My boyfriend and I are untraditional. We have decided that I will be the one to propose to him. I have bought his ring. I have planned the proposal and we talk about the future constantly. He is expecting me to propose. But now I feel like I'm getting cold feet.
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1. He is sweet, sensitive, funny and we share the same values. He treats me very well. Neither of us is rich, but we are sensible about money and I am certain that we would have a secure future.
2. He is wonderful to me in bed, but he has erectile dysfunction. We are investigating options, but we do not know the prognosis. Regardless, he is a sensitive lover and I am satisfied sexually. I have never had intercourse anyway, so I don't know what I'm missing. I am concerned, however, that if there is no treatment it will come to frustrate us in the long run.
3. We have not decided whether we want children or not. He originally thought he wanted them...I have not been so sure and neither of us feels ready to decide.
2007-10-13 14:57:15 · 3 answers · asked by weirdiscomplimentary 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
4. I have not had many serious relationships and I worry that I'm "settling" because he's the best thing that's happened to me so far.
5. We have had some communication problems. We are aware of these and are working on them.
6. I have a difficult and draining job that has frustrated me greatly. He has been my support during this time and I cannot imagine surviving without him. I will be changing jobs at the end of this year, though, and I worry that all his support and love will not be as meaningful to me once I no longer depend on him.
7. When I imagine our lives together, it is a wonderful picture. He is well-educated, passionate, polite and politically-active. If we have children, he would be the perfect father. We are planning to move to a city that we both wish to live in. His family loves me. I feel like I would be an idiot to walk away from this.
So why do I feel so confused?
2007-10-13 15:04:17 · update #1
well i think your a very sensible couple. why don't you just put things on hold. think the major problem is inability to get erection. i think when that problem is sorted. it will be relief all round. i wish you well good luck.
2007-10-13 15:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by willy wom bat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ED is treatable, usually. It is not uncommon, but it's strange to occur in youth ( I assume that you are youthful).
The question is, do you really love him?
If you are certain that you do, then your answer is yes.
2007-10-13 15:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More time = more happiness
Don't rush into it.
2007-10-13 15:49:29 · answer #3 · answered by dude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋