I am getting married in June and I am ordering my wedding dress early becuz I am very excited. The woman that is helping me critizes everything I put on. She works at the store and says I look fat in every dress I put on and every dress she picks, I hate. Help!
2007-10-13 16:03:09 · 17 answers · asked by Jasmine 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
For example, I found this nice white one with a full skirt and it's velvety and silky at the same time and I love it, but she says I look ugly in it.
2007-10-13 16:08:26 · update #1
I am not going to another store. This is the one that fits my budget
2007-10-13 16:15:44 · update #2
I am not fat! I weigh a nice size and I talked to my doctor and she said I'm not fat.
2007-10-14 07:14:29 · update #3
Wow. Get a girlfriend to go shopping with you to get an HONEST opinion. When this woman starts running her mouth, smile sweetly and say "Thanks for your opinion, but could you try keeping them to yourself?". If she continues, you can get a little more rude with "I thought I made it clear your opinions were unnecessary." And finally, "Would you mind being quite while I try on these dresses, obviously you've never been married so you have no idea what looks good or not."
I'd definitely recommend going to a different store though. I don't care what your budget is, you can go to David's Bridal $99 dollar sale. So what if you are saving money on a gown when you're selling your pride?
Good luck.
2007-10-13 17:44:12 · answer #1 · answered by kiki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The wedding is all about you. You should be having the time of your life. Find another shop. Never spend your money where you are being insulted. Make sure you let the store owner know why you are seeking another bridal store. Who the heck does she think she is? You don't have to put up with that. DON'T put up with that. Make sure that you tell her that she is very rude and that she needs to seek alternate employment if she wants to insult people. Or maybe you can ask for a different salesperson and demand a discount based on the treatment you've received. Hey, I'm all about the dollars!
Congratulations on your wedding! I'm sure that you will look fabulous in anything you wear!
2007-10-13 16:10:50 · answer #2 · answered by Kitten S 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Bridal shop associates are very critical, mainly b/c they have seen it all. They work with LOTS of brides every year, they know what looks good on certain body types. I'm sure she isn't calling you straight out "fat". I'm sure she's saying things like, "that makes you look bigger then you are"
In all honesty, I would WANT someone telling me these things. We've all seen those brides in dresses that just don't flatter their figure and their shape. They end up looking like they're playing dress up rather then being a real bride.
If you don't like the service, then leave. As for "it's the only store in your budget" I find that difficult to believe. Look harder and you can find a new store, if you want one.
2007-10-13 16:59:31 · answer #3 · answered by Je Adore 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She could be being honest, or she could be just trying to sell you a more expensive dress. Either way, that behavior is not justified. Take someone with you that will give you an HONEST opinion, so when you try on dresses they can tell you if they are flattering or not. Don't listen to the other lady. When you go in, tell her you'd like to try on dresses, but the only ones you pick out. Then tell her if she tries to suggest dresses she will lose your business as a customer.
2007-10-13 18:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by BlackDahlia 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Is that the only wedding dress shop in your town? Go somewhere else.
I was lucky...I live near los angeles and was able to go to a bridal dress store where I bought the dress I loved "off the rack" then took it to my tailor for adjustments.
Where is your mom or maid/matron of honor? You need someone there you know who can either agree with the dressmaker or fight for your side.
Be careful NOT to have it tailored until about a month before the wedding.
2007-10-13 16:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by jjudijo 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Since you are getting married in June, You have lots of time for the dress. After you report the sales lady, I would wait a bit, then go back. You do not want them to sell you a dress that does not look good on you.
2007-10-13 16:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by lynnn30 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell the store manager that you don't want her to assist you anymore with your wedding dresses. If she happens to be the one and only person working there, let her know she had better keep her comments to herself. If you want her opinion on how a dress looks -- you'll ask. Other than that, she can keep her opinions to herself!
2007-10-13 16:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to could say this, yet with this being your daughters wedding ceremony, she has a suited to do the procuring with whomever she needs to. it might harm your thoughts yet whilst she feels extra under pressure once you're together with her, then she in all likelihood needed to pass on my own or with somebody else. the component is that she will undergo in ideas on the instant time for something of her existence and she or he needs to do it the way she needs it. she will additionally undergo in ideas your strikes in this time, so once you're making her indignant or are too aggressive, it ought to reason alot of issues in a protracted time. you may could only quiet down and permit your daughter to have HER day the way she needs it.
2016-10-06 21:40:53 · answer #8 · answered by osazuwa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet all the dresses she pics out are the most expensive ones there. She just wants to make commission off you. You dont need that, you have enough on your plate.The other answers are right she most likely treats other customers the same way, tell her superior and find another shop. and congrats!!!:)
2007-10-13 16:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but ARE you fat? As in unhealthily obese? It's rude and inappropriate for her to comment on a customer's weight, but perhaps she is frustrated trying to find you a NICE flattering gown and maybe is even concerned for your health. Obesity is a serious health problem linked with many often preventable diseases like heart disease, some cancers, and Type 2 diabetes.Nowadays everyone is overweight, so it's considered "normal". But it's very unhealthy. Some people mistakenly think that bullying a person will help them lose weight.
Some brides use their wedding as an excuse to eat right and exercise, and they end up losing weight and getting into better shape for their big day.
You should also look into going to a plus size bridal store, where you should be able to find stylish dresses in your size that flatters.
Good luck!
P.S. I also agree with Sarah below...there is always a chance that she is trying to oversell you. If you are normal weight, this is likely the case. This is wrong, and regardless, she should be reported.
2007-10-13 16:17:16 · answer #10 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 0⤊ 5⤋