...and I would like some advice on things not to mention in his presence. I just want to make sure I don't disrespect him or his religion in any way. Also if anyone can give me a quick basic tutorial that would be awesome to. And if you are going to be rude don't bother answering. SERIOUS ANSWERS ONLY!!!
2007-10-13 11:03:17 · 16 answers · asked by Landra 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Protik Larissa Jb1234 Thanx for the good advice u guys are awesome!!!
2007-10-13 11:13:14 · update #1
Honestly, tell him what you just told us. If he loves you he will help you. Read the Bible, and ask for help understanding, then, in return, have him do the same so that there are no misconceptions. God Bless you in your future together.
2007-10-13 11:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
Oh Dear…
You wont hear enough of those whom do not have the faintest idea about Islam…
So brace yourself,,,,
Embracing Islam truly means, unlike what some would say, that you recognise Jesus Christ to what he really is; a dignified, kind and compassionate prophet of God and a spirit from him, sent to help save humanity indeed. This is the Islamic view of Jesus Christ. Unlike Jews, we do not question his authenticity or the massage he came with. In fact Mohammed (pbuh) instructed us to believe in all prophets of God with no discrimination.
Now for the social part…
Not all Moslems are true to their beliefs. However, if you had the chance to be with a faithful Moslem that is well acquainted with his religion; then he might show you the better way to understand the universe, and to see how by love, companionship and understanding you can have a better and clearer view to life.
Take care…
2007-10-13 13:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by NONAME 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have dated Muslim men and I learned quite a bit about Islam and Arabic culture from them. There are some basic differences in dating a Muslim man. First, if he is a true Muslim, he is not allowed to be in the presence of any woman, except for a relative, unless they are accompanied by a chaparone. That means that you are not allowed to be alone with him. No sex (that should be obvious).
If he decides to date you anyway, there are dietary restrictions that are well known. No alcohol. No pork - foods that do contain pork are not hallal (allowed). He likely won't even eat in a place that cooks pork because it may touch the other foods. (Although Muslims get a pass if they are not aware of the presence of pork, most really try to avoid it at all costs).
Muslims believe in God. They call him Allah. They believe that Jesus Christ was a prophet like Mohammed. They do not believe in the Trinity (because there is only one God and his name is Allah). Most Muslims that I have met know more about Christianity than we know about Islam (and in many cases more about Christianity too). Most have read the Bible and very few of us have read the Quran. Most do not hate Christians or their beliefs - they think Christians are confused. They believe that Christians will be punished if they do not convert to Islam (they can't get into heaven) but they do not proslytize (try to convert you). They are not allowed to participate in Christian religious ceremonies. Crosses are Christian symbols, but no Muslim man ever said anything about me wearing one. Muslim men are not allowed to wear gold. They can wear silver, but not gold. Woman can wear gold.
They pray, facing the east, four times a day. They prefer to pray (with men only) in a masjid (arabic for mosque), but will pray almost anywhere prayer is allowed. (You can't pray in the bathroom or in a dump, for example; it's disrespectful of Allah). Every Muslim endeavors to visit Mecca at least one in his/her lifetime. There are distinct rituals associated with washing before prayers that I won't go into. Muslim burial practices differ from the way we do it in the US too.
Basically, if you treat him with respect, things should be fine. Even if you do something that isn't "kosher", he likely won't be offended because he knows that you didn't offend on purpose - you just didn't know better!
2007-10-13 11:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have many muslim friends, none of them got ever upset of anything I said. Just don't look down on him, nobody likes to hear that his religion is not as good as yours (I don't know if you are that kind of person, but thought I should mention). Treat it with respect, and if you are curious and want to find out about it, I'm sure he will like to tell you more :-)
Oh and, don't listen to all those negative feedbacks, like you shouldn't date a muslim. If you like him, that's all that matters. The stories about muslim man having all the power in a family are correct in some regions of the earth (such as iraq) but in most muslim countries, man controlling all is just history
2007-10-13 11:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by larissa 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Don't take some of these clowns seriously.
I think you should find out WHICH rules he actually follows... some Muslims tend to favour the teachings of some scholars more than those of others, so some things may be different to what appears to be conventional.
Just make sure you don't push him to drink alcohol, have sex (unless of course he wants to), eat pork, etc. etc.
The best advice you're gonna get about this stuff is from your boyfriend/dating...person.
2007-10-13 11:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by Sayeed A 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ms Tricky, remember one thing You are a reborn person, He isn't then go with him but let him know who you are, and that might not go well with some things. The Muslims don't believe in Jesus, you know that? Be careful in all your ways and take care! Have a good weekend! Jimmy.
2007-10-13 11:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jimmy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, you are not a Christian, you are a churchgoer. There is a difference. You have obviously never read the bible cover-to-cover, or didn't understand it if you did. Read II John 1:9&10. If you are truly Christian and understand this verse you will not have a muslim boyfriend, or any muslim friend. The quran teaches them that they cannot be friends with non-muslims, the Bible teaches us the same. If he tells you otherwise he is lying and only wants to use you. Believe me, I have practised Islam and read the quran cover to cover, so I know it is there. If you don't take this advice and a marriage should ensue, than make him support you, as muslim men are to support their wives. They are to buy their food, clothes and provide shelter. Most muslim men want western wives because they do not know this, and they can get over on them. I hope you don't make a move until reading your book and getting to know it first, because believe me, he will come at you with a lot of stuff that he will tell you is in the bible, that either isn't there or you won't understand.
2007-10-13 11:27:02 · answer #7 · answered by Capri 1230 3 · 0⤊ 5⤋
Sister, Muslims are really ordinary people. Their emotions are pretty much the same as everyone elses'.
It really depends on how moderate and open-minded this person is. Since he is allowing you to date him, he'd probably not be offended as easily as you think.
I would suggest actions more than words, like don't drink alcohol or smoke (unless he does) in his presence. Try to eat food that does not have any pig products in it.
I hope he respects that and is nice to you as you are to him. Good luck!
Peace.
2007-10-13 11:12:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Hi i just wanted to say from my heart that my advice to you is that if you are not a muslim and do not plan to convert your life will probably not be as fullfilling as it would be if you did convert. Speaking from experience i can say if you do not TRULY believe in this religion you should think twice and please do not bring children into this world believe me its a total different life you will live if you chose to "NOT" convert. my thoughts and prayers go out to you sweetie :)
2007-10-13 12:13:12 · answer #9 · answered by Jasmine A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First Faithful muslims are not allowed to kiss and have sex out of marrige , so if you are sleeping with him and that that mean he is not a real muslim, but if he don't that mean he is a real muslim.. it would be normal there is nothing wrong with it..
but you can't move in with him even if you are you can't sleep with him in same bed and being nude infront each other ... until you get married
2007-10-13 11:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by Devil Of the Spades 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, if you are a Christian you shouldn't be dating a Muslim. They are totally against what you believe. You would never be able to have peace with him. It would be a constant struggle if you got married. You don't want to get into that. I also heard they force their women to do stuff or something like that and the women have to do what they say. It would be torturous for you. DON'T get into that!!!!!
Good answer Bob L. That is exactly what I was looking to say.
2007-10-13 11:08:37 · answer #11 · answered by ~Living4HIM~ 4 · 4⤊ 4⤋