Jehovah's Witnesses, do the Brothers aways chase after the Attractive sisters?

Question

I remember at the halls, all of the brothers always went after the 'pretty' and attractive sisters rather than the spiritually minded and dedicated ones. Like jerks they fawned over the pretty ones and just worked next to the pioneers with no romantic interest in them. I went to a predominately black hall with a double side with a Hispanic speaking congregation. Many of the black brothers actually were obsessed with learning Spanish and attending the Spanish hall just to get a Spanish sister. It also was the same at the assemblies full of hundreds of witnesses; the brothers were all the same shallow way. Whenever a new pretty member was baptized almost instantaneously she had a million brothers wanting to get with her while other long time members waited on Jehovah to find them a husband. My sister was attractive and beautiful not to mention mixed looking but wasn't dedicated yet brothers always wanted her.

I never got baptized and believe JW's are a cult but my family is still JW’s. My sister is frustrated because she is dark skinned and can't find a brother that wants to date her. They are all to busy fawning after pretty, Hispanic, or white sisters to be bother with her. She has decided to look elsewhere for a husband, outside of the Kingdom Hall because she is so sick of the racism and shallowness of the brothers. People may be as shallow outside as they are in the hall, but at least there is more to choose from out in the world.

Mosies, I'm not attacking JW's. In fact you notice in my last sentence I say that everyone inside and out of the JW world is rather shallow. Your answer is sarcastic and nasty and you make your organization look bad.

For the others, you do the same, why can't you stop being so defensive and give me a mindful honest answer instead of insults and defences?

P.S. I am sexy and beautiful by the way.

Answer 1

I noticed that you wern't attacking,but expressing what many young ones are saying in your presend mind set.You younger ones have a tough fight on your hands even to stay somewhat clean and within Jehovah's arrangement . You sound hurt and feel hurt for your sister however don't let it get the best of you,don't let it beat you ,you said you are sexy and beautiful which means confidence in yourself ,use that confidence and be positive for the good you KNOW about,you know what I mean ,become hopeful lean on your best understanding.Agapa love -You will be happier later when some of this is behind you.

Answer 2

As others have commented, the problem is not with the Witnesses, per se, but with human nature.

My Hall is made up mostly of older people, but there was once a Sister who fawned after the attractive Brothers from other halls.
When I knew her she was very spiritual and ended up settling down with an equally spiritual man of modest appearance.
People have many persona preferences. *shrug* Sorry your sister has had a difficult time, but going outside the organization is never the answer.

Answer 3

That doesn't ring true with what I know of the Witnesses. Maybe you should come back and see for yourself whether things have changed. Jehovah's Witnesses are normal people, they aren't eunuchs, young ones of any faith will generally act the same way. It has more to do with youth than it does their religion.

So you're saying, people are shallow in the Hall, and people are shallow outside the Hall, but outside there is more shallowness to chose from? I know plenty of people who are not shallow and they are all Witnesses. I would recommend that she aim for Bethel, she'll find a man in no time.

You don't want defences? So the right answer to you is one that agrees with you're opinions? Even though every Witnesses knows they aren't true?

Answer 4

Picking on JW once again huh?

Meh, your not all that great your self with all those racist comments you say over in the Cultures and society board against blacks and whites.

Hahahahahahaha.

Demon's will be demons won't they?

Instead of picking on JW all the time and being racist why don't you do something positive?

Grow flowers, bake a cake, help the poor.

And what religion are you anyway? Who ever you represent you sure do show what they really are.

Oh and P.S.

I am not a witness but my cousin is dark as night and white black asian and latino brother try to talk with her. But she wants to be single.

Just chill out, get rid of all that anger against JW's Blacks and Whites and just be free!

Come on 1. 2. 3. and Exhale.......see doesn't that feel better? Now put a smile on your face and love!

Answer 5

Honestly, as a general rule people go after the mate they are attracted to. What is attractive, however, is VERY subjective.

If you think we are cultists, why the curiosity?

I personally am not looking for a mate, period. If I were to look for one, my tastes might not be the same as someone else's, a simple fact of life. At times people don't find "the one" till they are in their 50's or later. It isn't always easy.

I personally firmly believe that if someone wants to be desired as a potential mate, they should be desirable, in a spiritual way.

Example, if someone wants to find someone with a good heart, then they need to try to have one themselves, and need to look at other's based on that, more than based on their waist or wallet size.

Answer 6

first of all you are attracted to what you want. sounds like to me your have low self as teem. you are only pretty or look good as you feel inside you must remember that everyone here on earth is not to be married I say pray to Jehovah God and he will heal your heart and guide you in the right way

Answer 7

--NO, not always or necessarily most, how really could you make a fair statistic of such a situation!
--My wife of 39 years was very spiritual & very attractive--still is, I have never found one as spiritual, so I must have with Jehovah's help, been looking for spirituality, mostly!
--Just because "it seems" as many have the fleshy tendency you describe in your & others views does not mean that is a correct assement!
--SO YOUR criteria could have a greatly wrong thrust in judgement!
--IS IT not Jehovah who should be left up to ultimate judgements (large or small)of any magnitude?
--THE PRINCIPLE of the following texts in dealing with choices should well be applied to many things:

(Romans 14:1-4) “. . .Welcome the [man] having weaknesses in [his] faith, but not to make decisions on inward questionings. 2 One [man] has faith to eat everything, but the [man] who is weak eats vegetables. 3 Let the one eating not look down on the one not eating, and let the one not eating not judge the one eating, for God has welcomed that one. 4 WHO ARE YOU TO JUDGE (my caps) the house servant of another? To his own master he stands or falls. Indeed, he will be made to stand, for Jehovah can make him stand.....
......10 But why do you judge your brother? Or why do you also look down on your brother? For we shall all stand before the judgment seat of God; 11 for it is written: “‘As I live,’ says Jehovah,"

--THE ORGANIZATION that both Jehovah & Christ are using is surely an imperfect one as well as us individuals and there are human problems that exist, BUT if Jehovah is using it and putting up with it SHOULD WE not do the same?
--I know not, of a more sincere one , even though there have been some serious issues involving my wife & I with it.---We still see Jehovah's guidance in its activity--that none other have!
***SHOULD that not be the most important matter?
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--UPDATE #1

---SHOULD WE then make the assement that because sisters are attractive that they are weak spiritually? (my wifes comment)

Answer 8

I have not experienced this w/ Witnesses, in 13 years.

I have seen that men (in general)
do go after attractive women.
It's not about "Witness"
it's men, and women;
that go after what seems attractive to them.
Simple.

Answer 9

I don't know what to say. I laughed a lot when I read this....... are you seriously asking this question? Or is it a 'tease' of some sort?

I haven't noticed anything of the sort, no, not for 7 years.

Answer 10

Maybe that's their preference. There is nothing we can do about that. It's between them and Jehovah.