Fell for a guy...I'm a black female...he's white. Im worried he won't like me?

Question

Hey, I'm a young, very attractive, black college student. I'm usually open to all races and I don't see color when it comes to wanting to date or liking someone. Recently I "Fell" for this white guy in one of my classes we're taking. He's so attractive to me - in his personality -which is smart and intelligent and he's very good looking. We basically share almost the same interests and successes. But...

We've become partners for a project in that class and so we've gotten to know each other quite much. He seems to like me and all, smiles (I guess as a friend). But the thing is -- would he ever want to date me? I'm so worried.... because I doooo really like him ALOT! Basically - I think about him EVERYDAY. He's always on my mind!!!

Answer 1

Sweety, it sounds to me like you are more nervous about letting him know how you feel, that you 've got the whole sinario worked out in your head. Did you ever stop to think that He may be thinking the same thing about you?
I think you should tell him and let it roll out naturally. He may suprise you. Good Luck, Sweety.

Answer 2

You are contradicting and confusing your self. You say you are open to all races and don't see color but you are seeing this guy through the prism of race.Why don't you see him as an attractive , smart , and intelligent guy whom you like but who just happens to be white. You also say he seems to like you, smiles at you , is your partner on a class project, and has not given you any reason to suspect that he will not date you because you're black.So why are you worried?Since you like him and would like to date him, simply ask him to a movie or ask him to a discussion of your project. You can then use the opportunity to find out if he is involved, if he likes you , if he likes you romantically, and if he would like to try for a romantic relationship with you. His answers will let you know what to do .You guys may even start singing the same tune.I wish you lots of luck.

Answer 3

Whoops. School is for educating yourself for a career field, not a companion. You may meet someone, but if you chase him or show that you are obsessed with him, you do yourself no good. And you may scare him away. Why not be his friend, and let it develop from there. He may definitely and forever not want a black woman. No big deal! Everyone has choices. But if he likes you for a friend, you can't lose. Friends are so hard to find; boyfriends can be a dime a dozen.
Find out what it is about him that turns you on to him and away from your career goals. Is he nice to you? Do you need that..has someone not been nice to you? In other words, find out the source of this obsession before it does you harm. How terrible to lose a friend just because you think he may be the one!
Will he want to date you? Stay friendly, as you are now, and keep your cool. When you begin to get obsessive, step back and focus on something horrible, anything to break the compulsive behavior.
Your time will come for the perfect friend and mate. Don't push it.

Answer 4

Race, color, religion etc. should NEVER matter in a relationship. NEVER! If he finds that you being African American is a problem, then I would just forget about that jerk and find someone that will treat you with respect and not care about the petty details like that. So to answer your question of if he would ever want to date you, maybe if you find that he likes you. But, if you find that he only turned you down, (and I'm pretty sure he wouldn't, at least not for this reason,)because of your skin color, be glad that you found out that he's a racist jerk before you got too close to him. Good luck.

Answer 5

Well statistically you stand a better chance of him liking you than if you were actually white...(just playin) Naw, but for real i'm sure he wouldn't mind if you really is all that and a bowl of grits. Probably wonna make sure if you plan to go any further than the project, he ain't already got a lab partner outside of class if you catch my drift. Out side of that, just make sure he actually ya know got some dept and character you can get with before you fall any harder. Cause , if you hungry any sandwitch can look good from a distance til you bite into it, only to find its just 2 slices of bread.

Answer 6

College is the time to try out these sorts of things. Ask him out. The worst that can happen is he says no and your feelings are hurt. The best is that you guys end up being soulmates.
There are some things I wish I'd pursued in college, and now its just too late. Live a little, carefully, though.

Answer 7

it is 2007, I wish that there was absolutely no racism anywhere, but even though there is, I don't think that you will find it among many our age. If you two mesh so well I would ask him out to starbucks or something. You should be able to sense whether or not he is into you when you make a move like that. But, don't worry about skin color, all that matters is who you are.

Answer 8

There is no way for us to know whether he'd like you. Race has nothing to do with it. You say that race doesn't matter to you, but obviously it does. When you're interested in someone, there's always the risk that person won't share your feelings. You'll just have to suck it up, take the risk, and accept whatever his answer is.

Good luck.

Answer 9

From a guys point of view- ask him out to do something, go out, ask him out again, go out, keep going out and doing things, if he wants you around, he'll keep doing stuff with you, if he doesn't he'll start making up excuses and push you away. This is easy without being rejected. I would date you, but it would hard to get over the race part as fears and anxieties of what other people think would inevitably get to me.

Answer 10

Awww... That's so sweet! You might be always on his mind, you never know. He obviously doesn't see colour considering you both get along very well. Make a move, ask him out for coffee or something, and smile at him. Don't make it too obvious, but be confident and friendly. I hope everything goes well.