Aren't weddings sad. Two people becoming one... Why would anybody do that?

Answer 1

It's actually an ancient property exchange ritual. The bride is exchanged for a "dowry" equal to her monetary value, and is witnessed by a religious authority, so that the man can propagate his genetic code through her. They aren't becoming one.. she's becoming his property.

Answer 2

It is sad. It's also an outdated concept. The problem with marriage is its relative permanence, not taking into account potential changes your partner might go through. People - and their personalities - can change radically over a lifetime. After ten years of marriage, you may just find yourself married to someone completely different from who you met.

I view relationships like a roller coaster. Get on and enjoy the ride while it lasts. Maybe it'll last the rest of your life, maybe it won't. Either way, it doesn't matter. What is the benefit of being with one person the rest of your life, even after you no longer love that person? Why make rash decisions and attempt to map out your entire life in advance?

And Scarlet Ginger: You hit the nail on the head. There is nothing more crass than a legal contract over love.

Answer 3

The Christian wedding is not sad. it is a commitment that two people will care for and look out for one another for the rest of their lives. It sometimes (all too often) fails, but is still the best way of a man and woman living together and bringing up children. It needs hard work, trust and sometimes rebuilding of trust. If you think it is exciting and sensible to change partners every couple of years ythen good luck to you

Answer 4

Depends on how you view weddings.
In my faith, a wedding is not two people becoming one.
In my faith, a wedding is two people formalizing a relationship. Equal partners in a homestead.
But then... we're not patriarchal shitheads, either. Nor are we matriarchal fluffies. We believe in equality.
Thank you.

Answer 5

I personally hate weddings (and funerals). I very rarely go to either but I will go to the reception. It's the whole "yoked" expression in the Bible that I can't get past. A yoke is for a working oxen or horse, used to plow fields or pull carts. Not my idea of a great time.

Answer 6

two ppl becomin 1 can never be sad, only if u make it sad it can b, however this depends how u look at it. i see it like this, ppl marryin n becoming 1 is a special and spiritual way of ppl getting close to one another, its a way of showing som1 how much u want to be committed to som1 and how much u love them and care for them. som ppl in socitey marry for sake of ppl making it a norm thing of doing,,,but i see it and i know alot of ppl out there will think the same that marryin is to hav a life long commitment to som1 to show them devotion and love. marryin helps to gain u a psychological commitment this helps as couples feel more committed to each other.

Answer 7

Because the two becoming one can be an opportunity to play off the best qualities of each while adding strength to the weaknesses. My husband and I are incredibly different, and I appreciate how we compliment one another. I am daily given rason to be thankful for our differences.

Answer 8

Because it's a commitment. It's a legal contract that protects you and your spouse rights to property and your children should you divorce.
Anyone who says its "just a peice of paper" has never been married. LOL
And yeah the whole "Become one" is a Christian concept. Woe be the man who ever tries to "own" me. Hell my husband can't even tell me what to do with out WWIII.

Answer 9

Why do people get married? Oh I don't know maybe because they love each other and want to be together forever. Sounds like a plan to me since I've been married for almost 5 yrs now.

Answer 10

in fact this 2 people will multiply to big family if they are ment to have children, means will become 4 or 8 in long term, not one