I got raped when I was 14 and I got pregnant. I gave birth to a baby girl. I am 22 now. And I worked to get my body back into shape. I am pretty and so is my daughter. We are both fit. My daughter is well mannered. I have a medical degree, and I haven’t been dating because I was studying. Now I have more free time, and my daughter goes to a great school. Would guys around my age want to date me, even though I have a daughter?
2007-10-13 14:07:57 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Scortch, I wouldn't expect a man to help me with my daughter straight away or any time later. When I told my parents about me being pregnant they kicked me out of the house because I refused to have an abortion, but my brother (who is 3years older than me) helped me when I was pregnant, and afterwards behind my parents back. He still helps me today when I work.
2007-10-13 15:51:05 · update #1
Sounds to me like they would be fools not to, In fact I would say they would be damn lucky to have attention from a lady like you. However guys in their younger 20's are notoriously stupid.. I would suggets dating guys a little older, simply because I would imagine someone like you would be quite a bit more mature than guys your age, maybe even a single dad (yes we are out there) just think of how much the two of you would have in common.
2007-10-13 14:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by Bishop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I hear about some one like yourself my Opinion of humanity raises a notch or two. You are an impressive young lady. You have my respect.
There are all kinds of guys out there. You will have some disadvantage overall. But if you are patient and choose wisely not quickly possibly because of panic, I predict a great relationship for you.
I have children much older than you. I would be so proud to have a daughter like you.
2007-10-13 14:30:11 · answer #2 · answered by len b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am srry to hear about your past no one should ever have to go thru that especially at such a young age good for you for moving on with your life and raising great child and getting your degree. In answer to your question yes guys would want to date you I have met a cple girls with children that I would have dated just be careful of the guys you choose and dont get yourself a a**hole. You seem like someone who would be my type of a serious relationship have a good job and you know what you want from life.
2007-10-13 14:14:41 · answer #3 · answered by can only give advice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I guess if they liked you enough it wouldn't matter if you had a daughter. On the other hand there are some guys who can't stand children no matter how they behave, and won't date you for that reason. But other than that your having a daughter shouldn't be a factor in your dating life...Good luck
2007-10-13 14:11:38 · answer #4 · answered by mustard...yummy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sure, you sound like a great girl with a lot of willpower and strength of character since you actually went through the pregnancy and didn't abort the baby. Since I'm a Christian, I wouldn't very likely want to date someone who had a baby outside of wedlock, but something like your case is unavoidable, so I would have no issues.
2007-10-13 14:12:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Take your time and find the right one. The right one wouldn't care of any previous baggage that comes with entering a relationship. Just be open about it and weed out the wrong guys.
2007-10-13 14:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by charliman2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would not have bothered me at that age. A decent guy who is actually interested in the possibilty of a serious relationship would not be stopped by your daughter.
2007-10-13 14:18:39 · answer #7 · answered by Charles C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i commend you on moving on past a traumatic part of your life and excepting your baby without reservation .believe me people (men your age)will except you and your daughter and not judge you for things beyond your controls.if they can't the hell with them they aren't worth your time anyway.keep believing in yourself and others will believe in you.guys will be tripping over each other just for the chance to be with you. BE CHOOSY LIVE A PEACEFUL AND JOYOUS LIFE.
2007-10-13 15:25:29 · answer #8 · answered by Kirk K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 24 and wouldn't mind, as long as you didn't expect me to help pay for her right away, have my own bills to pay, and if we got serious that would all change, but as far as just having the kid as a deal maker, nah.
2007-10-13 14:13:19 · answer #9 · answered by scorch_22 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think so. there are still men who are reasonable enough to understand your situation. it is not by your own volition that you got pregnant. what you should ask is ¨are they worthy enough to be your date¨. cheer up, there are still a lot of opportunity for you. who knows, maybe he's just around the corner.
2007-10-13 14:23:09 · answer #10 · answered by sigfred b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋