actual date, you'll spend more time talking about the wedding and making plans for after. It doesn't all have to planned now. In fact it should NOT be, because things can change slightly in a year.
Good luck.
2007-10-14 05:39:59 · answer #2 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
OMG the same thing is kind of happening to me! He says he loves me and wants to marry me but when I talk about the wedding he clams up and doesn't want to talk. He had a really nice wedding the first wedding (we have both been married once before) and she cheated on him and did him wrong. He just wants to go to the court house to get married this time but I didn't have a nice wedding the first time and I would like one this time. I am not having a big wedding so there is no reason for him to freak out. I wish you the best. Maybe you two just need to sit down and talk about it. Good luck!
2007-10-14 06:23:23 · answer #3 · answered by ice38034 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just a little bout of cold feet. You know that he loves you -- it's the whole lifetime commitment thing. I felt it for months prior to the wedding and it became worse with the stress of the wedding planning. But married life couldn't be better! He'll come around :)
2007-10-14 06:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is scared because he soon will have someone else to look after and soon have a family to worry about. You get sick or in a car wreck then he'll be hurting to. Yea he hurts now when you hurt but not like when you get married.
2007-10-14 07:18:14 · answer #5 · answered by dogluver4ver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 18 months and that is quite a bit of time. I would let him adjust to being engaged before you start in on the wedding plans, men need to eased into things. Your engaged enjoy that for at least four more months before getting wedding crazy, believe it will him. In the meantime start making your own plans your bridesmaids, your colours, try on dress styles, just keep it to yourself for a bit. He'll come around just let him adjust and let his friends adjust, one other thing make sure you stay on the good side of his friends they will be your best allies for the wedding and if they like you thats important. Men are weird creatures at times go slow.
2007-10-14 05:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by Pearl N 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
HE'S A BLOKE! They do panic, bless them.
Relax and enjoy being together. There is time to finalise plans later. If you ease up a bit he will feel comfortable telling you about any worries he might have.
2007-10-14 05:34:33 · answer #7 · answered by mezzie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absoloutly normal! He's so glad to be marrying you, but he is nervous to change his whole life. He's just getting his jitters early(and it seems that you are too.)
2007-10-14 09:03:35 · answer #8 · answered by vvnbrwn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a man. Plain and simple. No worries...doesn't mean he doesn't love you.
Good luck with your wedding!
2007-10-14 11:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men panic... it's normal... To him, it 18 months away. so he may not understand why you keep bringing it up. Just tell him when to be there, If he does something to help cool, if he does not, cool. Trust me on this....
2007-10-14 06:25:11 · answer #10 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋