my bf broke up with me yestrday mornin.we went out for 1 mo. he broke up with me on r anivrsry! he calld so we could talk lata & i askd y & he said that we startd goin out 2 soon after him & his ex broke up. he said that he thought that he could just jump into a new relationship right away but he couldnt & hes still hurt from his ex. wen i askd if he thot of this b4 now b/c we were completely in love & fine yestrday he said no it popped into his head b4 he calld me the night b4 & made him sick b/c he didnt want to break up with me but he "had" to/ a friend askd him about it he almost startd cryin & told her what he told me & said that he stil loves me. wen i askd him if he thought we would b 2gthr dwn the road he said "its hrd 2 tell right now". his frends wer shokd & wer givin me hugs b/c thy dont no y he did bc he was tellin thm day b4 how much he lovd me & how amazin i was. his prnts said we couldnt c eachothr if his grades dropd & we got progrs reports that day. input please? im 17
2007-10-13 11:16:56 · 21 answers · asked by cadence23 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Boys are easily confused, and don't know what they want. Maybe he's in love with you, but he doesn't want to deal with what that commitment might mean -- marriage, kids, a real job, house in the suburbs. Part of him is in love with you, but the other part wants to stay a kid, and play around some more before he gets serious.
Respect the side that says "Time to let go." Be nice to him, and even be friends with him, and you might find that some day, down the road, you two will get together again.
But you can do better than a guy who is going to drop a girl on their anniversary!! Maybe when he's older, he won't be so insensitive, but for now, you should let him go.
Give yourself some time to feel sad and mourn. Then go out there and find someone who will treat you like a queen! You've got at least 23 years left to find someone who will be forever!!
2007-10-13 11:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by Madame M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't just go away just because a break up happens. Sometimes things don't work out, or it's not the right time. IF he's still hung up over his ex, then u shouldn't want him to be with u. AT times, love just isn't enough to conquer all. What he needed was space, and as soon as he realized this, he let u go. But that dosen't mean the love will follow immediately. Maybe u guys will get back together when all the mess is out of his heart and he can be totally urs. That's where the saying comes from, if u love someone, let 'em go.
2007-10-13 11:22:51 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know that you can be in love with someone in that situation or if you just have strong feelings, possibly due to hormones, about him. Spend some time apart. He might just need to get back on his own two feet. You might feel like the world is over and be very sad and that's okay but you're still a teenager and have lots yet to do with your life.
Also, it is very difficult to read that when you don't spell correctly. It doesn't really help you look mature enough to be in a relationship. If you're going to ask mature questions then be mature about it. Judging by what you said, this is just a high school relationship and while it might seem the end all be all now, it's not and you can move on if it ends up like that. Give him his space for now.
2007-10-13 11:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by Rockit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's really sad, I'm sorry about the whole situation.
I personally think that his parents made him break up with you. cause he seems sooo upset about it. But its kind of weird that he would actually listen to his parents. And his response to you when he said that "its hard to tell right now" about if you guys will ever be together again in the future, his response was very surprising. But if you really love him and you think that returns the feelings then you should take a break from all relationships for now and try being single.
Good Luck!
=D
2007-10-13 11:33:21 · answer #4 · answered by Reese 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex and I dated for 4 years. After we broke up, I started dating his cousin. Of course, I looked like a total *****. But it was worth it. We are engaged to be married now. Just be sure you actually like his friend and let some time pass before making any moves. Also, dont hide it from your ex. Put everything out in the open.
2016-05-22 06:42:28 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, when it comes right down to it... he dumped you, so he can't want to be with you and the sooner you move on the better. Sorry!
I think he might care a lot or 'love' you as a friend but just knows he doesn't want to be with you. He may have a million reasons, maybe he misses his ex and hopes they will get back together, maybe he is interested in someone else, maybe he was told he isn't allowed to see you.... the important thing is, if he 'loved' you he wouldn't break up with you.... so it is over ((HUGS))
God, i sure don't miss being 17.... trust me on this one, when you really LOVE someone, and they love you back, it is simple. It doesn't hurt, it isn't complicated.
Best wishes!
2007-10-13 11:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by megviolet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It might be he's full of crap. He might remember times, where he feel for this ex and doesn't want to come rite out and says. he still likes his ex and used you as a rebound. It'd be best if you went on and found out what someone else you can be happy with. Don't stay with somebody who can't figure there feelings out. I'm sure once you leave, and he is alone he can figure his feelings out without any distractions. It's hard to hear but it's the most truth i can found out of what you've told me.
2007-10-13 11:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by mustard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that you are hurting right now. Give it some time for things to settle down, if he likes you and other friends say the same thing it will work it self out. Hang in there, breakup is a hard thing to do...
2007-10-13 11:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He had his fun now he wants to run and find another to play with.Don't let his fancy words get to you they say what you want to hear.Love to him is just a way to get what he wants.To him love is just a word If he truly loved you he wouldn't walk out on you.Forget him and find some one that knows what love is.And sides your even to young to know what true love is.So for get them thoughts and think about school and where your going in life.
2007-10-13 13:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the reports dont worry about him not loving you u neednt have written such a long paragraph u shud have put
Me - relationship- parents- Reports- No relationship
my parents once told me thewy wud stop me seeing my gf if i got a bad report card i got a bad report card threw it in their face and went out with my gf anyway . To be honest your bf needs to get a backbone and tell his parents where to go if they dont like him seeing you
2007-10-13 11:23:25 · answer #10 · answered by '' The Second Coming '' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋