She's been contacting me through emails only. We met in a chatroom 3 years ago and she lives in one state I live in another. We did meet in person many many times. Anytime she wanted me to come see her I did. She never came to see me. I did so much for her but the relationship from the start was 1 sided, me doing everything. Anyhow, we broke up AGAIN, always breaking up getting back together, it's a cycle she likes to have. Last night after begging me to put her pictures in my profile in chat and I did she then started on me about my weight and how my diabetes is affected by my weight. I'm not that damn big. I am about 20 pounds overweight and have been trying to lose it. She went OFF on me. She then said I'm going to bed, I'm tired of trying to help you. She didn't respond after that. I found out she was in the chatroom at 1:10 in the morning again. She's addicted to this chatroom bullcrap and says I am. I don't go in unless she asks me to go in. Why is she doing this?
2007-10-14 02:04:39 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Does she still love me or care about me or is she just trying to be controlling? She mentioned that her lawn needed mowing and she was tired of begging her one friend to mow it. Like hinting around that she wanted me to mow the lawn. She's an older woman so it's difficult for her to mow the lawn. People say she's using me. What should I do? What do you all think?
2007-10-14 02:05:53 · update #1
Sounds like some crazy games she's playing. It is good you are smart enough to question it. You sound like a nice guy. Anyone who loves you will love you without condition would not make weight be an issue. She is doing this because you let her. Don't let her. Block her screen name and ignore her emails, this will be hard, but you are strong enough to do it.
I got into the habbit of online dating and it always ended in heart ache. Try getting involved in some kind of extra activity that interests you to help you meet people, if that is what you want. Good Luck
2007-10-14 02:13:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe in her own way she does care about you, but it is not healthy for you. All the bad stuff she saying to you in the long run will hurt yourself, you will think twice about how you feel look and so on. I know it hurts as you did so much for her and now you are asking yourself did she just use me. Let her go, should be easy if don't live in the same state, talk to her when you go to the chat room, but here is nothing saying that you have to stay when she starts bad mouthing you. Sign out when she starts, maybe than she will get the hint that you have things under control and don't did to hear her talking trash. If she doesn't get the hint than tell her, thanks for caring but I have things under control. No one is making you stay there and listen to her, except you. As for mowing the grass, I am sure there are people out there for a few dollars that will come and do it for her, time for both of you to stand on your own two feet. I am sure that both of you will make it . Good Luck and TURN OFF THE CHAT ROOM WHEN SHE STARTS!!!
2007-10-14 09:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by motherof two 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to this old fells very much like you are being taking advantage of by this woman. Chatrooms can be very welcoming and people can lie and embellish stories to be anyone and anything they want to portray. You might be best to honest with this woman and let her know how you've been feeling about this relationship and that it is time to put it to rest. Inform her that she is a very nice lady but that things just aren't working out as you had planned and/or hoped. Hopefully she isn't a stalker and will not continue to try and contact you after you've given her the travel card. Sounds like you are both mature adults therefore it should not be problematic to speak with her honestly. Best of luck.
2007-10-14 09:13:57 · answer #3 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) you need to get off the chat room and get in the gym
2) you need to snuff her off, just don't even talk to her for at least a good 2 months
3) get a new girlfriend and try to move on
4) yes, she has you on a leash and knows it. She will only tug when one of her other guys isn't there, you're the fifth wheel.
Only needed in emergencies
5) she probably will always love you, but that's irrelavant
2007-10-14 09:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your ex is very unstable and emotionally messed up. She is doing that because she trying to pass her insecurities on to you. She sounds like she cannot get enough of the drama. Trust me when I tell you, no pussy in the world is worth the stress. Give her a "stone cold" salute and cut her off.
2007-10-14 09:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by spencer4571 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, for starters, u deserve better, she's treating u like crap enven after u do that for her. as far as i can c, she is using u. Try not to give into her evrey request, show some self respect and stand up for what u think every now and then, i mean sereosly, if she is what u explained to us, she is not worth pursuing a deeper realtionship with.
2007-10-14 09:13:29 · answer #6 · answered by damn_spiders 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bro mate very very eazy answer, just leave and dont message back. ask her to get lost and dont show your emotions to her, act like you dont care. Ask her to come see you and if shes stubborn about it then just reply "ok np" never show your upset,
Man you can get better, it might not be now or 4 months be it will come, this girl is just riding along because you buy her things and treat her like a queen, save the cash for someone who really derserves it and thats you.
2007-10-14 09:10:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋