Girlfriend too insensitive?

Question

I'm trying to figure out why my girlfriend says some of the things she does. I have been accused of being a little hypersensitive in the past, but I see most people being either hurt or at least taken aback by some of the statements she's made. Examples: Told me I need to lose weight, I'm not the biggest she's been with (not solicited), no sympathy when I work late "aww, poor baby", tells friends/family in front of me that I drive a POS, makes jokes about things I just got written up for at work, and last weekend only worried about how it affected her when I canceled dinner to rescue a friend on the side of the road. I understand keeping a sense of humor, and a little ribbing for mistakes, but I generally look to my partner for emotional support and this has been the opposite from my perspective. I've given up discussing work problems with her because she works longer hours and has zero sympathy. How do I handle this? She expects me to keep her feelings in mind when talking btw.

Answer 1

Sounds like she needs a little break from you! I recommend telling her you need your space for a while! Give her a little wake up call.

See how she reacts, if she is shocked and wants to stay close, tell her the lack of empathy and constant critism must change or you are out!

Answer 2

I do think she's very insensitive,you need to have a long talk the two of you. Some of the things she has said sound hurtful(you weight for example, and about your job this is personal info she sounds as tho she has no respect for you.) You canceled dinner to help a friend. Who wouldn't understand that? The question is why do you think a little humor is OK? If the person is telling a joke,or said something funny that's humor, but what she's doing isn't humor it's embarrassing. I agree keep her feelings in mind, but on the other hand she should do the same (KEEP YOUR FEELINGS IN MIND.) A relationship is not one sided.You need to talk, and be honest about how she really makes you feel.

Answer 3

No your no longer being insensitive in any respect. How long have you ever been with your lady pal. If it is not long then perhaps she does not comprehend your mom's ailment appropriate. or possibly in case you have been at the same time for a whilst she might sense which you place your mom in front of her each and all the time. that would sound insensitive yet from time to time women get slightly bored to death in the event that they sense they are competing with they are fellas mom each and all the time. To you this would possibly not be the case for the reason which you like your mum and could do something for her yet perhaps from time to time she could choose to sense which you 2 can flow out without checking up on your mum.

Answer 4

Ugh, I hate that! Look, you're absolutely right, you're supposed to look to your GF for emotional support, kindness, consideration, and appreciation. Those are just some of the qualities that really make a relationship worth while, and make it work! It looks like she has none for you, and how can you love someone who is mean to you? Some people are just like that, and well....should be with other people like themselves. You're not being sensitive either....YOU are the one who knows what it takes to make a happy and healthy relationship. You can try bringing it to her attention, *shrugs* but really...that's just the way she is. This probably isn't what you want to hear but, I think she's kind of a b*t*h, and well, there are lots of sweet girls out there who are a lot sweeter.

Answer 5

Trust me when I tell you this, because i am finding that alot more women are insensitive to emotion needs of a man. However, it sounds like to me that your personalities are not clicking. She apparently has been treated like that before to the extent she feels she does not have to be that way although she will never admit. She clearly does not understand that it is a two-way street. If I were you I would elsewhere for the emotional support that you seek.

Answer 6

i know a couple exact like this... you have to stand up for yourself at times!
it's not a fair relationship if you can't talk to her about problems and she can always turn to you... if you feel trapped in the relationship now then get ou to it asap cause the hole will only get deeper (not in a sexual sense!!! :P lol!!)
but on a serious note, it's not fair what's going on and doesn't really sound fun {if u don't mind me saying}... talk to her and tell her how you're feeling, if you can... if she starts to turn the tables to her again then she's just being selfish and expects attention.. don't give it to her.. just do what you want for a while instead of what she wants!
good luck
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Answer 7

Your g/f is totally selfish and self centered.She doesnt take anyone but herself into account.You need to tell her this right beforte you give her the old dumparoo.
This might wake her up a bit, if not just think of how miserable youd be putting up with her behavior for LIFE!

Answer 8

sounds like ur the girl ans she is the man. just kidding imlike need emotional support/sensitive. you just have to tell her how u feel and hopefully she will change . if nowell then u dont deserve to be treated like this

Answer 9

Well maybe she wants to talk about her work problems? I can see that you go to her for support and she should be more sensitive. Tell her this. Talk to her, communication is key. Maybe things between you two aren't working out?

Answer 10

when she has something "emotional" she has to share with you make a joke out of it or complain about what u missed becuz of that or something jusst show her no sympathy.... eventually she will be like why dont you care about me anymore or something and say im just showing you what you do to me...how does it feel?

yea hah thats at least what i would do!