ok well me and this guy have been together for about 1 month and a half already and well he doesnt talk to me at school or n e thing he waits until like nine pm to call me at school when i pass him he just walks right pass me and says nothing when ever he is near his friends he never talks to me i started crying at school bc my grandpa is suffering from cancer and all he did was stare at me not even comfront me or n e thing he never talks to me idk wat to do now he says he luves me and cares about me alot but he ignores me at school wat do i do
2007-10-13 12:08:54 · 16 answers · asked by tiki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You didn't do anything wrong so you don't need to do anything. He's the wrong one.He seems embarrassed about your guys' relationship that's why he ignores you in public. Obviously you're hurt. Try doing the same thing to him to let him know how you feel. If he sees nothing wrong in that then he probably don't care about you as much. If that the case then you should just leave him. But good luck!
2007-10-13 12:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by KN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I want to give you a hug. I am sorry about your Grandpa. I will pray for him.
The guy you have been seeing doesn't really sound like he is the one for you. It sounds like he doesn't know what he really wants. I believe is someone is in love, that they would want to be near them and I know they wouldn't ignore them. He probably doesn't know what to do with your sadness about your Grandfather. Most guys do not know. They are uncomfortable with things like that. We all are, but guys are different in how they react.
To me it is disrespectful to call someone late at night. I would sit down with him and tell him how you feel. If he cannot pay attention to you in school, you should dump him. It sounds like he doesn't want anyone to know you two are dating.
He is giving you mixed signals. That is not a good sign.
I say, end the relationship with him. When you like someone new, become friends first with them and slowly get to know them before you decide to date. That way you will have more time to get to know them/him. You will know if he has qualities you are looking for in a guy. Never start a physical relationship with someone, especially if you just started to date. When you do, emotions get in the way and you don't get to really know each other. There is so much more in a relationship than the physical part. Don't let anyone try to say they will leave you if you don't. If they do, say don't let the door hit you on the way out. Be strong. God will send you the right person when the time is right.
I will be 40 next week and my boyfriend and I were friends for 2 years before we started to date. We have been dating almost a year now and we still refrain from the physical part of the relationship. It is so much better that way and I know that I love my boyfriend with all my heart. I have gotten to know the real him and I don't mind the little things that get in the way of most relationships. He is so generous and kind and careing and true. He does has faults, just like me. Be patient and you will have the right person when God is ready for you to be in a true relationship. In the meantime, just condsider everyone as friends. You can never have to many. God Bless you.
2007-10-13 19:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not love, and clearly he is not yet mature enough to have a relationship.
Break up with him. Rely on your friends for comfort when you are hurting, because guys will be coming in and out of your life for a long time, but your friends will always be there.
2007-10-13 19:11:41 · answer #3 · answered by Been here before 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him. a guy that can sit there and watch you cry and not comfort you is not worth your time. if he really did care about you and love you than he would be there for you and he wouldn't ignore you in school. if hes not proud to be with you than leave em.
2007-10-13 19:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by dubahyew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think that he is really in to you because if he was he would be showing more interest in you no matter what and who's around then the i luv you part is him just trying to act as if he cares but he really don't try to sit down and have a talk with him about it if he aint willing to do that then he aint worth your time
2007-10-13 19:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by booda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Considered he uses you for... sex?
May be a bit blunt but alot of guys do that.
He could also just be scared of his feelings for you but if he has admitted he loves you which you said he did, that isnt a valid reason really.
2007-10-13 19:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by Kayla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for starters if he cant even talk to you or comfort you in front of his friends he doesnt love you and if his excusse is his friends he needs to get real. You dont need him and you could do better...... he doesnt deserve you, you are too good for him!!.... just think about it, you dont want to marry a guy like that it could get worse or he could treat your kids that way!!!who wants that???? not me!
GET RID OF HIM!!!!!!!
2007-10-13 19:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by Sexy Cowgirl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a jerk to put it nicely. He doesn't love you, he doesn't care about you, and he's afraid to be connected with you in any way. Drop him and don't look back. You can do better.
2007-10-13 19:12:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is he popular and u not?? if thats the casethenn he doesnt wanna be seen with u.. u shud talk to him ask him watsup.. and is he embarrased to be seen withu... if he hesitates or says ye or tries to cover up then dump him.. tell hiim that if u cant talk to him in skool then wat kind of bf is that.. hope i helped and good luck=]] he prolly doesnt deserve u anyway...
2007-10-13 19:17:50 · answer #9 · answered by borabora_ hearts_u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN the the other way no good if hes not going to help you when you need him just RUN..he dose not love you SORRY>
2007-10-13 19:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by rpetch007 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋