I'm proud that my husband has joined the air force but I don't agree with the war...?

Question

I support my husband and our soldiers that are risking their lives for us but I 100% don't agree with having this war! I think President Bush is a childish moron who is only keeping our troops in Iraq just to say to america "you can't tell ME what to do!"... I've tried to discuss this with my husband but it's almost like he doesn't care. He doesn't care whos right and whos wrong, he just knows that someone has to defend our counrty and he wants to be a part of it.
Even authority figures involved in the war say that its pointless.
I know I'm probably going to regret asking this, I must... What is your veiw on the war and president Bush?
I want to know the good and bad because I really don't have anyone to talk about this with.

"Quit your b****ing. He joined & probably doesn't need you blasting his service.

Also, like it or not, the U.S. Goverment is paying your bills. You don't have to like it, but SHUT THE HELL UP!"

Oh wow... I didn't know I was b*tching... When did I 'blast' his service? When I said I support him and the troops? Wow, I don't even know what to say to this. I guess the USAF never taught you how to read or show any respect did they buddy?
I'm proud of my husband and I love what he wants to do for our country. I think what the military has to offer my family has limitless possibilities and will be bring nothing but great and exciting things to our lives! Re-read my question and think about your rude, uncalled for statement.
There's no need for an apology, I already know you're as sorry as they come...

This was asked...
"Asking your husband to talk to you about the war is one thing. Asking your husband to agree with you about the war is another. Which are you really trying to do?"

I just want to talk to my husband about the war. I'm not a political person at all. I'm a family person and nothing can come between me and my family. I'm also very open minded and respect others opinions even if I don't agree. I do agree with my husband though. Someone has to fight to defend us and the fact that my husband wants to do that for me and our daughters and every other person in this counrty, makes me love him even more!

Ok, once again for you idiots that can't READ! How mayn times do I have to say I SUPPORT MY HUSBAND? I think the war started in a good direction with great goals but I think its purpose has been lost amongst all the argueing. I don't know what mst of you are thinking. I don't know if you are fighting in your own marriage about this or what but my husband and I have never fought about this. Not once. We respect each others opinions on the war. All that matters is that I love and SUPPORT him! That doesn't make me a terrorist. That gives me an opinion which makes me AMERICAN!

Answer 1

I agree with you 100%!

Praise God for men like your husband who fight for our country and do their duty to defend us. You SHOULD be and have every right to be proud of him! I am proud of him and all service people like him.

That said, W cannot get out of office soon enough! He refuses to admit that he's wrong and has dragged us all down with him!

Bring those presidential elections on! ANYONE will have to be better!

I will keep you and your husband in my prayers! God bless you and thank him for us for doing his duty and protecting us. While he'll never know us, and we'll never personally know the service people out there...some of us, like me are truly greatful!

Answer 2

My father fought in World War ll directly out of high school. He was a bombidier on a B29 in the Pacific. He married my mother in 1947 and we were with him any chance we had. He was a Communications Officer during the Korean War. He wore a pistol at home during the Lebonan crisis of 1959. He was called away from home during the Cuban Crisis. Finally one day he got his orders to go to Viet Nam in 1969. He retired and said "War is a young man's game.

In 1971 I was drafted. Instead I enlisted in the Air Force with a guarentee of OCS and Pilot Training. I became a B52 pilot. Several years after the Viet Nam war I told my dad that I hated war, and he said he did too.

A soldiers duty does not include starting or stopping a war. A soldiers duty is to train and to fight a war. If told to fight a war by the President of the United States, you have two options; go to war or go to jail. In the all volenteer military of today, they have 100% agreed to go to war. Do I worry about the young men and women who fight? You are damn right I do. Do I support them? In anyway I can. Do I support the war? I really don't know anymore. The cause was just. The people are still for the troupes. The war is going well and morale is high. I am a 100% disabled veteran. I see the young men and women who are broken physically and mentally returning from Iraq and Afganistan all the time at the Veteran's Administration Hospital. I do what I can to ease their pain for a little while. Most of the time, I just listen to them over a cup of coffee.

Your husband is lucky to have you. Support him in ways that are important. Send him a box of 12 dozen chocolate chip cookies. They will be stolen by his buddies. He supports the soldiers, he supports the mission, he supports his buddies, and you support him. Worrying whether the war is right or wrong is unimportant. Worry about him, he will be different when he returns.

Answer 3

You remind me of my ex. She went through one year of the war with me and waited faithfully and proudly while I served.
She insisted I wear my uniform and all my medals to the wedding. she backed me all the way. Except war.
Then she raised all five kids to fear and hate the military because I had the misfortune of paying a high price.
You can't have it both ways. If you are going to stand by your man stand by what he believes in too. Otherwise you make him appear foolish.
It doesn't matter to a soldier who is in charge . He has a job and he does it for America not Bush or the next idiot that wants that job.
You husband loves America right or wrong. What kind of citizen are you. Pray for the word, but be an American first and stand up for her. You will make your husband proud.
A simple answer would be support your warrior and keep your opinions to yourself.

Answer 4

You said that you support the troops. That's what you focus on as a military spouse (I'm one, too).

Asking your husband to talk to you about the war is one thing. Asking your husband to agree with you about the war is another. Which are you really trying to do?

Your political opinions can be addressed by your vote. They do not have to become an issue in your marriage. Keep in mind that insulting your husband's job (via your insulting his Commander in Chief) boils down to an insult to your husband for choosing this career path.

This career is the one that will offer you and your family more benefits and security than most any other choice your husband could have made. I'm sure your comfort was in his mind when he chose, so try to appreciate him for trying to make a better life for the both of you.

In a nutshell, family comes first. As a military wife, you'll have the opportunity to find many like-minded friends to discuss your political views with in time. Hang in there, and remember to keep politics out of your marriage.

Answer 5

As fot the Pres...he did the RIGHT thing. All this moaning about the war HAS to srop. Once the Congress authrized the use of force, the debate should have ended THERE!

You want peace, demand VICTORY !

As for your political views on this, you are entitled to have them because men like your husband are defending them as we sit here and do this internet yakking. You want to insult and demean the sacrifices made from the troops, keep up the complaining. In doing so, you take the side of the enemy your husband is fighting.

Best way I know of to encourage the danger to him. Had I had a wife like that when I did my Nam duty...it would have been a damn short marraige.

Being a military wife is a hard duty, but if he's doing his , DO YOURS !

Answer 6

My father fought in international warfare ll quickly out of highschool. He turned right into a bombidier on a B29 contained in the Pacific. He married my mom in 1947 and we were with him any threat we had. He turned right into a Communications Officer in the course of the Korean warfare. He wore a pistol at domicile in the course of the Lebonan disaster of 1959. He changed into said as faraway from domicile in the course of the Cuban disaster. finally in the destiny he were given his orders to bypass to Viet Nam in 1969. He retired and stated "warfare is a gentle guy's recreation. In 1971 i changed into drafted. instead I enlisted contained in the Air stress with a guarentee of OCS and Pilot preparation. I became a B52 pilot. numerous years after the Viet Nam warfare I informed my dad that I hated warfare, and he stated he did too. A infantrymen responsibility does not contain starting up or preventing a warfare. A infantrymen responsibility is to coach and to wrestle a warfare. If informed to wrestle a warfare by using the President of u . s ., you've 2 concepts; bypass to warfare or bypass to reformatory. contained in the all volenteer militia of as we talk, they have one hundred% agreed to bypass to warfare. Do I difficulty about the more youthful adult adult males and women those who wrestle? you're rattling top I do. Do I help them? in besides i can. Do I help the warfare? i really don't understand anymore. The reason changed into purely. the anybody remains for the troupes. The warfare is going nicely and morale is extreme. i'm a one hundred% disabled veteran. I see the more youthful adult adult males and women those who're damaged bodily and mentally getting back from Iraq and Afganistan each and each and every of the time on the Veteran's administration well being middle. I do what i can to ease their discomfort for a short at the same time as. a large number of the time, I purely take heed to them over a cup of espresso. Your husband is fortunate to have you ever. help him in tactics that are major. deliver him a container of 12 dozen chocolate chip cookies. they're going to be stolen by using his associates. He helps the infantrymen, he helps the challenge, he helps his associates, and also you help him. stressful no matter if the warfare is inaccurate or top is unimportant. difficulty about him, he will be different at the same time as he returns.

Answer 7

I don't think he ever should have gotten elected. The first time he was elected, where I live we didn't need to declare a party in the primary so I voted Republican the primary, I really really liked McCain, if he had gotten the nomination I would have voted for him and I almost never vote Republican because I view most as greedy and selfish. I always vote Democrat. I really cannot stand G-Dubya. I think he is quite possibly the least intellegent being on this planet, amoeba and planaria have higher IQs.
I am anti-war, I think that we should at this point in time have peace throughout our planet. I pray every night for all the war, killing and hate to end, for everyone to forgive each other and for everyone to be forgiven. I pray for the dead and I pray for every child that they are protected and blessed. I pray that everyone who is hurt or sick in anyway is healed.
I pray everyday for these things, sometimes several times a day and I know that they will not be completely answered. Human nature will not allow there to be peace.
I do support our troops, many join for opportunities, many join because they feel helpless and this is one way to "make sure their families are safe." I support them as people and hope that the damage done to them in this war is not too great. Even if they survive they have to live with what they were ordered to do by their leaders. They do not have the luxury of walking away when ordered to kill someone. They must do so.
We at home are free to choose what we do for the most part. Except now we must becareful that our phones could be tapped or if I decide to write a grad paper on explosives or weapons my library list will be flagged and I will be investigated. We at home are losing the freedom earned by the blood of our forefathers -out of the fear that has been put upon us by this lying administration. I cannot believe those people, they fed Colin Powell false informations to tell the U.N. to get this Iraqi war started. The attitude of "while we're in the neighborhood let's do a little house keeping and settle my dad's score" is an insane reason to go to war. Isn't it obvious that the ONLY way that damned country could be held together as one was under the leadership of a dictator? We were already protecting the Kurdish people by enforcing no fly zones, all going after Hussein did was destroy our country. If you look at the history books war is usually good for the economy, WWII helped get us out from under the Depression, but this war, like the proxy wars faught during the Cold War are detrimental to our nation's well-being.
And all wars kill, its usually the poor who are on the front lines.
I've said enough, people are going to call me all kinds of names, I hope that they too find peace and set aside their anger.

I hope that your husband stays safe from harm and that peace comes to the world soon.
Bless you.

Answer 8

Your husband doesn't want to talk to you because theres no point. Even if he agreed with you it won't change anything. He in, he must do what he is told and that is that. He may also disagree with you and doesn't want to fight about it. I would recommend you drop the subject until after the war is over, then you can argue who was right.

I don't believe that it is considered pointless by those in power. They may consider it unwinable, but not pointless. Read articles by both those who agree and disagree with what we did and whats next. Even those who oppose the war agree that we can not just pick up and leave, so we will be there awhile. I don't think anyone can forecast how it will end so read all you can for a better understanding. I think you will get a better understanding from books and magazines than you will here.

Answer 9

my son is in the air force...Lt.. Lee.Akers, and as far as this war is concerned; I am not happy with it. I do not believe that war is the answer to peace. As a military wife, feel secure in the fact that you and your husband are the best of this country. Try not to burden him with your thoughts and fears, and support his strength and courage. My heart goes out to you, and I pray for his safety along with everyone in the military. If you're on a base get involved with whatever is available for support. It's there.

Answer 10

This may surprise you but military men don't like war either but we don't have the option to choose which ones we fight unless we give up a promising career.

I'm retired AF and have a son sitting in Ramadi, Iraq as I write this. We're not exactly thrilled he's there but am damn proud he's serving his country as an infantry soldier. He's in the thick of it and we dread the sound of cars pulling in front of our house.

I don't like how the war has been conducted. As in Vietnam, politicians and the media stuck their collective noses into something they don't have a clue about. I shiver to think where we'd be at if the media had had the kind of power during WWII that they have now. We had more KIAs in ONE landing during WWII than we've had in all of the time we've been in Iraq but look at how the politicians and media are ready to throw in the towel.

You may not like the war and you may not like your husband's participation in it, but he obviously enjoys being in uniform or else he'd get out at the first opportunity.

Now, it's up to you to decide if you're the special kind of woman that it takes to be a military spouse of it you're going to let politics ruin your marriage.