I keep reading and searching the web about Army boyfriends/husbands, but it just defaults to girlfriends,etc and all male spouses I found are also in the military. I am starting to feel that I am the only civilian man dating a woman in the Army! Anyone else out there? I feel like the black guy in Army Wives haha She is an officer and we have a great relationship, considering we only see each other like twice a month. (We don't live in the same state)..Just curious to see if anyone is in the same situation. I really do think I may be the only one.
2007-10-14 04:33:23 · 8 answers · asked by JJ 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I have a cousin who is in this same situation. Her boy friend is very committed to her so it works for them. He just looks on it like a job that she has that requires travel and relocation. Thank goodness he is very self assured so they can really look on themselves as partners in the relationship and he recognizes how important her career is to her.They are facing her deployment to Iraq shortly and this has them with some concerns. Most regular jobs aren't this dangerous so there are some different things to consider. Thank goodness her boyfriend has the type of job that he can transfer to another area if need be but for the next year he will be having a very long distance relationship. I think though if its meant to be they will overcome these hurdles and it will only make the relationship stronger.
2007-10-14 04:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by Diane M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rest assured, you're not the only one!! You are in the minority, for sure, though. I've always had a lot of respect for the guys who stay home when their wives/gfs are deployed because you're right, everything is geared towards wives... all the FRGs and events are usually themed towards women. We used to have a "girls night out" event for wives at our last command and there was one sole husband.. You should see if your girlfriend has any friends who are also dating civilians.. maybe you guys could chat via email or something. I remember on myspace there was a group for military boyfriends.
2007-10-14 04:52:12 · answer #2 · answered by Denise S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey I am an "Army Wife" and my hubby is deployed to Afghanistan. Rather you're male or female and with a military member, it can be hard. Distance and time away can make it tough, but even as a spouse, I have found that the most important thing is to keep yourself busy and make sure you are living your lfe to the fullest and then your partner, when she is actully around, can be an added benefit and you won't be overly needy or clingy LOL
2007-10-14 04:44:07 · answer #3 · answered by dawnsmisti 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be totally honest with you, your an oddity. Its usually the other way around. I don't know how you do it, I'm sure its very hard. All the men that I know that are dating a military woman and in the military too, I have see a few woman who dated a guy before they joined the military but it usually ends up that she or he cheats and it ends the relationship. I wish you the best of luck with your relationship.
2007-10-14 04:42:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've looked and looked for similar stuff, but just like you, just get the steriotype Military man/home bound woman. I'm in the Navy and my boyfriends not. I really want to know what I'm putting him through being away and whats the best way to show him that I'll always love him. Some people look down on me for going into the military; but how can someone look down on another for serving their country (whether it be a woman or man). Best of luck to you and your sweetie!
2007-10-14 10:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Life goes on 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lol...I have a friend who is in the same situation as you are. His wife is an officer and was training a state away while he was active for awhile. He then got out and they finally were able to be together.
2007-10-14 04:39:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So your not talking to me, but my husband would love to talk to you. I'm enlisted in the Army and my husband (as he put it) stays home and cooks and cleans our house. (His words not mine)
What i'm saying is my husband feels the same way, he misses me when i'm gone and went to this "station" that helps with seperation from your loved one from deployment. He told me he'd never go back because there were like 15 women and NO MEN.
2007-10-14 09:51:40 · answer #7 · answered by woofywaffles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust me you are not the only one, but there are significantly less of them out there. i am in the army now, and now i see, i should have just married a female soldier, life would be great! lol
2007-10-14 05:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by Jopa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋