there is this guy and i really like him. on his folder it said i love [my name] so i got all happy. we dont talk though, actually he never said a word to me, but i noticed him looking at me when i walked down the hallway. i dont think that he likes me though cus im not that pretty or popular, and he is a really popular guy. he has all the pretty girls and the sluts talking to him and stuff so i think its too goood to be true that he likes me. can anyone tell me how i can say anything to him to make us kinda get a bond goin on??please dont say anything stupid like makeout with him or anything like that. my friends say that he likes me cus of the thing on his folder but i dont believe it though.
2007-10-13 13:07:34 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it said my first and last name
2007-10-13 13:20:08 · update #1
Well first off are you sure that nobody else has the same name as you? You don't want to look stupid. Okay just start up a light conversation with him. If you have the same class together ask him for help. Or maybe when you pass him in the hall just say hi.
2007-10-13 13:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymity 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you want to "test the waters", always start with making coments on the passing scene. If he answers back posetively, then you can have some idea that he likes you, at least as a potential friend. If however, he looks at you askance, or says something snide, then you know not to waste your time. The long term key to finding love worth having is to find a guy that treats you well, not the charm, and seduction routine, but the respect and consideration kind of thing. May sound boring, but anything less will lead to misery.
2007-10-13 20:28:30 · answer #2 · answered by ibdastevie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is smile at him when you see him and try and say something, when you can. He doesn't sound like he's shy, so I'm sure if he wants to, he'll start talking to you himself to get things going. I don't believe in doing cartwheels to get someone's attention. If it's meant to happen, it will. You can help things along by looking friendly and approachable, but I wouldn't worry that anything more needs to be done. The only other thing you could do, is join something he's also in, like cheerleading, if he's on the football team, or the drama club, if he's in there doing that, or choir or band practice. To put yourself where you'd be meeting him more often through the natural course of things, so you don't look like you're following him around like a puppy dog. Just let things happen and time will tell!
2007-10-13 20:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would approach this carefully. He may fully well like you, but we always have to be cautious. I have a 15 year old son, and he is very shy, probably would not tell a girl he likes her, even though he has plenty of "girls" calling him all the time. Do you have a class with him? Are you in the same grade? I would say you need to find a common link, before you approach talking to him. Try to think of a link, then we'll figure out how to talk to him.
2007-10-13 20:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mindy E 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right not to believe it. You sound like a very sensible girl. This 'popular' thing drives me crazy. Most 'popular' people I've known are just as human and full of faults like the rest of us. They are just as insecure - if not more so - and feel a need to be popular, just to satisfy their own insecurities. You sound very grounded to me. Don't put yourself down regarding your looks; If I think 'Ugly Betty' is attractive, then there's hope for all of us.(including an old fart like me). Let him do the chasing, not you. If he doesn't, then he's not worth your time. Above all...let's be careful out there!
2007-10-13 20:27:41 · answer #5 · answered by Emerald Book Reviews 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you have any classes with him? and are you sure that there are no other girls with your name that might have been represented on that thing on his folder? well i would say just talk to him its scary but u dont need to be gorgeous or a slut to attract a guy...im sure u have something to offer him besides that stuff...just talk to him casually and you two will create a bond that maybe things could grow off of good luck!
2007-10-13 20:13:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's a "wait and see" type of thing. Maybe you THINK you aren't popular or pretty or whatever but HE may think so....maybe you just have a low self-esteem issue? I don't know what to do really, but I would lay low and see what happens. He might be playing a cruel joke on you or he really DOES like you. Like I've said, I think you should just wait and see what transpires. Good luck.
2007-10-13 20:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by bazimme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
geeze, tough.
well the best thing I can think of is just sit next to him in class if you have class with him and ask him for help or about the homework or something. make a joke, point out the thing on his folder and let it go from there.
2007-10-13 20:12:17 · answer #8 · answered by Midget 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes you. As you said, he's really popular, and thinking about u all the time, but he doesn't want to be made fun of by his friends for going out with an "unpopular girl". The most you can do is hint that you like him back and hope he figures out what he really cares about.
2007-10-13 20:11:13 · answer #9 · answered by mikezcim 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, if the thing on his folder wasn't a joke or some girl with the same name he met somewhere...just be a friend to him, ask him to the movies. Maybe you become movie buddies and get something to eat after...you'll get an idea if he likes you or not.
2007-10-13 20:11:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lil Blousou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋