my bf has asked me to keep a promise a promise i cant keep.
its driving me mad as what he has asked me really up set me ive been crying all night and all morning and now i cant stop scarching my arm im scared i might self harm my self again and i dont want to go down that road as i badly cut my self before and i had to go to hospital and i dont want that to happen again.
PLEASE SOME ONE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!!!!!!
2007-10-13 23:56:27 · 13 answers · asked by Kirsty 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Ok first of all you need to calm down and not let this get you down even more than you already are its dangerous! then you need to sit down with your boyfriend and talk with him tell him that cutting is not an easy thing to just stop doing its very addictive and it becomes apart of you because you grow so accustomed to it and tell him straight up that you cannot stop on the basis of a promise tell him that it is really getting you down. Then its completely up to you but you should get some help either a councillor or psychologist see self harm is just like smoking once you start its very hard to stop there is usually a reasoning behind it the objective is to come to terms yourself as to why you self harm and deal with that issue could be something that happend in the past only you know and the battle does not have to be fought alone seriously seek help theres no wrong in that!
2007-10-14 01:01:52 · answer #1 · answered by tihor m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a great thing that you recognise self harm is bad and you don't want to do it any more. If you live at home (I'm guessing you're a teenager,) you should tell your parents RIGHT AWAY! I told my parents about my self harm, and it was the hardest, but also the best thing I've ever done. Self harm can be overcome. You can do it, sweetie. I know. I self harmed for about a year and a half before finally telling my parents so I could get help. Now it has been more than six months since I last cut. Something to try when you feel like harming yourself is to take ice cubes and squeeze them hard, this hurts like a ***** but is safer han self harm and doesn't leave a mark. Please, save yourself. No one else can. Get help today. If you believe in God, I also suggest that you pray and look for guidance from whoever/whatever you think is up there.
2007-10-14 11:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by diepolitiker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your boyfriend nuts? Don't think about it. Go out. Have fun. Talk to friends or see a priest or a shrink. Broken promises are inevitable at times. If you don't want to be on that road to destruction again, you are the only one who can control the situation. You must have learned a lesson or something from that past experience. You've grown older & wiser now so pull yourself together. Pray & meditate for spiritual guidance. Good friends can help. Good luck.
2007-10-14 07:07:25 · answer #3 · answered by zynjen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your bf and his promise is not the end of this life. Feel proud about yourself and tell yourself what will happen if I couldn't keep this promise?? Am I going to lose my bf or make myself feels stupid or what ever. So what nothing worth it in this life you could find another guy and another life within a few days.
2007-10-14 07:07:16 · answer #4 · answered by Ask me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, first take a deep breath, you need to calm down. Write down what your feeling, talk to a close friend/family member about it. You need to find something to do to take your mind off of it. Maybe even something as simple as going shopping or hanging out with friends would take your mind off of it for now. It is great that you don't want to do that anymore..just stick with it! You can do it!
What is the promise you have to keep?
2007-10-14 12:16:31 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Jara-Lee♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ONLY way you can stop all this madness is to tell someone and get the problem resolved it may hurt like hell at first but when i have to do something that is gonna suck, just think of it like this, in one year none of this will matter.
IF this is life threating and you dont tell no one if something bad happens you WILL never forgive yourself
2007-10-14 07:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by BlahBluhBlahBluhBlah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey baby, please do not panic,
i should tell u solution.
see u can not do what he has promised u to do.
so . do not do it. but tell him that u were so shocked that u sufferd all night and also was just gonna harm urself.
surely he will let u free that promise.
u can tell me openly on my email about what promise that ws?
take care. be with me i will solve ur probs. just do not do any evil act.
2007-10-14 07:04:09 · answer #7 · answered by give me answer pls. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hon... i'm sorry you are having this problem
If he told you something that could compromise his life, or if he is in danger, tell his parents. If he's not safe, then it is NOT wrong to get him help.
I sure hope it works out. Whatever it is, it's NOT your fault.
Please get help for you too... you deserve good help.
2007-10-14 11:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See self harm, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 16.
2007-10-14 07:20:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you cant keep his secret as it seems to be stressing you out, and just try and relax, maybe if you spoke to someone like a GP or something that might help.
Good Luck!
2007-10-14 06:59:51 · answer #10 · answered by Kayleigh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋