I'm 27, he's 19. We have only been together a few days, so nothing serious. He is a great guy, and crazy about me, we have alot in common. He's completely OK with the age gap, but it weirds me out a bit. We are both legal, and he is very mature for his age, I could have sworn he was at least 25 when I met him. Is it possible to get over this?
2007-10-13 13:11:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. You won't get over this and you will sabotage this if you keep seeing it this way. You need to see him as a person who sees interest in you and sees the age gap as nothing more than a gap. If you really like this guy and though nothing serious is happening now, then just see past his age and make things work. ..my cousin went through this...3 weeks later the age became an issue for every little detail of him. Explaining all of his behavior on his age. She left him. For good.
2007-10-13 13:17:07 · answer #1 · answered by LadyD 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have been in your shoes before too.
Its a hard thing to choose. Yes they are of age and seem very mature at first but for how long? Is that permanent, in my case it stayed that way for almost 3 years before she showed her true immaturity by age 22. She acted older and more mature but when it came right down to it she simply did not have enough age to have the wisdom of lifes experiences to go with it.
Then if you live here in the USA and you enjoy the night life on weekends or such you will have to wait 2 years before he can go with you and that may cause problems.
SO sure age can cause problems, but if you really like him and he likes you and its not that serious yet what do you really have to lose by giving it a little more time?
Sure you can get over it, I did after a year because of the longevity of it, but yes time heals most wounds.
2007-10-13 20:20:01 · answer #2 · answered by Legend Gates Shotokan Karate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think (and it's only MY opinion) that someone at your age(s) should NOT have that big of a gap in age....now if you were 30 and I were 40 that would be different. Chances are that you will not live happily ever after in this relationship. You've only been together a few days. Give it time and if it works, terrific. If not, remember I told you so. Good luck!
2007-10-13 20:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by bazimme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. like many pepole i know who are way older than each other who have lived years apart and are married. like lets say if u were 3293 years old and he was 2123 years old would it matter. no. age is just a number and lets just say that age dosent exist then it still wouldnt matter right. see what i`m getting at is that age is just something some human started long tima ago that would separate the huiman race from each other by heigh with and how they look.so try to keep it going it might be good luck and he might be mr right for u and dont ever vhange u two not even when u married. so good luck.
2007-10-13 20:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
age doesn't really matter except for certain situations.. especially if he appears very mature for his age. but i would take it slow and not rush into things to much.. sometimes they seem mature for there age and then a few months go by and your like 'uhhhh what happen?!' i would give it sometime, if your gonna be weirded out by the age than i would suggest moving on and letting go because its always going to bother you.
2007-10-13 20:16:39 · answer #5 · answered by dubahyew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Times they are a changin'" Men date woman many years
their "junior".(10-20 yrs ) I don't see one solitary thing
wrong with the small age difference. If your comfortable
with this relationship other than the age factor-go for
it. Enjoy the moment you never know.
2007-10-13 20:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by mary s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never judge a person by there age. if you like him and think he is a great guy, then let the relationship continue, there is no harm in it. talk to him about it if it gets to be too much for you, maybe he has a way to help. good luck.
2007-10-13 20:15:44 · answer #7 · answered by lostboylostgrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you will. Age ain't nothing but a number....I would go with it for a little bit and see what happends. Good luck.
2007-10-13 20:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by mikesl3abygrl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is just 19 he didnt experience life yet sure you cant date but dont expect it to be a long relationship because he is young he still have his life to live you on the other is probably thinking bout settling down and his family probably wont even let him
2007-10-13 20:22:01 · answer #9 · answered by sob13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is lol my parents are seven years apart...if he is mature then its fine. Remember age is just a number!!
2007-10-13 20:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by superflyflyer95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋