21yrs 2 kids?

Question

Hi, What do u guys think about a 21yr old f with 2 kids, does she seem old to you because of 2 kids. thanks

OK how about this.. 21YRS 2 KIDS ,SAME MAN OF 3YRS. MATURE GIRL,HOUSE WIFE VERY RESPONSIBLE NOT A DRINKER/SMOKER. Financing House. Wears Respectable Clothing in public and presents herself Educated and Mature. No DIPLOMAs, But home business. Sorry should have added this B4. But my question was based on 1ST impression, If u see a young girl with 2 kids say at wal mart food shoppin -2yr old and Newborn, with or without spouse, Even with Mother. Thanks

Well you know what amazes me, If nobody loves you except the 1 person you are with, and you create children, the words I love you from them echo back so powerful. I think people think that Kids are a chore, a job, and are not thinking about how they are human and go and judge a young women with 1 -2-3 -4 + kids.

ok jm 1970 that really doesnt make sense. Because You could be a business owner like me and be sucessful. With NO Diplomas GED and Masters ECT. IF that were true about Education, Then why am I living a good finacial Life, And my Friends are working At Sears, Quickway, MC donalds and Grocery Store. Yet they went to College and Finished???? I think I got a Head Start way before them, Because they complain they cannot afford nothing, they are broke live with their parents no car or half a55 car. Ect. Dont see how education Applys here on being successful. Try watching Goodwill Hunting.

Answer 1

I am 22 and pregnant with my 4th child! I have always been mature and very grown up for my age. I was never the type to go and party and get drunk with my friends. I always had better things to do. So when I got pregnant at 17 with my first, I didn't feel like I was missing out on anything. While my friends are out driving around drunk and doing the stupid things immature 21 year olds do, I am raising a family. I am teaching my youngest daughter words, and my oldest two to count. That to me, is a lot more important than partying. I have no regrets at all! I get to hug and kiss 3 little girls and put them into bed every night and listen to them say "I love you mommy." I get a lot more out of that than I ever did just hanging out with friend...or being a "regular" teenager. I think that some people are just ready before others. Nothing makes me more mad, then when I hear someone talk badly about a young mom and about how they weren't ready for kids and they should have given them up for adoption or something along those lines. They don't know me, they don't know my kids, and they don't know what kind of mother I am. I take care of my kids. I work my butt off everyday to make sure they have everything they need and some of what they want. I see a 21yr old with 2 kids as a very strong woman, just like I see every other young mom.

Answer 2

I'm 23 and I could not imagine having children right now. Let alone 21. I'm a kindergarten teacher and I love kids, but right now I don't want any for myself. I want to get more established in my career.

Plus, to be honest. I'm selfish at this point in time. I love having my life be (pretty much) all about me. I love going out with friends on the weekends. I love that my Fi and I can just pick up and take a day trip at the last second.

This does not make me less mature or anything. I'm just not ready, no harm in admitting that. I don't plan on having my first child until at least 26. I'm getting married in 2 years, so the timing for my first will be ideal. About a year after our first year of marriage.

Personally, I think girls that have children young are missing out. I respect them and I would never treat them less. However, if one of these girls was one of my daughters (say in 20 something years). I would object to her having a child so young.

I really think at 21, you should be getting an education and having fun. In this society, you can't live well without a degree. It's hard and in 20 years you are going to be struggling when others are not. People are living until their late 80s and early 90's. Who knows how long my generation will live to, maybe their 100's. I don't think you need to go rushing off and having kids at 21.

I learned a lot about myself between 21 and 23. If I had been married and had kids at 21, I would have missed out on learning how to be ME independently w/o the tittle "mommy" or "wife"

Answer 3

I was a mom at 19, so when I see a young mom out doing whatever I don't think badly of them. Being a mom isn't easy, especially at a young age. It definitely makes you grow up quickly, and makes you more mature because you realize you now have more than just you to worry about. Give her credit where credit is due. I struggled with just one, I couldn't handle two lol. More power to her, she's a stronger woman than I was lol.

Edited to add....just because someone has kids at such a young age doesn't mean they can't establish a career. I had my first kid at 19 and second at 22. It didn't stop me from establishing a career. I'm now 26, have a career, and have a happy family. The whole not being able to have both is total bs.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

You are still 21, whether you have no kids or 12.
You might be more mature having kids, but that's not a given, lots of young moms are still immature while others are very mature.

Answer 6

I don't think it really matters what other people think of you. And people should judge you by your two kids. They are probably 2 very special people and you love them lots. I personally wouldn't think twice. People don't know your situation. I am 22 with 1 baby and we own our own house, going to university and my husband and i are happy. I get looks some times because my wedding ring doesn't fit and i can't imagin what some people think. But it was right for my husband and myself so thats all that matters.

Answer 7

They don't seem old, just one step ahead in a certain direction. Not saying this is a bad thing.
My oldest is 21 and I could never picture her with a kid, much less two.
Best Wishes :)

Answer 8

I think while her kids may be the best thing that ever happended to her, she may regret missing out on some of the fun/freedom others without kids at that age have.

Answer 9

I don't understand your question fully...here's the thing though....a person can be very smart but not be educated...a person can be very stupid and have all kinds of degrees.....

You can be well trained without an education, even knowledgeable...but if you haven't received an education you are not educated......

Answer 10

my sister is 21 with 3 kids and she does seem older but not in a bad way more like she seems wiser and more mature