My friend is getting married, and she really wants sleeveless bridesmaid dresses. One of the other bridesmaids is mormon, so she does not want to wear a sleeveless dress. The bride does not want to single out one person, nor does she want everyone to wear jackets. Does anyone have a suggestion about how to make our mormon friend fit in with a wedding party wearing sleeveless dresses? Thanks!
2007-10-13 13:29:53 · 17 answers · asked by buggi1217 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think having the girls in the same color and different dresses that flatter their bodies would be the easiest thing to do. Putting everyone in the same dress is easy enough but can look horrible if they aren't the same general shape. David's Bridal as well as most designers have mix and match separates that would be easy enough to secure in the same color fabric or taking them all to the store at once asking dresses in a particular color to be pulled would help them find the right dress for themselves and one they could afford.
2007-10-13 15:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by indydst8 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The mormon girl has a very good argument. Not only does she not want to expose too much of herself, but a sleeveless dress would probably expose part of her garments, which are special underwear the faithful wear, that include a shirt. An exception does need to be made for her. For that matter, though, many of the bridesmaids might prefer different sleeve choices. I will be a bridesmaid in two weddings coming up where the brides where gracious enough to let me choose my dress within their color schemes, so that I could choose what would most flatter my shape. I did that with my wedding as well, and I really feel all the bridesmaids in this wedding will be grateful if given that choice as well.
The bride may actually enjoy perhaps picking two or three styles she likes and distributing them among the bridesmaids. This can be a fun opportunity for everyone.
2007-10-13 20:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by mina_lumina 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I've seen different approaches. One is to buy a bolt of fabric that you want and have the bridesmaids get their dresses made. Its not hard to find seamstresses and that way each bridesmaid will get a pattern that they want. Another is simply to pick a color. The third would be to find something that has sleeves. You see the Mormon bridesmaid may not be able to wear a sleeveless dress. Talk to her though and work something out.
2007-10-16 09:16:32 · answer #3 · answered by Sherpa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming the issue is that the Mormon friend wears the sacred garments under her clothes, and a sleeveless dress would expose them. That is a tough one because the only way to hide them would be to have a dress with some type of sleeve. Maybe the bridesmaids could have wraps to go with their dresses? But then that one bridesmaid would have to keep the wrap on all day... hmmm, that is a tough one! Tell your friend good luck figuring it out!
2007-10-13 20:37:53 · answer #4 · answered by theMrs. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well I would just find a dress that has an option of a wrap or a jacket so that she can wear it. I mean my bridesmaid is also very modest (although she doesn't have to worry about sacred garments), and so since my goal isn't to make her look like some sex goddess, I used her input in finding a dress. Another option is mix and match separates in the same color... like Davids Bridal. So they could all have the same skirt style, and then different top styles. This often looks better because then girls with different body shapes have tops that flatter them, not one that makes them all look okay, or one bridesmaid looks super hot and the other looks like a sausage.
2007-10-13 20:52:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nowhere in "the rules" does it say that every bridesmaid has to have a sleeveless style. If the bride is not willing to accomodate the beliefs of one of her friends, then that friend should think twice. One option would be for everybody to get the same length and colour, but different sleeve/strap styles. Another one would be the separates.
I would think though that the bride would be more accomodating of the fact that one of her bridesmaids, who she asks to stand with her, is uncomfortable with the style chosen.
2007-10-14 02:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by Trista 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I have been to weddings were the maids of honor wear differant dresses but the same color of dress, i have been to weddings where the guys wear sandels and pink shirts, or where the groom wore a white shirt and a hawian lay. Its the brides wedding, actually she can ether accomidate the mormon by having her ladies wear differnat style of dresses, but the same color, or mae them wear all the same dress and same color, thus the Mormon will have to decline being th ewedding becaus eof a modesty issue or because she wears the temple garments. This is between the mormon and the bride, but in the end all up to the bride because it is HER big day.
2007-10-14 22:46:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would the Mormon friend be comfortable with sheer sleeves? It might be possible to alter a dress and add on sheer sleeves without it being too noticeable, but it also might not be enough to make the MF comfortable.
I don't think the bride is being a very good friend if the dresses are more important than including her friend. There are so many options to have coordinating dress that aren't all the same these days.
2007-10-13 20:43:19 · answer #8 · answered by Katherine 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Can't she compromise and maybe have them wear cap sleeves? I bet the LDS girl would go for that.
I also like when the bride just gives her bridesmaids the fabric she likes and has the bridesmaids make a dress that they like. I've seen this done and it's really quite lovely.
2007-10-14 06:17:43 · answer #9 · answered by mormon_4_jesus 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The most common thing I see in this situation, is to have the bridesmaid wear some sot of wrap that she can drape over her arms or shoulders. It covers, but isn't a huge difference from the others. Have fun!
2007-10-17 18:49:45 · answer #10 · answered by notoriousnicholas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋