I've had alot of time to think about this and if i ever dated a girl that wanted to have sex but I didn't should I tell her that I don't want to do it till marrage ? or just give in ?
2007-10-13 22:43:13 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do not think that it is a good idea to set yourself such harsh rules. If it is for religious reasons then fair enough.
If you are in a long term relationship and are committed to each other then why wait. I think that sex before marriage is important because otherwise you might not be compatible.
I would never have got married without "trying before you buy".
2007-10-13 22:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by dogs3kids2hubby1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't give in! if she wants to have sex and youve only being going out for a short time then shes only using u! if you say no and the next day you see her with another man that means she IS using u! but on the other hand no lady likes an inexperienced lover. So waiting until marriage can be a good AND bad thing
2007-10-13 22:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by Alice A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a good thing do not worry all will come to you in time. If you find a girl that you felt like that with give it time and slowly commit to each other but save the full sex until marriage. Never just give in it may not be what you truely want.
Many true Christains do not have sex before marriage.but they do think about it lots. give that part of your mind over to the sourse that keeps you on the right path.
2007-10-13 22:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by sarell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is good to wait. You will be happy you waited on your wedding night. Never give in to pressure to have sex. Let who every you're dating know how you feel about not having sex. They will either respect you for it or they are foolish.
You will probably need to date women with the same frame of mind (goal) as you, so that it is easier and there won't be any pressure to have sex.
2007-10-13 22:48:24 · answer #4 · answered by You Don't Know Me! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are just dating and there is no commitment-do not
comprimise your values. Sex is a way of expressing
a complete commitment between two people. It should be preceded with feelings of respect for yourself and your partner. Holding off until you are married is not a bad thing
as long as you know the true reasons why you feel this way.
After all they are YOUR feelings. Mary s
2007-10-13 23:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by mary s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you buy a car without having driven it? Would you buy a stereo without listening to it? Really don't wanna come across as rude or crass, but, how do you know that you will be sexually compatible? It does play a rather large and important part of a successful marriage/relationship. Get test driving today!!!....
2007-10-13 22:48:17 · answer #6 · answered by rabbitoh75 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never compromise yourself for anyone, it isn't worth it.
Don't be pressured into something you don't want to do just because someone else might want to. Stay true to yourself and you won't go wrong.
If you think she's Mrs. Right, and she thinks she is too, she'll respect your decision and wait.
If not, then perhaps she isn't what you thought after all.
-Em
2007-10-13 22:46:32 · answer #7 · answered by emeraldseye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until marriage! So right on. Why? Bwcause then you atleast know it will be memorable, and be with someone that turely has your heart in vice versa. Finally when your first it with a person that means the world to you and you know them, they know you, its a totally different experience than with someone you liek and wanna sleep with. Love and making love go hand in hand but first comes the marriage. I swear you'll be so glad you waited. And to let you know, for a person to wait--that hell-of-a character, Its always easier to say YES than no. But the one who says no is more respected because the yrespect themselves. Thank God someone stil lhas morales!!! ROCK ON!
2007-10-13 22:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by mistista07 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to have sex, do it. If not, don't. It's all up to you. Don't let someone pressure you into something you want to wait for. I personally think waiting is precious and respectful. It says that you think it's important and are waiting for that special one.
:) Good luck!
2007-10-13 22:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mary Jane's Last Dance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex before marriage is very important. Many christians do it.
Imagine marrying someone you didn't enjoy having sex with, how crap would that be. A lifetime of unenjoyable bedtime which will lead to adultery.
2007-10-13 22:47:20 · answer #10 · answered by DockLuv 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋