2007-10-14 01:59:52 · 23 answers · asked by Patricia 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He was a big guy.........but he was small downstairs and wasnt trying very hard in tha bedroom. I feel a bit bad but i dont think i should it was probly the lack of trying that upset me more
2007-10-14 02:18:39 · update #1
in what sense is he small, i guess it sumes up to ur tastes!
2007-10-14 02:04:32 · answer #1 · answered by Zorro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't matter if its morally wrong or not. The fact is you are not happy with him so let that determine your decision.
It is a shallow to split up with someone because they are small downstairs but I assume that if everything else was perfect it wouldn't bother you. On that basis clearly he is not the right guy for you.
From his point of view you would be doing him a favour by letting him go find another person who will appreciate him for all his qualities rather than the size of his tackle.
By the way how would you feel if a guy dumped you because your boobs were small or saggy as they will be in later life?
2007-10-14 02:26:45 · answer #2 · answered by andy r 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If his size turns you off - and I mean that literally - than it is best that you turn him loose. I am not a fan of lying, but in this case, telling him the truth would be cruel and rude. I do hope you have given him an honest chance to prove size really is not what matters - it is how it is used.
Sorry to disagree with most of the people who have answered this, but I had to let a guy go because he was HUGE, aggressive, and clumsy - that made things VERY unpleasant. Call it shallow all you want - reality was, I could not handle it. And as far as the "small breasts" argument - those are clearly marked on the outside of the package to begin with! No need to venture in if that turns you off!
Should a person stay in a relationship they are unhappy with?
2007-10-14 02:22:34 · answer #3 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know about morally wrong but it is a bit shallow!
From past experience (and I'm sure many women would say the same) size does not matter completely. I was with some one who was quite small for about 5 years and although the begining of the relationship was awquard, I found he could be trained!! On the flip side I was also with someone who was quite big and he was awful in bed!! I think he assumed that by just being big it was good enough!
It's all about how the man understands you and your body. You can guide him too some men need guidance and appreciate it!
2007-10-14 02:35:17 · answer #4 · answered by meowmushu 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless your sure, my advice is don't break up with him. being uncertain and breaking up, in my experience, usually causes you to say "what if?" and may cause you to regret that decision later, especially if he has found a girlfriend during the split. If you haven't talked to him about his lack of effort, do so (his next girlfriend may and that may solve his little problem). If you've talked and he still doesn't want to extend the effort to compensate for his mini-wee then this maybe (serious) cause to reconsider whether you even want the relationship to continue. communication from both ends is key to a lasting relationship. Every woman is different in this way, and it may take time for him to learn how your body responds to his (unless he, as said, doesn't want to extend the effort). People who pay attention and are good listeners make good lovers. Good Luck!
2007-10-17 03:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by Voodooinc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
patty
i want to share an experience i had last month.
i got to know a woman i met on a dating agency online and i gave her my number
and one day out of the blue she phoned me and at first i thought who is this?
then i remembered and we starting chatting regularly and not long after we met and i have to admit that i wasn't impressed because although i actually am attracted to larger women,
this woman was grossly overweight and i just did not fancy her,
but of course i didn't have the courage to tell her there and then because i didn't want to hurt her feelings.
so we went to a local pub
had a drink and a meal and a chat and a laugh
then she dropped me off where i live and she went home.
i thought about sending her a text message to say thanks but no thanks,
but i thought that wouldn't be right
so it dragged on and on
and she made it extremely clear she wanted to have sex with me asap but i didn't want to because i just didn't find her attractive or sexy
in my opinion she was too fat
which is a surprise to me because i actually prefer very large women but with more backside
not just a huge belly.
anyway to cut a long story short
she finally got the message and actually dumped me
but in my case i was relieved because i just didn't fancy her.
i know i may sound shallow
but i do find bbw with a pearshaped big backside hips etc more sexy rather than the barrel shaped type of bbw.
2007-10-14 03:38:00 · answer #6 · answered by drummer man 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no but it's stupid. If your looking for a mate because of size? Good luck on what type you'll get! Just because a man is huge, doesn't mean he will be nice, tinder loving, caring, or considerate.
You could get a man who beats, rapes even murders, women. But that's ok as long as his has a big one huh?
Remember the old saying, It's not the size that matters it's how they use it!
2007-10-14 02:06:55 · answer #7 · answered by spiritwalker 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi,
It does seem harsh as you are really dumping him on his appearance of his body and not for anything he has really done wrong.
Also it not really his fault and there nothing he can do about it - so if you finish with him, he has the added pain of knowing there is no chance of the two of you getting back together as he won't be able to do anything about his size.
But it your choice - maybe have some tact when you do it as you going to hurt him anyway.
Lx
2007-10-14 02:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by SunshineApple 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Would it wrong if he broke up with you because he thoughted your breast was to big or to small or he thoughted you had a big butt and didn't like it..And you say he didn't try hard enough in the bed room, maybe just maybe he also thoughted you was not worth it. ..Women like you just show what a small brain you have and a cold heart..you think with whats between your legs and not your heart.
2007-10-14 02:42:41 · answer #9 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah it would be like a guy splitting up with you cos your boobs are too small lol. unfortunately though, things like this happen all the time (we just dont tell them that when we break up with them!)
i agree with the reply up there though, you have to give it a try first, if you fall for someone size etc wouldnt be an issue, you'd love them no matter what.
2007-10-14 02:06:05 · answer #10 · answered by laura s 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as if you are a shallow person because you think that size matters more than feelings.
2007-10-14 05:33:20 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋