Ok, I need help. Please. I am 21, my mother passed away in June 21, of 2001. I never held a good relationship with my father, and barely ever got to meet him. I have astray from God, since my mother died, she was my main connection to him. But recently I got Neck deep in evil, crimes, and other things. Before I knew it, I was facing jail time. Now that was in January of 2007. Since then, I have joined up with Crossgates Baptist, I sing in the choir, and love it. I love praising God. I got off with probation. Somehow I want to thank Jesus. I am torn though. I know there are temptations, and I dont think I am doing a good job, at being a God following person. I hate it, I dont want to insult him, I want to worship and live for him. Please someone help me, This is tormenting me, every night I cry myself to sleep because I dont think I am doing well enough.
2007-10-13 17:20:53 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am also planning on starting back college in 2008. to finally get my life back on track. All this threw me off, and gave me a large slap in the face to show me life is real, and I cant do whatever I want. And yes, I do hold depression and guilt, because it is my fault she died....or at least I feel that way. my main consern is, my gf of 8 years, and my fiance, doesnt follow god. she claims atheism. But when I first met her and fell in love....I didnt know ... Now we live together and want to have kids. I just hope god doesnt hold me accountable or punish me for that.
2007-10-13 17:40:51 · update #1
You must remember that none are perfect here on earth. Do you not have a Pastor or a youth pastor you can talk to. Do you have Bible study at your church?
Remember these things:
Worshiping GOD as a Christian is not just about singing, fasting and praying. GOD is not interested in what you do as much as why you do it. HE does not honor hypocrisy -only a heart devoted to HIM. Worship is not something you just do on Sunday… it is a lifestyle. We are to love, trust, obey, praise, thank and live only for HIM every day. It is about surrender. It will cost you your self-centeredness. We are to worship in spirit and in truth. We were made specifically to bring GOD pleasure and glory.
Discipleship is about growing and maturing - it is the process of becoming like Jesus Christ. Growing is not easy - it takes work and commitment. It requires us to examine and change the way we think, feel and act. Thankfully HE also gives us HIS Spirit and HIS Word to transform us into the image of Christ. Additionally GOD uses other people and circumstances in our lives to help us grow through trials, temptations, and troubles.
Fellowship is all about doing life together during the good and bad times. It is about being genuine, transparent and vulnerable in the things you share in confidence with others. It is about loving your neighbor as yourself. It is about encouraging others and sympathizing with their feelings. We are all part of GOD's family and he wants us to grow in our love for others. True love is about forgiveness and reconciliation.
Ministry is all about serving and giving. As Christians we are called to a ministry in the body of believers and a mission to the world. Each of us are shaped and gifted by GOD to fulfill our part in HIS great plan. Find the blessing of losing yourself in serving Jesus by serving others. Though we are saved only by HIS grace HE also calls us to good works - not to earn salvation but to encourage and equip the body of believers. Ministry is about serving an audience of ONE!
Evangelism is about sharing the love of Christ with everyone. We are all commanded to go and make disciples. This is our mission as Christians and it is not an option. In fact, it is a profound responsibility, the greatest privilege, and the most incredible honor in the entire world. This mission is the greatest thing you can do for another person, carries eternal significance, and is the true secret of being blessed! In these sites we will teach you to share the gospel and to develop your own life message.
These are the ways we should show our love to God. Not by feeling sorry for ourselfs. Right now, right where you are you ask God for forgivness and mercy. He will lift you up. He does not excect you to change the world tomorrow. He wants YOU TO DO WHAT YOU CAN DO! And that is all.
I didn't read that last part until now. No God does not hold you accountable for her but he does wish for you to witness to her.
My wife was not a Christian when we first married. I went to church faithfully each Sunday without her and did not push her to go. I would ask if she would like to go BUT DID NOT PUSH. I prayed and prayed as did my church family that she would come to see that she needed Jesus Christ in her life.
One Sunday morning as I began to get dressed for church so did my wife. I had to leave the room because tears of joy were flowing down my cheeks. That was the most wonderful day in my life except the day she gave her life to Christ. Now she works her heart and soul out for our Lord Jesus.
Pray is WONDERFUL and so is our Lord Jesus Christ.
sam
2007-10-13 17:24:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 1⤋
1. I have prayed for you, as I'm sure others have, too.
2. Please talk to your paster, it really will help.
3. Please forgive yourself... God has!
4. Not only has God forgiven you, but He has FORGOTTEN your sins, too. If you ask Him, "Do you remember when I did... [fill in the blank]?" He will reply, "No." This includes anything you may do now, too... His FORGETTING is PERFECT and COMPLETE, too.
5. Your heart is thanking Jesus every time you feel His wonderful forgiveness. There's a great verse (Romans 8:26) which might help when you feel unable to express yourself in your prayers... "In the same way the Spirit also helps our weakness; for we do not know how to pray as we should, but the Spirit Himself intercedes for us with groanings too deep for words." See? When you have trouble praying, the Spirit well help, and God understands.
6. We ALL have troubles being a "God following person," because we ALL struggle with the our "flesh" and our "spirtual" sides.... you are not alone.
Keep the faith, hon... keep going to church, keep learning about Him, keep talking to others in your congregation (they can be a great support, more than us here on a computer can).
Have a blessed day.
2007-10-13 18:50:50 · answer #2 · answered by wyomugs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is not a hair on your head that is not counted and God knows all your thoughts before you have them.
You must realize that there are no perfect souls here on earth and there is darkness tempting us all the time. Being righteous is a daily walk with the Lord and you sound like you are on it. Don't expect to be perfect over night. When Jesus said to be perfect as you Father in Heaven is perfect, he did not expect people could be perfect or they would not be here in this school house of lessons. When you pray for wisdom, you may not just then get wisdom but you may get a situation that will bring it to you. It is going to take work and discipline if you want to serve the Lord. But don't be hard on yourself. Jesus was not hard on anyone, (but truthful ), including to the Harlot. He said, I do not judge you but go and sin no more. We will slip and fall back until we obtain self mastery over those things we know are not right and we need to fix. Listen to that still small voice inside that tells you right and wrong and do the right thing. Work on it Jesus would say to you. He also would say to you that He Loves you and you are very special to him. You were lost and now you are found. Be in peace and Love brother.
Rev. TomCat
2007-10-13 17:37:10 · answer #3 · answered by Rev. TomCat 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
by using having faith, someone has each and every thing to attain, and by no skill something to lose. faith provides the failings someone hopes for substance. faith provides someone the boldness he needs to flow mountains. a straightforward individual is straightforward and obedient, and leads a efficient existence because, with faith, all issues are achieveable. Now, more desirable quite, faith is what you've. believe is what you supply. faith is a noun. you may have self belief, or you may have lunch. or you may actually have both. believe is a verb. you are able to believe someone, or you are able to pinch them. Or, back, you may even do both. do purely not pinch someone at the same time as they're having lunch. they'd drop their sandwich.
2016-10-09 04:43:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please know this: God knows our hearts. He knows our intentions. He knows we love Him. He knows when we are sorrowful over disappointing Him. Keep worshipping Him, praising Him, singing to Him. Ask ask Him for wisdom. You know in your heart that you are sinning by living with someone you aren't married to. And to marry someone who is not a Christian is not within God's plan for ANY of us. Take it from me - it brings only hardships. Do not fool yourself into thinking that she will change after marriage. She may, or she may not, but God wants the BEST for us. That is why He said in the bible, "do not be unequally yoked" - don't marry a person who is not a Christian. You need a helpmate who will go thru this life helping you become the person God wants you to be. Do not allow yourself to settle for less than the best that God has to offer. This will honor Him.
2007-10-14 08:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by lillybreeze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nicholas, first, I want to say I am very sorry about your Mom. I know how deeply it hurts to lose our Mom's as mine has gone home as well.
Next, let me say to you, if your Mom was the main connection to God, then you must take this on yourself. From what you have said, you have done just that! You are using your talents for the Lord and it brings you joy!
Please, remember, when we are serving the Lord, satan will come at us with all manner of things. He too, knows our weaknesses and boy, does he use them against us! So, know that you are walking through a spiritual situation which you can overcome. Fact is, we all sin...we try not too but, we do! However, when we realize that we are sinning, it is imperative that we take this to God, in prayer. He forgives us when we cannot forgive ourselves!
Another thing, God does NOT give us a spirit of fear! It sounds as though you are "fearful" of letting Him down. You allow this to torment you? This is not how God works! satan, uses our weaknesses and gives us fear! Not God!
Pray that God will take this from you and know that I am praying for the same. When you let go and let God guide you, that fear is replaced by peace and joy! In as much, this is my prayer for you!
God Bless
2007-10-13 18:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
we all strive with what you are fighting with different degrees of success and failure. it is just part of life.
you will find the closer you walk with Jesus, the more your sin bothers you.
One person wrote that you are in sin with the woman. I can see that either way. If you are dedicated to her, and are going to marry her, the bible says do not be unequally yoked but at the same time, if you have an unbelieving spouse do not leave them just because they are unbelieving.
I do think it could be hampering your spiritual walk, but that is a matter taken up with prayer and wisdom, honestly, I do not feel I have a place to comment on this. Only to seek God out in this matter.
Keep meditating on the Word, keep your nose in the bible, your hands on the cross, proclaim Christ and in all your ways, acknowledge him.
2007-10-14 14:23:06 · answer #7 · answered by magnetic_azimuth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give yourself a break. =) You went through something really tough and now you are coming back from it and that's a really great thing. You feel guilt for your sins and are trying to repent and I think that's the most important thing. But keep doing your very best at being a good person and God bless.
2007-10-13 17:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Nicholas,
Bless you for your sincere heart that loves God and desires to follow Him. Our ancestor King David was a wife-stealer, a murderer, and a liar. But God loved him and helped him turn away from his sins because they were eating him away. Another brother, Paul, used to hate and bash Christians, but God loved him even before he was born. When the time came, God touched Paul’s heart and he became a great lover and follower of God, just as He seems to have touched yours. No one’s sins are pleasing to God. But God loves you nevertheless, and desires for you to live in peace, joy and experience all of His blessings, which are possible if you live trusting in the One who loves you, and died for you on the Cross. Remember that Jesus died for us when ALL of us were “neck deep” in our sins. Jesus said to the prostitute, “Woman, where are your accusers? Has no one condemned you?… Neither do I condemn you.” Certainly, Jesus does not condemn you for your sins, but only wants to free you from them. So He continued in the same sentence, “Go now and leave your life of sin” (John 8:10-11). It isn’t God who punishes us, but sin. Sin keeps us in chains, and drags us to places where we don’t want to go – oppression, depression, sadness, guilt, shame, anger, fear, and other consequences, whether spiritual, emotional, physical or circumstantial.
God wants you to live in freedom. God would want you to live with a believer so that both of you could abundantly experience His blessings together. Although your girlfriend is not a believer now, it doesn’t mean she has to stay that way. Look at you. If you pray for her, God will surely intervene in her life. It’s by His grace that you or ANYONE became a believer, not by the strength of the person. That’s just the way it works (Eph 2:8). It may take some time, but God will surely work in her life. Either that, God will work in your heart for an alternative answer.
In any case, may the LORD continue to watch over and take care of you both. I pray you will receive God’s blessings first before you marry or have children. Sincerely yours in Christ.
2007-10-14 18:35:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jedidiah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is a sinner and God treats everyone equally. No one person does better than the other. Everyone still sins it's our nature..and it will tell you that in the Holy Bible. If you have one look up iniquity in the glossory and it will tell you verses to read (at least mine does) If you ask God for forgiveness of your sins he will forgive you. I hope this helped.
2007-10-13 17:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by Kaylea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The LORD is near to those who have a broken heart,And saves such as have a contrite spirit. Psalm 34:18
For all those things My hand has made, And all those things exist,” Says the LORD. “ But on this one will I look: On him who is poor and of a contrite spirit, And who trembles at My word. Isaiah 66:2
Remember, Beloved of Christ Jesus, that God loves you not upon your performance, but based upon His grace and mercy and kindness he has show to you on the cross.
Listen to the heart of God when he says this.
Song of Solomon 4:8
Come with me from Lebanon, my spouse,
With me from Lebanon.
Look from the top of Amana,
From the top of Senir and Hermon,
From the lions’ dens,
From the mountains of the leopards.
9 You have ravished my heart,
My sister, my spouse;
You have ravished my heart
With ONE LOOK of your eyes,
With one link of your necklace.
Jesus is forever interceding for you.
Hebrews 4:14 Seeing then that we have a great High Priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus the Son of God, let us hold fast our confession. 15 For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. 16 Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need.
Listen to these messages and be lifted up my dear brother.
Biblical assurance
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God bless,
Sam
2007-10-13 17:34:28 · answer #11 · answered by Sam L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋