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I met both my ex and his best friend in high school in 1997. When me and my ex started dating for about 2 weeks, his best friend asked if he can f**k me. Of course I said no. As I started hanging around with my ex and all his other friends, my feelings for that one best friend grew. I fell in love with him. I told all my girl friends that if me and my ex ever broke up I would go out with his best friend. Me and my ex stayed together for 8 years. Now that we're not together anymore, I let his best friend know that I like him. His response was "I have a girlfriend." Which I know is a lie. Why won't he date me? I mean it's been 2 years all ready that me and my ex had been broken up. I know my ex is not over me yet since that's what he told me the last time I talked to him. But me and the best friend can just hook up with out my ex knowing right?

2007-10-13 13:07:39 · 32 answers · asked by angel 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

32 answers

Are you serious?!?!?!? Your ex has probably told him ALL KINDA SH*T about you

2007-10-13 13:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by Larry The Don ® 3 · 3 0

Wow, I have to say that you may not be seeing the whole picture. Let's put it in a way that maybe you can relate to, imagine yourself in the same situation except that it is your best friend that your ex wants to date and you still have feelings for him. You have to understand, you and your ex were togather for 8 years, that's a long time and I am sure that your ex raved about you and told all his friends how much he loved and cherished during that time period. Even though it has been 2 years since you and your ex were togather, it doesn't change how he felt during that time and obviously how he feels about you now. Your ex's best friend is respecting the boundaries of his friendship with your ex and you should respect that decision. He is loyal to his best friend and doesn't want to ruin a great friendship over a girl. It is the same as it should be with your friends and frankly I am surprised that you feel like it is okay to disrespect the friendship between your ex and his best friend by trying to go out with him behind your ex's back. You also need to look at it another way, when you first started dating your ex how do you know the best friend wasn't testing you to see how loyal you were to his friend. Either way, you need to respect the feelings and decison of the best friend and move on, the last thing you want is for people to view you in a negative way because you went after your ex's bestfriend.

2007-10-13 13:43:51 · answer #2 · answered by chante n 3 · 0 0

In the dating world there are unwritten laws. I'm sure you know them. In the friendship world, there are unwritten laws as well. And dating a best friend's ex is one of them. When a guy goes out with a girl, that girl is then invisibly marked and only the guy's friends can pick up on that. By dating the other guy, you're completely off limits to his friends, even if eventually you two break up. Your ex's bff is just trying to honor those "laws of friendship". Try to respect that, and turn your affection to someone else because to your ex's bff, your a "forbidden fruit".

2007-10-13 13:17:37 · answer #3 · answered by fobabe032 3 · 0 0

u selfish little biotch.
If he is truly a best friend to your ex...why would he sleep with the girl who his best friend is still torn up about, even two years later?

No seriously, if it's meant to be, it'll be.
If he's saying he's taken, he's just not interested right now, so move on. You never know in the future.

It's a touchy line and sometimes best friends behave like this out of respect. You know friends are for lives...romantic relationships statistically don't last.. Of course, there are exceptions.

2007-10-13 13:14:45 · answer #4 · answered by Lil Blousou 3 · 2 0

If your best friend started a relationship with your ex, would you be offended? The best friend of your ex does not want to offend his friend. You have to understand that when a friend does that she or he will lose trust. That is not what one should do if they have earned trust. To betray that trust is an embezzlement. If you really like the guy ask your ex if he would get angry if you did go out with his best friend. I don't mean to offend you here but I would look to other horizons for love and leave friends of your ex out of the equation, if he is not over you he will lose his respect for anyone he knows that does go out with you.

2007-10-13 13:28:33 · answer #5 · answered by boworl 4 · 1 0

Hooking up behind your ex's back with his best friend is a scummy move on both your parts. He obviously knows this and abides by the rule, Bros Before Ho's. Doing things behind ones back is why chicks have a hard time keeping friends. Ya'll can't deal with not getting what you want. ***This does not apply to you grown women who know how to maintain normal, loyal friendships.*** Avoid a sh_t storm and find another guy sister!!!

2007-10-13 13:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by V3g 3 · 1 0

No, that's not right. Out of respect for your X, you should NOT date his friend, PERIOD. Maybe this 'new guy' just plain doesn't want to date you regardless of the reason. If you think your X wouldn't find out, think again girl....the truth always comes out in the end....not telling is just like a lie. Good luck and find another "real man" who isn't in a relationship with another friend of your X's....there are plenty "good" fish in the sea; you just have to open your eyes and look. Take care.

2007-10-13 13:17:17 · answer #7 · answered by bazimme 3 · 1 0

I'm in the same boat...except my ex and his best friend are no longer friends. And, really, the only reason I want to pursue a relationship with him is to piss my ex off.

Maybe in your situation the guy just lost interest over time. It happens.

2007-10-13 13:16:38 · answer #8 · answered by Alexi 3 · 1 0

I would find someone else out of the circle. That just seems like it could turn into a bad situation. Also if he lied to you about a gf then he may not even be interstead anymore, people do change. Move on.

2007-10-13 13:11:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

That is wrong and your ex's best friend is being a good friend. The guy you like is being a good friend and probably doesn't want to hurt his best friend.

2007-10-13 13:11:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No, the best friend has to ask you're ex first for the 'thumbs up' Its just in the dating law and friend ship law.

2007-10-13 13:10:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

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