Jehovah's Witnesses please help?

Question

I would like to become a JW but I don't like people. This is difficult to explain...Im very solitary and don't like to be around people. It drains me out when Im with people. Im not into small talk or anything, actually I am but find grown ups to be weird. I find people's ego disturbing. I can only stand kids because they are still natural and real, but something happens when we grow up that we become actors, not wanting to be rejected and so people put on a fake self that protects their ego. I don't know but I don't like to be around people because I see this in everybody and I hear their fake pointless conversations, It's like nobody is been real. Maybe this is in my head but its how I feel and I can't change it.

I was wondering if a person can just become a JW just by studying God's word and preaching at work or anywhere he gets a chance.

I know you are going to say no...buy really theres nothing else I can do. Im 33 and don't even have a girl friend, that's how solitary I am

Answer 1

I'm sure a cult like JWs will welcome you with open arms since you are in such a vulnerable state they can really brainwash you. I suggest you look up in google what ex JWs have to say about this cult and how harmful it really is!

You will be out of luck if you think you can just stick to yourself as their idea of charity work is door knocking on strangers doors trying to convert them and sell them a magazine. That is the main part of being a JW! You will also need to attend their kingdom hall where it will be swarming with people who will want to talk with you.

Also once you become part of JW they wil want to know the ins and outs of your life because you do get punished for what they see as wrong behavior and they can't keep an eye on what you are getting up to if you are hiding inside your house.

You can have a relationship with God outside of religion and if you want to learn the bible look up online resources or books so you can teach yourself. Don't get yourself into a cult that is the biggest mistake you will ever make.

BTW all people in cults act friendly and so nice, if they didn't they couldn't attract converts. So don't let that fool you.

Answer 2

haha your right, first i AM going to tell you that going to the KH and preaching with other JWs is the best way to go. Also I was REALLY shy (wouldn't talk to ANYONE, not even my family sometimes) but the hall is very friendly and you don't need to talk if you don't want to. many in your position will come in during the first song and leave when the second starts so they can learn but not feel under pressure to speak to people.

But on a more personal note, as i too have been in your position, studying Gods word and telling people about it (which you seem happy to do) is exactly what Jehovah asks you to do. If you feel you really can't do the entire thing then God will appreciate your efforts! Althoughi might suggest befriending at least 1 JW (needn'tbe at the KH!) so you dont get discouraged.

Hope you continue on your course, well done!

Answer 3

Some people like solitude, I guess there's nothing wrong with that, perhaps that is your personality. You seem to be quite young, so that could be a part of why you feel the way you do. It takes time for us to get to know ourselves and to be comfortable with others.

Not all adults are fake or put on masks and become actors in order to not be rejected. Jehovah loves us for who we are, and if He can accept us that way, we should be more than willing to give others a try.

Preaching God's word is a privilege, and we certainly can do that at every opportunity that we encounter....be it work, internet or any where else for that matter. Some of us JW's still have troubling going "door to door" but God's spirit helps us to carry out His will. Study with the Witnesses and see how you feel.....I'm sure that after a while you won't be so solitare, you'll experience the love and warmth of God's people and you will certainly want to be in their presence.
Peace to you.

Answer 4

We (JW's) have to attend meetings which means we do have to interact among one another to some extent. Even though it is difficult for some people, spending time with the Friends helps us to cultivate love for one another.
But it's not easy if you're severely introverted or anxious.

I suffer severe anxiety and a smidge of OCD. And although medicine isn't for everyone I take Lexapro, Strattera, and Provigil primarily for anxiety and excessive daytime sleepiness. Perhaps meds could help you.

Some things that also help are leaving directly after the final prayer and arriving during the opening song... I only do that on very bad days because we do need to interact. Also, find an Elder or Pioneer you're comfortable with and ask to study the Bible with that person and make dates to go out in Service with just one or two others.
As you read the Bible, study and come to know each of the Friends, you'll find JW's are among the most open and honest and unpretensious people you could ever meet.

May Jehovah bless your efforts to draw closer to him and His people.

Answer 5

Hey,my finger is broke trying to get past the Jive Mans paste job and you made me feel like I was writing this stuff ,I mean your que.I;m older now and don't have that problem so much but love to see the joy young people put out compared to the blowing ,bragging and complaining of older ones.-lol-Buddy give the study thing a shot with Jehovah's Witnesses,you can't go wrong ,and i noticed there is a few jabbering soles there in line to discourage you from it .There will be lots of good help and ways to full fill your desire to help ones who cry out for help from this system of things that is under the control of Satan .Yea that thing about being around people ,I would almost look for a hole to crawl into ,as best I would find a seat in the back or corner and now that I'm old and ugly I couldn't care less,ah they say I'm not that ugly.lol~ give it a shot Yikes don't let those trolls and apostates there stop you .

Answer 6

Jehovah God wanted us to use his name. Matthew 6:9, Jesus told us that we should pray: "Our Father in the heavens, let your NAME be SANCTIFIED." Also Isaiah 43:10 also brings out that Jehovah said, "You are my WITNESSES." God is a Title. Even with Arabs. A good dictionary will show you, “Allah” is a shortened form of the Arabic term meaning “the god", this is not a name. The title “God” is neither personal nor distinctive. In the Hebrew Scriptures the same word (ʼElo‧him′) is applied to Jehovah, the true God, and also to false gods. The Imperial Bible-Dictionary says: “It is everywhere a proper name, denoting the personal God and him only; whereas Elohim partakes more of the character of a common noun, denoting usually, indeed, but not necessarily nor uniformly, the Supreme. . . . The Hebrew may say the Elohim, the true God, in opposition to all false gods; but he never says the Jehovah, for Jehovah is the name of the true God only. He says again and again my God . . . ; but never my Jehovah, for when he says my God, he means Jehovah. He speaks of the God of Israel, but never of the Jehovah of Israel, for there is no other Jehovah. He speaks of the living God, but never of the living Jehovah, for he cannot conceive of Jehovah as other than living.” Hope This Helps

Answer 7

i have lived with JW's as well as studied with them a long time. i think that you need to seek God on the answer here.
if u think u are not able to WITNESS to everyone--all the time--knock on doors and such--then PRAY and ask God to make you the person he wants you to be. and while you are at it--ask HIM if you should chose this particular church that believes on knocking on all the doors in every town?
if one cannot be a Jehovah's Witness--why not first JUST be a Witness for Jehovah?
get to know him better--get to know yourself better.
ask yourself important questions like
1) why do i do what i do?
2) why do I NOT do what i do not do?
you will more then likely find the same answer as i found for myself--and others have also found--
you do what you do because you WANT to--you don't do what you don't do because you do not want to.
once you get past the first 2 questions and answers--then ask your self 2 far more complicated questions--
why do i want to?
why do i NOT want to?
the answers are different for every person--
but GOD is the same.
if u want to change, seek out the one who made you--he is the only one who can change you.
and then Pray "GODS WILL BE DONE"
have faith that it will be.......because it will be.

Answer 8

Jesus preached both formally and informally. The most classic example of Jesus' informal witnessing was the occasion when he casually spoke with the woman at the well. He also spoke about the kingdom at banquets when he was a guest. The Watchtower has likewise always encouraged us to use both avenues.

But, whereas, some of Jehovah's Witnesses find it difficult to go from door to door preaching to strangers, others find it difficult to talk about their faith in a casual informal setting. The thing is, you should do what you can in the way you are most comfortable.

Answer 9

When you take the time to get to know Jehovah God....
He promises to turn His attention to You.
Trust Him.
We all have our own gifts from Jehovah.
So, go to the Hall, continue in your studies....
See where Jehovah leads You, to.
Where He wants You, Is where He'll put you.
He gives strength, beyond what is normal*.

There are other options available...
letter writing, telephone witnessing.

I am a very private person.
But it doesn't stop me from serving Jehovah.

*normal for you.

Answer 10

"Love" for neighbor doesn't come naturally to a lot of people. It is something that has to be developed.

I personally think that sometimes, this lack of "love" is due to a fear of rejection. If we reject them first, then they can't hurt us... (that's just my opinion)

As a child, I was considered "painfully shy" I didn't even want to make eye contact with people, let alone have them speak to me. But what I learned is that I had to work hard to 'get over myself' and endeavor to get to know other people in order to become friends with them. (if that makes sense.) This change in attitude requires not taking ourselves so seriously, and putting other peoples interests in front of our own. Is this easy? I can say from experience, "No" This type of transformation doesn't come over night, but over time 'love for neighbor', or 'liking' people in general can develop.

But you don't have to wait for this alteration before you make a dedication to Jehovah. These adjustments that I mentioned will come much faster with Jehovah's help. Through prayer and a study of God's word our personalities are transformed for the better.

Answer 11

HI there.
I dont believe it.Reading your question is just like me writing it! Except I dont like kids either.I hated people and too was a very solitary person.I didnt get on with people because they are all so false and a real drag to try and get on with.Small talk still bores me to death.I especially hated other females and found that I got on better with men.I was referred to as a snob and other such names because I didnt like to socialise and mix with people.Even today I still prefer my own company.
I studied the Bible and became one of Jehovahs Witnesses and have been for ten years now.I never thought that I could go door to door.But then I never thought I could give up smoking and taking drugs either.But Jehovah God gives you the strength.I used to pray to Jehovah to please help me to be bold as the Apostle Paul did and you wouldnt believe it but He has.I can now talk to anyone!! It doesnt bother me or scare me one bit one.Its so amazing what Jehovah can do if only you have trust and faith in him to help you.
I still as I said prefer my own company but I go out in the door to door work and afterward there is such a wonderful feeling of accomplishment that you had been doing what God wants of you and believe me he blesses you for it.
So please dont be afraid of what might be.Take one day at a time.Please commence a bible study programme and in the meantime pray to Jehovah to help you when the time comes for you to start field service.He will strengthen you and guide you.Believe me - have faith in Jehovah