please no "let's just be friends"
2007-10-13 13:53:49 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
That's very considerate of you. The truth is, there is no way to completely spare the poor guy's feelings, so the best thing to do is be honest. Tell him you're not interested. It'll sting, but the guy will appreciate it a whole lot more than being patronized or consoled or lied to.
2007-10-13 13:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by Jonathan 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Good for you! You're being sensitive to other people's feelings. That's very rare today! You must be a very mature person. You don't have to give them a paragraph, just say no, but thank you. If they ask why, say ' I don't have a reason. I didn't know you were going to ask! I just don't want to go out.' Rejection is always a problem. But people have to learn how to deal with it. You are not telling the individual that you hate him, or that he's a nerd, or a bore..... You're just saying, 'It was nice of you to ask, but I don't want to go out." Change the subject or walk away. Don't let him dwell on it. Trying to wear you down is not the answer. Take charge of your circumstances or your circumstances will take charge of you. You be in control. OK! Good luck!
2007-10-15 17:05:28 · answer #2 · answered by Mercedes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Philo is right. You have to be honest. Every man and woman knows when they ask someone out that there is a chance of rejection. They think it's worth the risk. You have to tell him flat out that you're not interested. No explanation necessary. If you say you want to be friends, it will only get their hopes up. You don't have to feel bad about saying no. You can't date every man who asks.
2007-10-13 21:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thank him for the honor of asking you out. Be honest and tell him why you do not see him as a romantic possibility. The softest would be along these lines:
I really don't think I'm your type, or that we have very much in common. Perhaps you would do better with another girl.
2007-10-14 02:02:41 · answer #4 · answered by CC 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the best way to kindly turn someone down is to say:
"I'm sorry but I'm not ready for a relationship right now. It's not you, but it's me. I don't think I can be ready to start dating for a while because I recently ended a big relationship. I hope you can understand."
2007-10-13 20:57:03 · answer #5 · answered by lelenguyen05 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Don't tell them that you're not interested in men unless you really are trying to be gaye, lol. Just tell him you're not interested at this time but you would like to be friends. If you're not looking for anyone, just tell him you think he's a really cool guy, but you're not trying to be with anybody right now.
2007-10-13 20:57:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
just tell the truth. because if you really so want to be friends with them, and i know the "let's just be friends is lame" so that's never a good answer, say stuff like I wouldn't want to ruin our friendship, or lets start as friends and see how it goes from there. the best is always lets start as friends and see how it goes.
2007-10-13 20:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by Clueless 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Thank them for the compliment of asking you out, but no thank you.
2007-10-13 23:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by Kelley H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well all you really have to say is no but then be like i don't want to hurt your feeling i just don't like you as something more than friends
2007-10-13 20:57:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
sorry i can not think of you as a lover. (frank and gentle).
if you want an evasive way, just try to avoid him till he knows.
2007-10-13 20:59:31 · answer #10 · answered by Psychological Moment 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋