see. he cheated on me.
but i dont exactly wanna breakup wiff him.
i mean i love him.or at least i think.
he means alot to me.
and we've been going out for almost 4 months.
and i also just found out that his best friend
was jealous of us, and i liked him first.
im just so confused.
me and my bf had this really big talk.
he said he doesnt know why he cheated on me.
he just did. and said that he still cares for me
and still loves me.
i just dont know if i trust him enough to give him another chance.
i just dont wanna get hurt again.
he doesnt want me to go on
and worry about trusting him.
he hates seeing me cry and upset.
he just doesnt wanna see me go.
what should i do???
2007-10-14 05:27:00 · 43 answers · asked by xxmusicxisxpassionxx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he cheated on you hes not loyal to you
would you like to have a dog that bites you?
he knows why he cheated on you- he got bored of you she dumped him you found out and hes a sore loser
2007-10-14 05:30:13 · answer #1 · answered by Hello peoples of the Earth!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."
Sweets, it all really depends on what you're willing to risk. You could end up breaking up in the long run, as most relationships do, whether or not it's by him cheating again, or that small percentage that you'll stay together 'forever.' Here's the thing, though: Nobody deserves to be cheated on. Just like nobody deserves to be judged for what they've done, like him. It depends on your heart right now. Everyone gets hurt- that's inevitable. You may very well get hurt again, so letting that be your reason will only make it a harder decision.
An ex of mine cheated on me, years ago, and a few months later I dated him for a little while again. It didn't last too long- I was a little more jealous and protective, and he was... the same. I couldn't handle it in the end, and it wasn't worth it in the end, I knew. I knew I could find happiness with someone else, someone who wouldn't do the same things he did. He and I are still really, really good friends though. =]
If it were me in your shoes, I would take some time to myself. Time to think, heal, have fun. If you're willing to take the risk and try again, I say go for it. Just be sure that when you take that jump again, someone will be there to catch you, or else it'll hurt like hell when you hit the ground.
2007-10-14 05:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by Haine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not sure about your feeling towards him, and you know for sure, you can't trust him now. He's already broken that trust and special bond. If he's does it once, you can bet he'll more than likely do it again.
Everytime this happens, it takes a bit more of your heart away from him. It hurts, it hurts terrible when this keeps on. I've been through relationships in my life. I've had them to cheat, then lie, lie and cheat some more.
I'm sorry, I wish I could tell you what you would rather hear. But personally, I'd rather tell you the truth instead lying to you. To make you feel better. It's a young relationship, really hasn't took off the ground yet.
And he's already cheating on you! Your best bet is to break it off now, before you start having deeper feelings for him. It's best to walk away now, I know how hard it is to do this. I've had to myself before.
And it hurt to break up, but I realized he wasn't for me at all. I hate for you to get hurt over and over again. believe me, it's not worth it! You can find a better guy out there that was made just for you.
Give yourself time, don't rush into things to fast. Get to know the person before you go out with them. I really and hope and pray, my advice to you will help open your eyes. And really see what's right in front of you.
Good blessings will come to you in time...
2007-10-14 05:39:27 · answer #3 · answered by angelsitegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first REAL relationship.. We dated four years.. He didnt cheat until the first year. Apologized, got me flowers, begged that I didnt leave him. I took him back.. Over the next hree years he cheated 6 times... Everyone who says once a cheat always a cheat is right. I was heartbroken, I thought he would "change" for me. But he never did. And I thought I loved him so I always took him back. My adviceis to end it now, because later when he is still cheating, you will Know you love him, and you will be crushed everytime. Its sucks to be alone, but you can do better. And find someone who likes you enough to respect you. He wont change, and that the sad truth. You are also always going to have the trust issue now.. I thought after the first time,, I would be fine, Everytime he went out with the guys, went to his brothers, went to a concert, to work, anywhere I thought he might be cheating... I didnt want to nag him though and make it obvious.. And all along I was right. He was out cheating... So either you have to be a little hurt now and be alone for a lil while... Or be hurt more than youll ever want to later? It is a tough decision and I gave you my advice, but honestly it is your desicion.
2007-10-14 05:41:29 · answer #4 · answered by Special K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-08 07:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by tamala 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok,
Life = Pain.
If you take him back now you will be nothing more them a door mat for him to wipe his feet on.
He knows why he cheated...Please!
If you want to have this type of drama
every few months for the rest of your life date him by all means. Know this when some one genuinely cares for you cheating will never enter in to their mind because you will be what they want. They will have no reason to go looking any where else.
yes , i am harsh but rather a stranger tell you to wake up than have to tell your self as you pick your broken heart up off the floor and begin the huge task of gluing the broken shattered pieces back to one another. Good luck !
2007-10-14 05:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's selfish and wants things both ways. He cheated because he doesn't want to be in an exclusive relationship, yet he wants to keep you strung out. He'll do this again. Will you still be there for him? I hope not. An apology is only a mouthful of words; it's what he does that reveals his character.
2007-10-14 05:34:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jay R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
really depends. If youve been together for A LOT of years and been through a lot, sometimes your sex life gets boring. He might have cheated only once to see how he really felt about you. Id take him back if thats the case, but if hes just cheating cause he doesnt care about your relationship and has done it more than once, then id get rid of him. You should only forgive for one discretion if youve been together for years.
2007-10-14 05:32:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will do it again. it may not be this year or next, but he'll do it again. don't get into the trap of forgiving because "he said he didn't know why" because he knows why, he was being selfish and not thinking about your relationship.
i was in a marriage where he said i'll never do it again and i heard that from him often. after i divorced,relationships failed because of no trust-on my part.
it is a horrible thing to do to a person you care for and even a worse way to live.
2007-10-14 05:44:50 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u see , my first gal friend who was with me for 2 years cheated on me. i was devastated to the core. but that doesn mean i should take her back. i still loved her a lot but she broke my trust, desecrated my love. i was hurt.. cried like hell (i am guy, who says i cant cry?) but i moved on..
get the picture?
and now, my second gf also left me (last week) after 1 and hald years saying that she never loved me in the first place and all the while she still had feelings for her first love.
again...i was hurt..
but this time.. i dint cry. i am like " to lie and cheat on me make her look bad. my tears are not for ppl like that".
i have decided to keep moving ahead..
2007-10-14 05:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by aryan_vikas2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he cheated on you, he doesn't have much respect for you. If he really cared, he wouldn't of put himself in that position to begin with. Theres lots of other really good men out there just waiting for a woman like you. So keep focused and keep smiling.
2007-10-14 05:31:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋