There's this girl at work who always goes "Hey, you, I need your help" in a very commanding, non-polite voice.
I got fed up so I went up to her and asked what the hell her problem was. I told her if she wanted my help, ask nicely. And that she didn't have to like me because I certainly don't like her, but business is business. Then I completely ignored her since then.
I'm twenty-something by the way.
Am I a bit immature? Or is it good that I stood up for myself?
2007-10-13 15:21:11 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is good you stood up for yourself. Business is no excuse for being rude.
2007-10-13 15:24:37 · answer #1 · answered by GK 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, your assertiveness has commendable elements to it, but to really answer your question thoroughly it would be helpful to know what you do for a living. Why does that matter? Because if you're employed in the medical profession oftentimes politeness is a luxury expenditure of time that saving lives can't afford. On the other hand, I'm a firm believer that respect is a two-way street and I won't be addressed in just any old manner. (You obviously feel the same way, too.) But since "business is business", a candid expression of your feelings for your co-worker is largely irrelevant and out of place...if you use that tactic too often it will seriously affect your employment and harm your professional reputation. I recommend a modified version of your assertive charm....something that advances your same point but has a little less bite to it. Telling you to grow up would be pointless...life will take care of all of that in due time. I was something of a hothead too whenever I felt wronged when I was "20-something" (and "30-something", too frankly). Just try to choose your battles carefully and keep your eye on the bigger picture at all times....your economic survival. Good luck.
2007-10-13 15:44:37 · answer #2 · answered by Captain S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you definetly need to stand up for yourself. But perhaps your approach wasn't the best. Next time, calmly yet firmly (and without swearing), let her know her impolite commands are not called for, if she would like something done, to please ask politely.
2007-10-13 15:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol...that's kinda funny...but...I'm not so sure I would've phrased it the way you did.."What the hell isher problem"...you are still in a professional environment. Sure she is rude, but you don't have to be rude back. You can say things firmly but not rudely. Be the bigger person.
2007-10-13 15:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by dianah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its kind of good you stood up for yourself,
but ignoring? thats like 7th grade stuff
and twenty-something?
very mature on that part.
2007-10-13 15:25:00 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
god that u stood up fr urself, the way u said it was immature
2007-10-13 15:24:46 · answer #6 · answered by ask n u shall receive 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋