I'm in serious infatuation. He's not just cute, but well-educated, sharp, talented and has a fantastic sense of humor. My knees go weak when we talk, and when he looks at me, it's deep...and I melt. BUT, he's new to my company and I'm in a key role and need to keep my feelings on the DL. I know this seems wrong but I can't get him out of my head. HELP.
2007-10-13 18:41:39 · 44 answers · asked by Miss T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
uuuuwwwwwwww girl I was with ya all the way to the key role part, that sounds to risky, just sit back and melt and leave at that. If he quits jump on him like a trampoline.
2007-10-13 18:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by stephanie m 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A couple things are a little odd about the question. First, you call yourself a girl when you are 43 years old. I'm 46 and while I still feel very young and I have a youthful appearance and attitude, I consider myself a woman, not a girl. At first I was going to say that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you dating someone who is 27, even though you are technically, old enough to be his mother (albeit a young mother for someone that age). It's all about how two people, who are adults, feel about one another and how well they connect/get along. Then I read the part of your question where you mentioned that he is new to your company. Alarm bells went off at that point. You risk violating sexual harassment rules at work, getting yourself fired, causing tension with co-workers and all sorts of unpleasant stuff if you are not careful.
So, to answer your question, I would say that age should not be a factor when dating someone unless it is bothersome to the person you are dating or to yourself or if one of the people involved is a minor. It's so sad that so many people who are extremely compatible with one another often forgo relationships with each other because of the taboo against dating someone with such a large age difference. As for dating someone at work, especially a new employee, I would keep things strictly professional. To even flirt with this man could get you into trouble if you are not careful. If the feelings you have for him are mutual however and you have received evidence of that by how he acts or what he says, then by all means, after checking out your company's policy on dating co-workers, go out with the guy, but I think you should keep things on a strictly professional level when at work.
2007-10-13 18:51:55 · answer #2 · answered by Chimichanga to go please!! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's cute, well-educated, sharp, talented with a fantastic sense of humour, isnt it possible, or probable, or even a necessary conclusion that he has a girlfriend? You can flirt with him, all in good nature, people do that all the time n find out about his love life and of his interest in you. See, if both of you are into each other, then nobody is to say if this is right or wrong. But find out how he feels before doing anything, or going in too deep.
2007-10-13 19:05:01 · answer #3 · answered by priyanka g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont even think about dating someone from work.... Even though might not seem like a problem at first, it gonna be huge when it is an established fact.... Do not jeopardize you career for a crush... apart from being totally inappropriate in the work place, it always makes great gossip when there is a considerable age difference..... with you being in a key role, you have too much to lose...... God! I can already image the rumors that are gonna stir..........
2007-10-13 18:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by Drama queen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's asked u for a date, it's a OK. Why not? You're just intrigued & challenged at the same time. Never had that kinda unique experience, right? Think more than ten times before u fly or sink. It takes a while to know his real stand whether he's serious or not. You said it yourself that you need to protect your reputation. If you've already weighed all the pros & cons, go for it! Love has no boundaries.Goodluck.
2007-10-13 19:02:53 · answer #5 · answered by zynjen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, if you both feel the same way, but you should keep it private and out of the work place. People will be mean and talk about you and will talk about him. Things to consider are management's view of the situation, for they will find out sooner or later, and the newest member, your friend, will get the axe, or with luck be transferred. Where's Bruce Willis when we need him?
2007-10-13 19:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by Davey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you want BUT, what in the world do you have in common with a 27 year old? If this does not help, think this..... he was born in 1980!!!! You were in HIGH SCHOOL when he was being breastfeed!! He has never turned an T.V. without an remote control, He has no idea what it was like to only have 4 channels! aka he only knows about cable T.V. Better yet you can lose your job.
Bad idea!
2007-10-13 18:53:30 · answer #7 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not if you work together....it gets too messy emotionally sometimes. If you dont fine way to get out of this, this could get real weird between the 2 of you. Trust me, I'm 36 and I've been through this with "Co-worker crushes" too. You might have to find another job if you want to still date him. Good luck
2007-10-13 18:56:11 · answer #8 · answered by Warrior Guardian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you're a fan of Sex and the City but this dilemma so reminds me of Samantha and her boyfriend, Smith. That's already some encouragement right there. I don't see why it can't happen. Too many people get discouraged way too early in their game nowadays. Whatever happened to the bold and candid? I say we should all ask ourselves, not "what happens if we fail," but "what if we succeed."
2007-10-13 18:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, there's nothing illegal about it. Age is only a number and you are both adults under the eyes of the law. Go for it, guys do it all the time so women have every right to date younger too!
2007-10-13 18:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by ~Les~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋