My child will be 2 next month, what other ways to discipline her other than spankings?

Question

She is advanced as it is. I dont want to spank her because all it will teach her is how to hit. I was nto spanked as a child and although I was no angel, I never really did anything to be spanked. I dont knock spakings cause I will if I feel a child desperately needs it but I just dont wanna go that route.

Answer 1

It's in the tone of your voice when you're unhappy and at that age is all they really need. Children hate to displease their mommy so I raise my voice (not yelling tho), and give the 'look' and I tell my son (31 mos) 'mommy isn't happy with you' and for the most part that works. Voice control is a wonderful tool in disciplining young children.

Answer 2

There really is never a need to spank a child.
First of all, it teaches that the way to deal with situations is to be violent.
Second, they become scared of the 'spanking' and equate parental teaching with violence and pain.
Third, spankings given too vigorously could injure a child.

There are soooo many other ways to discipline a child without hitting them.

Taking away loved and valued possessions, denying privilages, standing a child in the corner, not allowing them to have favorite foods, taking away television, computer, grounding them..... all are very effective techniques.

Here is a website that may help you:

http://www.gradebook.org/Parental%20Discipline.htm

Quote:
"Parents need to fill a child's bucket of self-esteem so high that the rest of the world can't poke enough holes to drain it dry." Alvin Price

Answer 3

I think it's a mistake to remove spanking from your bag of tricks as a parent, but spanking shouldn't be done ALL THE TIME, so that's a fairly minor issue. Children DO NOT "learn to hit" or "learn that violence solves..." and all that crap that people say...if it's done correctly, which means RARELY and for the right reason. A child is smart enough to understand that a spanking is a specific act for a specific purpose. But the real key to discipline, and 2 is the key age, is simply found in being FIRM.

Mistake: "Johnny, are you ready to go?"
Correct: "Johnny, come with me."

Don't "play" with kids, tell them what to do and expect compliance and you won't have significant problems. When you ask stupid questions like "do you want the red one or the blue one?" you are teaching them that the world revolves around them and that their preferences are all that matters, just as in asking a child "if they are ready to go." Be FIRM, direct, and that doesn't mean MEAN. When they understand they are operating in a larger world with people around them, that the world does not revolve around them, then they have a good chance at entering the critical years of young adulthood/teenagers with a decent world view and be able to interact in a successful way.

Answer 4

I have a two year old sister (as well as a little girl of my own), and what my parents did (or rather, my mother) to discapline her, was to mark out a part of the house (in Judy's case - the stairwell) as a 'naughty spot'.

Children being children, will absolutely HATE whatever spot you put them, no matter how nice it actually may be. Even if you branded his toy mat as the 'Naughty Spot', he'll hate it, because you have regarded him as being 'naughty' - if that makes any sense.

If she starts moving away from the naughty spot, just pick her up and plonk her back down there. She may do this a few times, but she will learn to stay there eventually. Persistance!

Leave her in the naughty spot for about 15 minutes in my opinion - 15 minutes seems like an absolute ETERNITY for any child, and they're sure to learn a lesson out of each sitting!

My mother has been practicing this tecnique with Judy since she was 1 1/2, and Judy is an absolute delite to be around now-a-days!

Answer 5

my son is 5 but he has always been advanced for hes age. even the naughty spot didnt work for him and im not a spanker either, ive given a tap on the hand but not an actual spank.
anyway, i started using the "reflection room" idea which is basically the naughty room with a different nale LOL! now if he is cracking a poop or just being naughty i take him calmly to hes room and lay him on hes bed and ask him to lay there and calm down and think about hes behaviour. then after a bit ill do in and speak to him about what hes done and how it makes others feel and affects them and all that stuff. at that age it was more me talking but now my son talks about it all and usually works it out for himself. we finish with a sorry and a cuddle and everyone is happy!
if he comes out and starts again its back to do some more "reflecting" :)

Answer 6

The naughty spot is a great one. Young kids once they understand what naughty is, hate being called it. I have a nephew who has a beanbag as a naughty spot, I personally would love to have a lie on it for a while, but once we say go to the naughty spot he is really upset and yells "no, no" so it definatly works for us.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Put her in time out when she's misbehaving. Watch Supernanny for ideas.