I asked a q earlier about this, but didn't explain right.Obviously.
So here's the short version:
5 yr bf is in CA. I'm in SD. Can't help that.
I went out w/ friend last nite, who was preoccupied playin darts.
Went 2 sit at bar with girl I knew. Sat in the corner, can't explain it-but when the drunk obnoxious guy came to hit on us I could NOT get out of there. He kept pushin me back in seat & I didn't want to get hit. I was really scared after he pulled my hair back & tried getting me to kiss him. Never did though.
No, my bf can't do anything about it now. I told ppl at the bar, but this is a small town & they all kno each other and make excuses. wtvr. There was no one to tell afterward who would do anything about him. My bf is the kinda guy who will see this as a lie if I don't tell him, cuz one of our friends will. Not tryin to make him jealous or feel bad, but he will freak when I tell him- I have to- what I need advice with is how do I tell him? What won't make him freak?
2007-10-13 16:05:52 · 9 answers · asked by talonz_lady02 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well don't make it a big deal, just be like "Now I remember why I hate bars! You know what happened to me last night? this drunk moron tried to kiss me, he cornered me." It also wouldn't hurt to insult the guy in a round about way, say he was ugly and theres no way you would have wanted it, or he had horrible breath, you know something to make him see that this guy is no threat.
2007-10-13 16:13:44 · answer #1 · answered by scorch_22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend, I think U should obviously tell ur bf bout the situation. I see what kind of man he is and things gonna be bad if he hear from a friend that's not you. but u absolutely don't have the fault then nothing to be afraid if he know u enough to be with U for 5 years then will understand, he must know that there would be worse things in the relation and life has its good and bad moments. If I were in his place I would never let people to insult my gf. Tell him as sincerly as u can and if u'd like, u can make it alright with some friend of both. I'm sure he's not gonna get freak.
2007-10-13 16:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start out with "I'm really scared because I went to a small bar last night with -insert friends name here- and there was a man there who was obviously drunk. He was hitting on us and I really wanted to get out of there, but he kept on pushing me back into my seat. He tried to get me to kiss him. I'm scared because nobody will do anything about it -insert boyfriend's name-, what should I do?"
By asking for his advice you show him that you are more upset by this expierence than he is and that you are freaked out. Be sure to tell him about it and call him about it, don't wait till he calls you later or brings it up. Don't go to the bar again, and make sure your bf knows that you didn't.
2007-10-13 16:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by ask lylah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm glad you are going to tell him, i wish more people would admit to things like that.. it actually should help him build more trust in you, when you tell your bf/gf the small things, they'll trust you more to tell them the big things. Just make you don't make it sound like you were flirting at all or inviting the guy to try to kiss you.. tell him everything you just said, and let him get a little jealous.. it won't hurt. tell him you won't go to that bar again maybe.. that might help.
2007-10-13 16:13:56 · answer #4 · answered by lilchikka2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call him and tell him the truth, exactly as you explained it here. Be up front, and honest and let him know. Dont leave it that a friend tells him BEFORE you, cause then it WILL look like ur hiding something.
2007-10-13 16:10:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth just like you typed it here. Honesty is the best thing if he dosen't believe you then, I don't know but he should make him understand the situation you were in.
2007-10-13 16:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by RedSparkle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say tell him the truth from u rather than other people that change the story so do not lie
2007-10-13 16:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by kevin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you go file a police report and stay out bars.Thats usually the kind of people who hang out in them.Try church instead.
2007-10-13 16:09:35 · answer #8 · answered by Joe F 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forward the question to him... you told the public pretty well. if he freaks - that's his problem. there's nothing he can do about it.
2007-10-13 16:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by bee p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋