so we've been together for 8 months. we only see eachother on weekends, because i'm at college and have a dorm there - about an hour away from our hometown. he attends college at hometown university.
i saw him yesterday and he was pretty quiet, said he was tired. i can understand this because he hadn't had much sleep the past few days - he plays football and had 3 late night-games with his team the past 3 days. so i took pretty good care of him i guess, i walked to the local store to get his favorite pizza (he was really happy i did this), got him a drink, gave him a footmassage, stuff like that. when he left, he said that he loved me very much for taking such good care of him - i suppose he's referring to me getting him a pizza and stuff?
should i worry here? he texted me when he got home, said he was already in bed and that he was sorry for being quiet and again that i was really sweet for him.
2007-10-13 22:54:53 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he did ask me to go somewhere with him on friday, just a place where a lot of his family and friends would be because it was like an engagement-party
2007-10-13 22:55:50 · update #1
Sounds like he was just tired and has alot going on. College and studying... plus playing a sport... can kick your butt and make you exhausted.
Its good you were understanding. Start worrying if he continues to be quiet and passive, but i would give him the benefit of the doubt. Especially since he text'd you that you were really sweet. Sounds like he appreciates you understanding.
Good Luck
2007-10-13 23:00:38 · answer #1 · answered by misjes2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this starts happening EVERY single weekend that you see him, you should bring it up to him and ask him if something is wrong. If it's just happening every now and then, don't worry about it. It sounds like he's got a pretty busy schedule, and it sounds like he legitimately felt bad for not being as energetic as he usually is around you. So don't stress, and don't badger him about it. Nothing is more annoying than someone constantly asking you if something is wrong when nothing is wrong except for the fact that you're tired. Not that you ARE badgering him. Just giving you a heads up. Most girls do that with the best of intentions and don't even notice that they're badgering. It sounds like you've got a sweet guy there. Let this one roll off your back.
2007-10-14 06:05:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Blue Eyeball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down. For now you have to take him at his word. If he says he was just tired and has asked you out again why not believe him? Why go looking for trouble or trying to create drama? Men don't have the same need to communicate with words as women. Sometimes they just need you to be physically present to feel close to you and bond. If you are too needy and demanding you will push him away. Also, I think it is great that you went out of your way to be sweet to him when he was feeling a bit low. We all could use that from time to time. I just recommend you work to keep the balance and make sure you are the one being taken care of from time to time.
2007-10-14 06:09:20 · answer #3 · answered by Lost Leo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should worry yet.. sometimes guys really are just quiet when they're tired.. if you see him again and thinks are back to normal then there's definitely nothing to worry about.. just try not to push the issue that 'there's something wrong' cause guys usually find it weird when it seems like you're trying to create a problem when there is none.. good luck and i hope everything goes well for the both of you
2007-10-14 06:00:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hadn't appreciated your efforts, didn't invite you to the party or didn't text you then I might think something was up BUT what you have described sounds like a tired bf. It's always hard when you only see each other on wknds. There is a bit of pressure to make the most of your time together but if your tired, then your tired! As long as he isn't letting out his tiredness on you negatively then it all sounds fine!
2007-10-14 06:05:46 · answer #5 · answered by dudessday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally tend to get quiet like that around my gf if I'm sort of lost in thought. I might be lost in thought because of her or because of something else I'm worried about. But I wouldn't say that the non-talkativeness is in itself a bad sign. He did express his gratitude towards you, afterall.
2007-10-14 06:01:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a lovely guy, dont stress. People do get tired its only normal. Dont push him or you'll end up pushing him away.
2007-10-14 05:58:40 · answer #7 · answered by kiwichickie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem. Everyone gets tired sometimes. Nothing you said seemed unusual or wrong.
2007-10-14 05:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by the Boss 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Just tired" is the oldest excuse in the book. You should get to the root of the problem with him.
2007-10-15 11:49:02 · answer #9 · answered by Andre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to worry,I'm pretty sure he's just tired and all...and ain't it great that he loves.
2007-10-14 06:00:40 · answer #10 · answered by Kevin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋