What best can you do your tot 2 - 4y.o saying NO & mean it...What best you do w/o breaking the child growth..?

Question

...mentally, psychologically, or emotionally, most particular, the child's learning to early age making right decision and analytical development...WHAT can MAKES the child best...Please don't tell me Child has no right to decide...

Answer 1

Interesting question...........because I was talking to my daughter about that, and telling her that she does a very good job of it.
Kids understand more than we think.
It helps to sit down and talk about the rules and the different consequences for breaknig that rule. Then make another list of good behavior and the rewards for it. Make a chart, even if the kid can't read, they will know the rules and they can't argue with you or push you becasue you stick with those rules. A very important thing is to never budge or give in to them or they will know that with enough crying or fits mom and dad always eventually break down and give in.
Also, make sure the consquences are ones that you can carry out and that arn't age unapprovite for the kid.
It is suggested that time outs or naughty chairs usuall work well by giving the child a minute per year. Which means two minutes for a two year old.

Also, Praise your child for doing something right. If they were kind to they sister, tell that how proud you were that they didn't fight with sister. If they remember to do something without being reminded praise them. Let them learn that being good is way better than being bad.

When there is saddness or strong feeling with your child talk to them about it. If the child is sad. Say something like this
"you look very sad- can you tell me with your words why you feel so sad?" Lets say the child is fearful of changing schools after a move. say something like this."I know how hard it was to leave your friend, move to another city and start a new school. It is normal to feel sad. It is ok to be sad, then you will get used to the changes you have made & then your sadness will go away"

Also, give your child at a very young age the oppertunity to make some decisions. It is too huge of a choice when you stand in their room and ask them to pick what they want to wear that day. It is good to ocassionally put out two choices of what to wear. Let the child decide. According to age the chld needs to be taught how to make decisionsss with confidence.
Today I took my grandaughter to one of the $1 places. She had a $5 bill and some change in her purse. BTW she is 6 years old. I told her she had money to buy five things. Being thoughtful she brouught her mom and her brother something.
She has learned that she can see dozent of things she wante yes has learned the self control to be able to cjppse somthing to buy. She has also learned to care about otehrs. I gabe her lots of praise for thinking about others.

Actually when you think about it, your child will learn how to make decisions.

One more thing. Teach a child to calm them self or redirect they emotionsl. Diversion is the best way to subelly take the child re focase on something positive.

Oh gosh it is 3am here in california. I am beyond tired

Answer 2

This question is extremely hard to understand, it barely makes any sense, but I will try to answer.

If you are asking the best way to tell a child "no" without affecting it's development, I would say the best way is when it is doing something inappropriate then say "no" very firmly and move it's hand, or the whole child, away from the situation that is occurring. Try not to be silly and too strict about it (ie, I don't have a problem with my son having several books out at one time) You need to have a balance between good behaviour and allowing them to express themselves.

Hope that helps a bit - hard question to answer!

Answer 3

When it comes to children of that age, they do not have the maturity to understand what you mean without a demonstration many times. That does NOT mean that you have to use physical force and harm them, but it may mean that you use your greater physical strength. If they are doing something you don't want them to do, pick them up bodily until they get the idea that it's not allowed. If they won't go somewhere, TAKE them physically. If they won't do something that being stronger won't help, then remove them from the scene, and take them somewhere so they will not get the benefits of being around. If they throw a tantrum, take them to a car or other location.

Answer 4

With my daughters I give them a choice.

Examples:
You can either eat your food or go without desert.
You can come out of your room when you are ready to clean up your mess.

etc...

I generally don't force them to do anything, I just make it really desirable to listen to me. I also allow them to suffer the consequences of their actions. I believe that parents are way to willing to take on the consequences their child faces.

For example:
We enrolled our four year old in an art class. She loves it. She knows there are certain things she has to do if she is going to go to art in the morning. (Bed made, room clean etc...) If she doesn't have them done when, they come to pick her up she doesn't get to go. Whether she goes or not is her choice. It would be simple to let her go even if she didn't have everything done she was suppose to. Or to take her after she got it done. Much simpler in fact. But by allowing her to suffer the consequences she learns responsibility and hopefully to listen to her parents. I'm happy in her progress.

Answer 5

Well damn, this is an easy one....

NO! NO!! NO!!! NO!!!! And mean it...

A child has no right to decide, YOU are the parent, never forget or compromise that.

-Em

Answer 6

Keep cool,hold him hug him and ask is it sure? Then hug him again and say that I thought you said yes Do not react at all.