answers on adoption,people are giving some really good answers and advice to people and then they get the thumbs down for it......why....is it because people dont understand about adoption.....if thats the case then they shouldnt be voting,what right do they have to make someone feel like they should keep there opinions to themselves when all there doing is trying to help or get there point across......
2007-10-13 13:45:47 · 22 answers · asked by bugwales 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adoption
im an adoptee......thank you for your answers...some of them have made me feel better
2007-10-13 13:59:50 · update #1
I think we all need to just speak our truth and know that it will be found and appreciated by those it speaks to. We don't need to convince everyone else our position is right. Even if a lot of people are giving things thumbs down, there are probably some people who are being helped by those answers, too. All you can do is put it out there.
2007-10-13 14:23:44 · answer #1 · answered by Erin L 5 · 12⤊ 1⤋
I give thumbs down when someone gives incorrect information on a very factual question... For example, if the question is, "I gave my baby up for adoption three years ago, can I get her back now?" and someone says "I think so, look at Baby Richard" or something, then I'll give a thumbs down. Because people should NOT be giving out false information. Period.
I also give thumbs down for answers that name-call or belittle a whole group of other people... For example, "Don't listen to the above posters, they just all had bad adoption experiences."
And finally, I sometimes (though not usually) give thumbs down for people who make sweeping generalizations without an ounce of nuance in them... For example, "Adoption is a wonderful gift, it is such a blessing!" or "All adoption is evil and wrong." (Though I don't actually think I've seen the latter on Yahoo, despite what a few posters here seem to believe.)
I do NOT thumbs down people when they share their personal experience, even if I don't agree with their viewpoint on adoption, as long as there isn't false info in the answer.
The world isn't black and white, and I can't stand answers that portray adoption--an extremely complex subject--that way to newbies. It's irreponsible.
And it's irresponsible to give people false information, too. For heaven's sake, if you don't KNOW what the revocation period is in a certain state, don't answer. If you don't KNOW that open adoptions are legally binding in a certain state, don't say that the adoptive parents will have to honor the agreement. Etc.
So anyway. That's my defense for using thumbs down.
2007-10-14 18:19:40 · answer #2 · answered by concerned 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I do not get upset over thumbs down - but I do find thumbs rather curious, particularly in this category.
I have been doing research for 10 years on infant mental health, bonding, prenatal and perinatal psychology, neuropsychology, neurobiology, child trauma, child abuse, and attachment parenting (*whew!*). This knowledge has made me a child advocate.
I have gotten a lot of 'best answers' in the Newborn and Baby category because of my knowledge. Yet when that knowledge is applied to adoption, some people just don't want to hear it.
What I find even more curious is that, the more I share my knowledge in support of the best interests of children in the Adoption category here, the more thumbs down I get. If anything, it makes me very sad that so many people refuse to honor and respect children as fellow human beings.
To get thumbed down unfortunately tells me that the general public is not interested in the facts connected with adoption, but in having their personal views supported.
But it's only Yahoo. No biggie.
2007-10-13 22:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by Julie R 3 · 9⤊ 1⤋
I base my thumbs down policy on incorrect answers. It is based on the myths of adoption. Adoption violates your and my rights daily.
You can be happy all you want. I just want you to have the choice to do as you want. If you want to search, fine. If you don't want to search, fine. I fight for ethics in adoption. I fight for adoptees to have access to the very document that accurately records their birth. I want to also make very very clear. Just because someone is searching, it is not nor will it ever be. Non adopted are allowed their family tree, heritage, and OBC. Why can't adoptees have that? That is what many of us argue. Adoption has hurt us by lying to us, coercing our natural parents, and stole from our adoptive parents.
2007-10-14 21:05:46 · answer #4 · answered by amyburt40 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yahoo Q & A is about opinions.
That's what the thumbs are for.
If you agree or disagree with the answer - you use the thumbs.
It's not rocket science.
Or some mystical thing.
It's also NOT some personal thing - most here don't know others in real life.
It's just about opinions.
If you like an opinion - you thumb it up.
Dislike - thumb it down.
If you wish to not partake in either - don't do it.
For me I thumb down those that perpetuate the myths which are so entrenched in society about what adoption is all about.
That's just me - and my opinion.
I don't want more and more adoptees growing up being made to feel like worthless members of society - just because people refuse to educate themselves fully about all that goes on in adoption.
I also can't stand when the rights of mother and child are so blatantly disregarded in this industry - which adoption has become.
If people don't challenge long held beliefs - how are things going to ever change for adoptees - young and old - and in between.
For me - it is NOT a personal attack. It's just an - 'I don't agree'.
Please never take the thumbs personally.
They're just little animated things that people find fascination with - either good or bad.
I think they also need a little 'peace' sign to add on to there.
That's what I'd add here.
:o)
2007-10-13 22:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 7⤋
It is every category. I have given answers based on what my son's doctor told me, and nurses and doctors at one of the top Children's hospitals in the country have told me and people give a thumbs down because they don't like to be contradicted. They think their answer is the only one.
2007-10-13 22:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋
I find the best answers are the ones that have the most thumbs down and thumbs up, they are the ones that make people think.
2007-10-13 20:48:17 · answer #7 · answered by Steve C 7 · 16⤊ 2⤋
Wait till you start winding up the hang-an-asylum-seeker BNP brigade, fresh from their Daily Mails and Princess Di worship. I nearly got into double figures once!
2007-10-13 20:56:12 · answer #8 · answered by supashopper 3 · 3⤊ 3⤋
Giving a thumbs down or up gains no points so, they are doing it to be mean. I looked back at some of my best answers and was surprised at how many thumbs down I got.
2007-10-13 20:49:42 · answer #9 · answered by Jason 6 · 9⤊ 5⤋
I made a similar point recently, namely that whenever anyone tried to help, with good advice, and or gave the asker a positive response, they would get a thumbs down!
It's annoying and uncalled for, I think we just have to accept there are a lot of immature people frequenting this site! You must keep the faith, and go on giving your good advice, and helpful comments, they don't go unoticed!!
Cheer up and have a star!!
2007-10-13 20:54:04 · answer #10 · answered by speedboat 3 · 4⤊ 7⤋