im very happy in my new relationship and there is no chance i would ever get into a relationship with you?
i never want to c you or hear you again,do get a life.thats what HE said after 2 years of using me and playing me along,giving me hopes for a relationship and latering me..no one has ever told me such a horrible thing,especially when i have done nothing wrong..except from chasing him cos i loved him.how can i get over it..keeps playing in my mind.why did he have to be so cruel?was i so irritating that i made him do this?i only showed love which he never took interest in
2007-10-13 21:38:35 · 16 answers · asked by sophie c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You wasted 2 years on him, it's not about him, it's about you. Why did YOU have to be so cruel to yourself to subject yourself to that much lack of self-respect to go chasing him when he never took any interest in wanting to be with you. He wasn't being cruel to you, he just let you know how much of a knob you were, and you need to hear it.
2007-10-13 21:44:42 · answer #1 · answered by Julian A 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There are mean people out there and I would guess he hears some of this stuff from his home.
Plus he could be showing off to the new GF how ruthless he is and is totally over you.
Don't think of it as 2 yrs of using you. You grew during this time and learned more about life and relationships.
Now you have a great education on what not to have in the next relationship.
Don't give him the satisfaction of knowing he hurt you again.
Brush yourself off after that knock down and act like no big deal then go on with your life!
Good luck kiddo
2007-10-13 21:46:21 · answer #2 · answered by kitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys can sometimes be just cruel, and if u gave him that ONE thing that men want, then of course he isnt gonna care about hurting your feelings now that he's gotten it from you. Dont worry about that loser, i wouldnt be wastin my time & tears on him he's a complete jerk! You'll find someone who will love you & wouldnt wanna say a cruel thing like that to you. You deserve better hun!
Advice: For the next relationship, if u wanna avoid getting burned so badly, dont be pushy & dont smoother him. Not saying that u did, just let there be some air between u two.
2007-10-13 21:48:33 · answer #3 · answered by hawaiizangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is just trying to justify his own behavior by putting it all on you. He strung you along because he wanted to keep you around just in case he didn't find another. Now that he has he feels it is OK to throw you out. What a kull....it is better that you are free of him. Be happy he is gone and you really didn't get involved, he would have treated you bad. Realize that whatever you once saw in him was not real. Go out and live your own life and waste no more thoughts or energy on this guy.
2007-10-13 21:48:26 · answer #4 · answered by suigeneris-impetus 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gurl I know how you feel and it really hurts aye love is such a strong feeling and when your heart is broken it feels like the end of the world cos Im going through the same but I know only time will fix it but you need a friend or someone close to help you through this rather than why this happened.You can email me if you want for someone to talk to .kiwi_nz61@hotmail.com
2007-10-13 21:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard words of forever from the love of my life. And he did the same thing to me what he did to you. I cared about him for 3 years... and was with him after his divorce for 5 months. It's not as long as your relationship was. But, it is really hard to go from hearing how much he loves you, to 'get out of my life'. It hurts. It wasn't until I just about forced him to tell me the reasons why he left me that I stopped playing things in my mind so much. I still stew about how he became verbally abusive... I just always gave him excuses... No more. I realize now that he didn't genuinely care about me. And now, after 4 months of being apart from him after all that time of caring for him, I am finally able to move on. It just takes time. And you'll realize when the healing has begun, that he is so not worth you beating yourself up about what happened... I never thought that someone I gave SO MUCH to would hurt me like he did. But, he did. So, he's not worth it. You'll find someone who will love you like you are able to love.
2007-10-13 21:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can b so harsh nd i kno how hard it is to get over sumbody but sumtimes iguess u gota my advice wud b to try and find another guy get all cute nd go out with friends or wutever nd go guy hunting lol or if its too early have a girls day and night either by urself or with ppl just have fun.
2007-10-13 21:44:06 · answer #7 · answered by Alix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just have to move on. i once had a guy who did that to me after two yrs of me liking him and thinking he felt the same way about me because you don't just go kissing anyone you don't like nor flirting with them, and all of a sudden he was like 'the two of us are just friends. nothing more than that. stop lieing. nothing happened between us, so get over it'. and he had told my friend i had some kind of obsession with him. i never gave him that impression. i've only from the 2nd time i saw him kept it strictly friends, saying to him that we will never be anything more than that. what actually got him to stop treating me like that is knowing that i liked someone else. after that, things got much easier. the hardest part was getting over it, but i kept myself occupied.
2007-10-13 21:54:31 · answer #8 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get time away so you can forget. Time will put things in perspective and finally you will be happy you came to your senses and you will realize this is one of the best things that could have happened because you deserve better.
2007-10-13 21:43:14 · answer #9 · answered by the Boss 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like an ***. I guess though it doesn't matter both boys and girls can be cruel. I will always be in your head, but as time passes you will think about it less and less. The best thing you can do is move on.
2007-10-13 21:53:14 · answer #10 · answered by cset2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋