..when it comes to sexual matters? to cut the story short. she bid me not to watch visually stimulating videos, or other sexy stuffs. i askd her bout this matter because shes not really into it. so i thought of a compromise such this. but she does not want to still. man, i luv err so i listen to her. agreement is still on but im finding it bit cruel already. she does not even provide me with reasonable explanations but keep me hangin on this matter. Ladies, wat u think? are u like this? wats she up to?
Enlighten me. :-)
2007-10-13 16:21:24 · 17 answers · asked by njÇhEn™ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't need to be strict with mine. He already knows better.
2007-10-13 16:24:30 · answer #1 · answered by Sydney 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like she might be a little hard on herself...most of the time when a woman restricts a man from watching porn or looking at it, It's because it makes them feellike they arnt enough for you......she's not trying to be mean, she just needs to know that she is the one making you feel good. Maybe you should talk to her about this and make sure she is feeling like she is being fullfilled in the relationship too.
Thats another issue, she might not be getting what she needs from you and feels like you put to much energy into the porn and not her.
2007-10-13 16:28:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
alot of women are offended by those vids for some reason, she may feel uncomfortable talking about her feelings on the topic. there are vids made especialy for women they are a little different though. on oxygen there is a show called bliss, ask her if she will watch that with you or a video designed to stimulate women. you will probly be more happy with the results of that, then watching a vid all by yourself, or watching something that only gets you going. if she just doesnt want to though i wouldnt push the topic but explore things that you both will enjoy, theres alot out there. good luck. :)
2007-10-13 16:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by curvy_chick000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wouldn't let my boyfriend, luckily i haven't had to tell him to stop, cause he doesn't do it already, but if he does, i dont' know about it, and if i found out that would be hell for the both of us because i already feel insecure..
i think woman who don't care.. are a little bit.. naive.. Men who are committed shouldn't WANT or NEED to look at porn. It degrades women, and makes men view woman as sexual objects. plus men who watch porn alot, find that they have trouble getting turned on by their girlfriends, how do you think that makes them feel!?? yeah, so i'd just listen.. tell her to compromise by being more sexual adventerous.. or film a porn of you two together and play it while your doing it..
just some suggestions..
2007-10-13 16:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by lilchikka2005 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not!why would i want to stifle the growth of my relationship.the more i learn and know about my man only makes him more appreciative of my concerns for him.every relationship is a compromise,it just depends on whose willing to give more and whose wiling to take more.this wisdom comes with age and experiance.if you are questioning your relationship now,what do you think it would be like for you if you were living together or even married.i would opt for you bailing out now.you can not put restrictions on your significant others.it just does'nt work that way today.
2007-10-13 16:30:37 · answer #5 · answered by CHER 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are lucky to be with a woman who realizes the dangers of porn. If you have a weakness for porn, next you'll be having a weakness to looking at other women, then maybe cheating... You get the picture. She's a proper lady and it you want to deserve someone like her, you'll have to grow up alot.
2007-10-13 16:26:53 · answer #6 · answered by Dianne m 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, I completely agree with her! You are wanting to get sexually aroused from someone other than her. How would you like it if she watched other men do their thing all the time...dont say you wouldnt care, be honest with yourself now. really, why do you think you should do that when you know you would get mad at her if she did the same thing. You are with HER you love HER right? then go be with her and her only. Gosh, society is making men think being perverts is ok....
2007-10-13 16:30:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
listen women, ladies, girls of all ages dont wanna get hurt
if u watch pornos and things she'll think ur thinking about cheating
if u love her and taking her seriously dont rush her into something shes not ready to do
2007-10-13 16:27:16 · answer #8 · answered by Yayy Mee!! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some women are like that, personally i have no problem with my boyfriend watching porn, i even watch it with him. but i have a friend who is dead against it, she thinks it's disgusting, and i've witnessed a fight between her & her boyfriend over it. she's dead against it.
i imagine most women dislike it because it makes them feel like their man wants other chicks, plus they may feel like they need to live up to what the girls on video.
2007-10-13 16:27:43 · answer #9 · answered by shanna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i would be like that if i knew my boyfriend were doing this because most ladies think this is gross, no offense, and just get over it, pornography is a horrid thing to be addicted to anyways. confront her about the way she answers you and leaves you hanging, that way she'll know not to give you lame answers.
2007-10-13 16:26:26 · answer #10 · answered by Briana Fer Suree 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only thing that i dont like is the strip club and thats because hes wasting his paycheck on other women then. as for videos i really dont care thats his buisness since its free.
2007-10-13 16:24:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋