Just about every guy I have dated has abused me in some way shape or form. Whether it be emotionally or physically. I'm sick of this. I'm 23 and dont think I deserve this. So, should I just give up on the whole dating thing?
2007-10-13 19:46:29 · 14 answers · asked by jiujitsubabe 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
edit: thanx all for the answers, i'm gonna try to explain a bit more. the thing is, most of these guys dont come across as abusive. for instance, the last guy i was with was amazing, treated me like a princess, never raised a hand to me or anything, yet for some reason there were random comments here and there that were painful or condesending, (ie: the "i'm holier than thou" comments) i've been told that it's because i let people walk all over me, but i'm a strong person who fights for what i believe in.....*sighs* i duno how to explain it.....
2007-10-13 19:55:58 · update #1
btw...i met the last one at work. he and i had all these plans for the future, (we were gonna move in together in may) and then all of a sudden he bailed.
2007-10-13 19:58:15 · update #2
You're right, you don't deserve to be abused, no one does.
The whole dating thing is hard and painful. My opinion is biased, of course... personal history implies that women are insane, bordering on maliciously so, and I've come to conclude that "deserve" really doesn't come into the equation very much when it comes to how other people act. Or perhaps it implies that I'm a completely undeserving *** and don't know realize it :)
But don't give up. Being lonely forever wouldn't be any fun, and I'm sure you can find someone who won't hurt you if you if you keep at it. Maybe try changing things up a bit... find a new hangout, take some new classes, do some new things and see if you meet some new people.
2007-10-13 19:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by Ryan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should take time away from dating and work on yourself. It sounds like you have self esteem issues and are of co-dependent behaviors. If I were you, I would take some time to learn a craft, or try to get in touch with your creative side. Besides, you're only 23. I didn't meet the love of my life until I was 29. You've got plenty of time. Good luck.
2007-10-14 02:54:45 · answer #2 · answered by spandawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give up on dating the wrong guys. Date guys that treat you like you deserve to be treated. If no one comes around - sure, don't date just to be dating. You are special and need to be treated in that way. It's better to be alone and proud our yourself then together and feel small. Guys who have abused you should give up on the whole dating thing not you.
2007-10-14 02:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by u2gal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe for a bit. Reprioritize and then try again. Sounds like you either attract the wrong kind of guys or are attracted to the wrong kind of guys... there are a lot of sweethearts out there who wouldn't dream of abusing a girl. I promise!
2007-10-14 02:49:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im sorry for what happened to you but i dont think that should be a reason for you to give up dating ang hoping to meet your own mister right. learn from past experiences and grow more mature so you wont be abused again in the future. i wish you the best of luck
2007-10-14 02:54:09 · answer #5 · answered by tox101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a good look at yourself through Co-Dependents Anonymous 12-step program and find out why you keep getting losers. I think you have a broken pecker picker.
2007-10-14 02:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop dating the guys you get at the clubs.. you are just choosing the wrong guys, the world is a big place and for all the assholes out there, they're alot more nice guys, just look, even though he might look like prince charming he might be a an *******..
2007-10-14 02:56:28 · answer #7 · answered by Joe N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you should not give up because of the a**holes you have been with instead stop going for those type of guys, learn from your mistakes dont just forget about your mistakes, go for a nice guy he will not hurt you, and no you do not deserve whatever those a**holes did to you
2007-10-14 02:53:47 · answer #8 · answered by hammy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop for now and seek some counseling, there is a reason you keep finding yourself attracted those who are abusive.
2007-10-14 02:50:53 · answer #9 · answered by driver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry baby. Don't give up but raise your standards and look for a good guy. Best Wishes!
2007-10-14 02:50:13 · answer #10 · answered by M J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋