today he is drunk.
2007-10-13 17:03:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You can't do anything to get your dad to stop drinking I am very sorry to say. It has to come from your dad. You can seek out help for you. And I think you should. Contact your school, your teacher, your counselor, relatives. Anyone who might be able to help you. You deserve the best. You deserve an environment free of alcohol. Please reach out to the people that love you for help and maybe something will click for your dad and in helping yourself you might have been a catalyst to helping your dad help himself. My heart goes out to you. Good Luck.
2007-10-13 17:10:11 · answer #1 · answered by ontheedge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you are going through that. You didn't say how old you are, or give any other details about your family situation. Hopefully he is not abusive and you don't have to depend on him for rides anywhere. You need to do whatever you can to stay safe. Is there another relative or close friend who you can confide in and get support? How about a counselor or special teacher at school?
There are also Al-Anon and Al-A-Teen groups in most communities--if you can't get to a face-to-face meeting, you can probably join a web ring and talk to other teens in your same situation to see how they handled it and get some advice.
If the situation is desperate, and you feel like you or someone else in your family is at risk, you can call CPS or another social service agency, but once you do that, it will change your family forever. If you think there is any chance he would listen to you and/or other family members and get help if you confronted him, you might try to talk to them about organizing an intervention. That's where you research beforehand what detox and rehab services are available in your community and determine what he needs to do to get in the program. Then several people in your family at once get together and confront him about how his drinking is hurting you/damaging the family, reassure him how much you care and want to help him, and try to persuade him to commit to getting sober.
I hope you are able to get through to him somehow.
2007-10-14 00:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him, about his drinking, when he is not drinking. No point, in doing it now when he is drunk. There, is really nothing, you can do to make him stop.
Maybe, by talking to him and letting him know how you feel about his drinking and how you want him to be around a long time in your life. Try, talking to him about getting some help. Maybe, he has a problem, he needs to know that you are there for him. Good Luck.
2007-10-14 00:11:32 · answer #3 · answered by That one 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He already knows he's a drunk. What you can do is change your surroundings. Spend time at your grandparents',aunts' and uncles', cousins', friends' houses for the weekends. Let your family know your concern and see if your adult relatives can talk to your dad for you, or make better living changes for you. Good luck.
2007-10-14 00:11:34 · answer #4 · answered by jalapena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish you had said how old you are. The best thing you ca do is stay out of his was. Don't do any back talking because that could stir anger.If you can, try hiding his supply,Where is your mother? If you are in danger of becoming victims of domestic violence you should go to a shelter. I feel sorry for you. Good Luck
2007-10-14 00:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by Classy Granny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get him to stop drinking; he has to do that himself. You can, however, join Al-Anon or Alateen so you can talk to other people who have family members who are alcoholics and can help you deal with it and support your dad the best way that you can.
2007-10-14 00:14:27 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make him quit. He has an addiction problem and he has to be the one to admit it and get help. But don't let that stop you from getting help. Al-Anon.
2007-10-14 00:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as much as you want him to stop, nothing you can do will make him stop. he has a problem and needs to fix it on his own. he is the only one that can change. you cannot change someone else. have you talked to your mom about this?
2007-10-14 03:59:03 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are gonna start being a drunkard too SOLELY because of his routine actions. unless hes a rational drunkard than theres no reason to
2007-10-14 00:06:32 · answer #9 · answered by jik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋