make your mind act A) slower, B) become socially slower C) get embarressed and ashamed easier D) make you feel gross about yourself no matter what you do E) make your spelling worse F) concentration worse G) feel numb or/feel unmotivated and embarressed by this also.
and finally see no point in life and are suicidal.
i am worried about my friend and he described this exact same symptoms.
or is this another condition or am i spot on for saying he has depression?
poor sod. i am forcing him to seee a doctor soon. he was talking pretty heavy last night.
2007-10-14 05:02:47 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Classic depression symptoms.
2007-10-14 05:05:30 · answer #1 · answered by animalover 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yep sounds like depression to me and you're doing the right thing by taking him to the docs. Make it tomorrow though. I've had struggles with stress-induced depression for many years through having a son with special needs and having no help with him. There comes a point when all the reasons you think of to justify your existence, no longer become reasons - just excuses and that's when the suicidal thoughts begin. I've had medication about 3 times and only for short periods. It doesn't have to be a long term thing but they do help sometimes. They take a couple of weeks to kick in but once they do you start to think a bit more rationally and then you can start to work through your problems with less of the 'dark stuff' intruding into your thoughts.
You're a good friend by the way. I have a friend who actually saved me cos I was suicidal and she called every day from the other side of the country to make sure I was ok. I'd not even told her how I felt but she knew how down I was and knew it was then more than ever that I needed a good friend.
I've been free of depression now for almost 3 years and I feel fine. I met Mr Fantastic and I now have support at home which has made all the difference.
2007-10-14 05:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not sure about spelling or becoming slower etc but the main thread here is that he is completely apathetic i.e. doesn't seem to care or see the point.
The depression is very real and all of the symptoms show that it is so bad that he can't seem to care about the trivial things like spelling. Its all about 'what's the point' type of couldn't care less. Its not arrogant or selfish way but he feeling that no matter what he does in life doesn't matter and people don't see how much care he takes to do things - its UNNOTICED.
He probably feels invisible. I know because its happened to me and I felt the exact same as him - and sometimes still feel it. I've thought about those thoughts but then I think about my family and feel even worse!
I know someone who has actually done it too and their family and friends are devastated! Please get him to see someone quick. I'm seeing someone at the moment who is helping an awful lot but you still get relapses. My problem stems from years of emotional and psychological abuse.
You need to get to the cause. Sometimes people don't know why they feel like this but once they open up about things, it all comes spewing out and then THEY realise why they feel like that. It then releases the floodgates!
Pills only help with moods but that's a small part of it, as without counselling it will do no good and left with horrid side-effects that can perpetuate the symptoms.
In short it is TRUE depression and not the I'm just sad 'variety' that people say.
2007-10-14 05:26:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it pretty much sounds like clinical depression. Lack of motivation, feelings of inadequacy, confusion, suicidal thoughts are all in the list below and are pretty similar to the symptoms you describe.
Symptoms of depression include:-
Fatigue and sleep disorder
Lack of motivation
Poor concentration
Forgetfulness
Appetite disorder and weight fluctuation
Feelings of inadequacy
Loss of vitality
Minor ailments
Irrational fear
Confusion
Intolerance
Self-hatred
Self harm
Suicidal thoughts
I had depression for a couple of years back in the nineties and can identify with a few of the above. I'm fine now though so recovery is possible. Sounds as though the sooner he sees a doctor, the better. Phoning the Samaritans may be an idea too and they can be contacted on 07957 909090. Best of luck to you both.
2007-10-14 10:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by tattyhead65 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was depressed for a year because I was the laughing stock at my school and I felt like everybody hated me. I was always tired, I felt like I would be better off dead, and I would cry at almost everything. My grades plummeted and I went from getting As to Cs. Finally I talked to my parent, a psychologist and my guidance counseler. I was prescribed Prozac and over a year and a half I felt better. Even so, I still felt emotionally and physically drained. I was worried because I didn't know when this feeling would go away. Thankfully it only took a summer vacation. Please tell someone about your friend. It is the best thing you can do for him, I would know because when something does happen to him you might regret it for the rest of your life. You have the power to possibly save a person's life here. I hope that I have helped.
2007-10-14 05:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Aga G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This link to the Mind website will give you some easy to read and understand information.
Understanding depression:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Information/Booklets/Understanding/Understanding+depression.htm
It would be a good idea for your friend to see his GP but I am not too sure about you forcing him to do this. Please don't put him under any more pressure than he is already feeling. It is good that you want to support him, but don't push too hard. If he agrees to going for the appointment let him decide whether or not he wants you to go in to see the Dr with him. He may have things he needs to say that he won't want to talk about in front of you.
Also a good idea would be to encourage him to write down the way he is feeling and his worst fears, then if he is unable to say the words he can hand over what he has written and the Dr will still be able to get a good picture.
Another good idea would be to see if there is a local mental health charity in your area:
http://www.mind.org.uk/Mind+in+your+area/
they are easy to access and it only takes a phone call, and they are much less formal than the health services which may suit your friend better.
They deal with all kinds of mental ill health and have lots of knowledge and understanding, and they won't judge your friend. They can offer support, information and guidance.
Hope this helps.
2007-10-14 06:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jules 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes to "all of the above". Your friend need immediate medical help. There is no need to suffer, there are things that can help!
Do NOT tell him to see a psychologist!!!! I was diagnosed with clinical depression and the psychologist only made things WORSE! I have a chemical imbalance problem, not a mental problem. Got on an SSRI and have been great ever since.
2007-10-14 05:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by jersey girl in exile 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Depression can be a mixture of things that all accumulate to one. He sounds to me like his self confidence is at an all time low causing these feelings.....maybe something has happened in his past that he is unable to forget, no matter how big or small.
He definately need to seek advice so he recieves the best help.
Good luck to both you, and your friend. Hes lucky to have you looking out for him.
2007-10-14 05:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by Missy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A therapist would be better than a doctor. Depression is treatable at least two ways through therapy and some very good positive medications. If you care about your friend call a clinic and get some names of people to call. Do it today.
2007-10-14 05:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by Harley3000 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yeah it sounds alot like depression or an anxiety disorder, get him to the doctors soon and they can help. Good luck, and well done for being a good concerned friend.
2007-10-14 05:09:46 · answer #10 · answered by stardustlost87 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
yes its depression u need to try and talk to him about why he feels this way where it started was it maybe he has split with a g/f or b/f that they thought was going to be for ever or is there something thats happened and they dont want to talk about it be there for ur friend and try and get some answers without being angry take ur friend out dont let ur friend sit around thinking about all the thinks that are making him/her depressed it will only get worst i no ive been there and im ok now thks to my friends that were there for me when i needed them
2007-10-14 05:09:43 · answer #11 · answered by william l 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋